Marriage called off!!

Started my career in IT in 2016. Moved back in Gulf country for better opportunities 3 year back post lockdown. Met this girl over shaadi.com(my search for perfect girl was over after 2.5 years over this app). The girl was from nearby my hometown, working in IT. She recently came out with relationship, had 20L home loan and was taking care of her sibling education expenses. I was okay with loan and convinced my family for same.

There’s no dowry demand from our family. They tried to give few things which is formality, my family explicitly declined. We met once for 3 days and talked over call for 2-3 months, both family visited each other and we both were done with engagement.

It’s been 2-3 months, we met in person again. Got to know her ex still message her. She only told me and there was one more person from whom she used to get messages. She abused her in very bad tone over call. I was taken aback and I ignored. Last week, one of his school friends visited her place and stayed with her and family for 2-3 days. He cooked food; she and her family liked him a lot. She met him after 15 years as per her.

Meanwhile, I took a break from job while switching to other. She told me about her past and I always liked the transparency but this time I confronted that I can’t be this cool given we’re getting married. She shouted over call that I am questioning her character and don’t believe her given her father was also there when close friend visited home.

Last week, she bought one household stuff worth 2L over loan. Now loan is 22L. This time I talked again in detail as this doesn’t sound good financially. While this is happening, I moved to new country, hunting flat, fighting loneliness, struggling in new job. I was expecting emotional support. I forgot to mention I got best lake facing apartment and was ready for best life experience with my partner.

Yday morning, my father got a call from her family that I am torturing her, stopping her to support her family and I’m not motivated enough in my job. I called her to check when my father called me. She told me that none of my family members have manners to talk so she decided to call it off.

To be honest, I’m feeling very disgusted and unlucky. And yes this is my side of story. I’m hoping I’ll come out from this and will live a good life. Peace.