Do Client and managers both have authority to harass their team members?

Frontend Engineer

Software Engineer

Corporate Strategist

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आज मेरे मैनेजर और उसके चमचे दोनों रेले दिये गये, मेरे टीम और लीड के द्वारा (we never create any toxic environment always ready to fight)

आज मेरे मैनेजर और उसके चमचे दोनों रेले दिये गये, मेरे टीम और लीड के द्वारा (we never create any toxic environment always ready to fight)- Grapevine

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For context: Weekends are off. So just fri WFH. This is a Series B startup. I am not even asking for a leave but WFH for just 1 day. I joined recently. The only thing I did wrong was possibly informing a little too late.

Want to get opinion if I am overthinking or this classifies as toxic culture in startups where you are expected to push limits above and beyond regularly and sometimes weekends.

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Is this toxic work culture or I am overthinking

Not a great culture, also you don’t have to give the actual reason, instead say due to some unavoidable work or family health reason you will need to wfh. Its a good way of seeing what kind of employer one is, when they also treat urgencies like that. Indians feel they need to give a detailed explanation as to why they deserve wfh or leave, whereas in international companies, you just have to inform the manager.

Senior Designer

Growth Manager

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

How did your personal life affect your professional life ? Share your positive/ negative experiences.

A lot. 
 Sister suffers severe psychological ssues. 
 Has been known since 4 years. Can't leave her alone. Trying to get her up on her feet has been a challenge since such people are not that socially acceptable. 
 We've had to juggle cities just so that someone is there to tend to her.  
 It drains the life out of your life. 
 Such things definitely affect professional life as you can't give 100% to your work when your mentally stuck at your home.

Software Developer

Product Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

One hack I know is that sending emails after working hours (like 8), considered as "Banda raat bhar kaam krta hai".

Please share yours!

Hacks to show your work to manager and teams(even if you are not working)

Software Test - QA

Can someone share what's going on inside unacademy. What new products are they launching. How good is the traction and runway

Unacademy

Business Development Manager

Recently got promoted- putting together a list of what makes a team great or not. Kick-off based on my last team:

Love- super chill team, real MVPs, no credit stealing 🏆
Hate- the manager never appreciated anyone, ugh 😮‍💨

Love/hate about your team or manager?

Read here that the culture is not so good at unacademy. My current job is amazing but I'm interested in switching just because I can. 
Is unacademy worth giving a shot?

Got an offer from unacademy

Analyst

Product Marketing Manager

Work environments

Can you think of a better name for this kind of toxicity?

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I have been working in HSBC GSC HYD for more than a year and as this journey comes to an end now, I would like to share my experience with you all. 
The first thing that comes in our mind while joining any new company is about their workplace environment and their HR policies. 

There have been quite a few incidents that happened during the last one year which I neglected thinking "Isn't this what corporate life feels like?" I neglected everything to the point where it became unbearable for me and made me go through some serious mental health issues and panic attacks. 

The most recent incident that I would like to share with you all is when I was ethnically humiliated by one of my colleague.

The incident happened on 22 April 2024 when I was subjected to ethnically insensitive remarks by my colleague AA. The exacts words which was used by him is 'EK CHAMAAT MAARENGE, BIHAR PAHUCH JAOGI' which exactly means - I will slap you so hard, you will go back to Bihar. 

I did follow the protocol and informed my manager AT about the whole incident but nothing came out of it, except for a team meeting where I was told that my colleague did not physically assault me, it was just a hatred comment which I can let go of. 

I reached out to the concerned HR team and filed a POSH Complaint for the same, after weeks of the incident, on 3 May, I received an email from the HR team to give feedback for the same without any updates on what action was taken. 

I did let go of everything thinking that anyways I will be leaving the office soon as I am currently in my notice period when another incident happened. 

I was on a smoke break when VKR, AMO from the UK CDD team approached me and made objectifying remarks on me. The comment he made was 'Tmhare jaisi ladki hum aaj tk ni dekhe hai, akele pura UK team ka naam kharab kr k rkhi hai.' which means - He has never seen a girl like me, I have ruined the name of their team. I did ask him the reason for saying such things to which he replied 'tmhare alawa kisi UK team ki ladki ko hm ni dkhe hai cigarette pite huye' which means - he has never seen any girl from the UK team smoking cigarettes. Later while going back inside the office, I saw him eating tobacco and spitting on the wall inside the office premises. 

