Relationship and marriage is totally different thing. Family denies for marriage but no good people say they kill themselves. I have seen this kind of people and better to stay away coz they can accuse you of harrasment after marriage and things can go wrong.
You may ignore this red flag coz love is blind but the court case is a real thing. Thoroughly check the background of your partner before getting married even if you are in relationship. Consult therapist, lawyer before you take any decision.
You can get through the job issue. But dealing with stupid in-laws for the rest of your life is like hell. Thik practically and take wise decision.