GigglyKoala
GigglyKoala

Stuck thinking about her for over 10 years now. What should I do?

Guys, I've been thinking about the same girl every day for the past ten years. Like, seriously every single day. Been through four different relationships, I've had this guilt inside me because I wasn't with the girl I truly wanted. When I first saw her, it felt like time stopped, I can still see her face clearly even after all these years.

We still chat but haven't met in person for four years. We never dated, just childhood friends with mutual feelings back then. Recently, we both got out of relationships, but her breakup hit her harder. Trying to be a good friend, I've kept my feelings inside, especially during her tough times. Reconnecting with her now feels really scary because I'm scared I might confess out my feelings.

She's made it clear that she’s not looking for a new relationship right now, but I'm worried she'll find someone else before I get the guts to tell her how I feel. She’s still the same awesome person I knew, and I think we're even more compatible now. I've tried to distance myself from her before, but it just made my feelings grow stronger. I’m stuck in this loop. If I tell her, I might lose her as a friend, but if I don't, I'll carry this burden forever.

Should I risk it and tell her how I feel or just try to move on?

23d ago
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BouncyTaco
BouncyTaco

Tell her how you feel. That way you won't regret it in the future. Try to be open to the possibility that her response may be either way.

PeppyPenguin
PeppyPenguin

I don’t believe so. This is a very strong friend zone and she will feel betrayes

JazzyKoala
JazzyKoala

If you are so besotted with her. Go ahead. Don't have regrets later on. If she wants to move on upon your confession, she isn't meant for you.

FloatingJellybean
FloatingJellybean

None of those. Just focus more on not becoming a simp.

SquishyQuokka
SquishyQuokka

Lose friendship or lose love. Your choice man

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