Hi Guys, I'm an SDE and I have this weird problem where I stress too much when some work is given to me which I don't understand.
Basically I'm not scared of high workload, as long as I know how to do it. Because then I know IT WILL BE DONE, I just have to work to finish it.
But when I get stuck on a problem, I DONT KNOW IF IT WILL BE DONE, I just keep thinking about it even if I close my laptop. The more I think, the more scary the problem becomes and then I start thinking if it continues and I'm not able to deliver more work, I might get fired and then during background verification for the next company, they will see I was fired and then no one will hire me. Basically my thoughts spiral out of control and make my life miserable to the point where I don't feel hungry.
If I'm confident I'm very confident, I feel like i can do any problem but when I see myself failing multiple times, i lose my mental strength
I need help and I want to improve this nature, not get stressed when things go south. Do you guys feel the same or know how to handle it
Any books or words of wisdom or thought process that you follow which helps you deal with job related work stress will be extremely helpful.
It's natural for humans to feel anxious about uncertainty.
Thanks man, I think the majority of problems happen when people ask for estimates, I'm like how the hell am I supposed to estimate ETA for something which I don't know. Then again my parents say that the lord doesn't give you anything you can't handle. I have heard it many times, its about time i start believing it
Yes that usually happens and is something that TPMs / EMs do these days. You basically need to give and ETA for an ETA in this case. Tell them that ull need to explore and that ull come up with a plan in say 2 or 3 days. Then ull get enough time to give a thoughtful ETA and also be less anxious in the process
Happens to all of us. When you have low system context or haven't solved completely new complex problems, you will feel anxious.
Think about the system and the requirements upfront. Ask as many clarifications as needed to everyone involved.
Outline what you're going to do and get it validated. If possible, do a small POC to check feasibility.
These steps would help most of the time.
No tips for anxiety though, I haven't solved that yet :/
Yeh toh mere wala scene hai.
Try Naamjap or chanting some holy matra. That will relieve all your stress.
I have been chanting lord shiva's mantra and I try to control my breathing. I realize that during anxiety the heartbeat skyrockets, reducing the heartbeat gives some relief at least.
Anxiety is more common than we think. You’re not alone. There are few things about anxiety that if you learn once, will help regardless of what has triggered it.
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