My LWD is 13 June 2024 and I hope this post reaches to everyone who are currently working in HSBC and to the people who are planning on joining HSBC GSC HYD before I leave. 

Source: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/nitika-kumari-10996b182_workplacewellness-positiveworkculture-employeewellbeing-activity-7202948416249753601-P9mK?

Workplace Toxicity at HSBC

Good that she reported it. Such things are shrugged as usual banter, though people don't understand how deeply they can affect someone's mental health

Consultant

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Micromanager bosses are like overly attached parents who decide your diet, tell you what to eat and when and also give you instructions on how to chew. 
But it also has its BIG wins:
- You will never be alone.  You’ll never feel lonely. Your micromanager will be your constant shadow. Going to the meeting - he will be there. Writing an email, he will be in cc. Going the restroom - he is behind you. Having a date - he will stay on the call. Getting cozy with someone - He is right there.. in between you and ahem ahem. Thinking what to do next - He will be there in your thoughts, even before the thought of "I think" hit you.
- No more decision making. Who needs to make decisions when every choice is made for you? Whether it’s the font size on your presentation, angle of your desk chair, your hair color, your last name, your baby's name, your heart rate, your BP, your death time - your micromanager’s got it covered.
- You get free cardiovascular workout (Dhuk Dhuk.. lubdub lubdub.. you get the hint)
- You will be one of those few who will experience the joy of meetings about meetings for those meetings that were not required
- You will be trained to live in real-time surveillance conditions, where all your activity and movements is monitored and what you say is captured - you could be a contestant tomorrow on BIG BOSS OTT if you like
- You would be the elite few who will get to experience New, follow-up emails, reminders, and gentle nudges tags on an email all within 5 minutes of each other
- By the time you leave, you’ll have a black belt in stress management
- By the time you leave, you would have lost weight
- You will see increased commitment to work: You will sleep less, You will turn up to office on time, will work more and for extended hours
- You'll save money - no weekends = no social activities and outings
- With constant micromanagement, you’ll soon wonder "who are you" "why are you" "why are we" "why is everything" - first step of higher level consciousness

Micromanagers are good for you

Adding a few more:  
  
 - You become a pro at dealing with panic and anxiety attacks  
 - You become aware about the nightmares, and realize the importance of sleep in your life

Marketing Manager

Human Resource

Toxic partner, toxic manager, toxic senior.
BUT I LOVE MY COMPANY AND WORK PROFILE. 
What should be done?

TOXIC TEAM

Fights on GV are insane

Hello Grapeviners.

So I was put into Focus (coaching plan, pre-PIP) at Amazon. After the focus period ended I was given two options
Leave with severance
Go into PIP 

I chose to leave. So I am currently serving notice period. My manager is trying to get some unfinished work done from me. I don't want to finish it. There are multiple reasons for it. Finishing this task will benefit him more than me.I am already stressed about looking for my next job

Here's the question:
My manager says that I can provide his reference to my next recruiter/hiring manager and he will provide good feedback about me. (He said this so that I feel indebted to him and finish whatever task that he assigns me)

Do hiring managers/recruiters reach out to your previous manager? Can they reach out to your previous team members instead?

 My teammates have seen me working on the frontlines and know everything about me from my work ethic to my abilities. They can vouch for me way better than my manaher ever could. My manager always underestimated me severely. He put me into focus all because of his blindedness (this came from my teammate not me)

I dont care about burning bridges with my manager because he was toxic af. Just wanted to know if recruiters will reach out to him or not? And can I instead provide a reference to my teammates

Advice needed

What is the most toxic thing u encountered at work?

Product Designer

There are managers who are paid close to a Crore Rupees a year for doing this.

Scene: Our team is working on it. We’ll get back to you.
Reality: I have no idea about what the issue is. I’m completely dependent on my team.

Scene: I have a hard stop now. Have to drop off.
Reality: I don’t care about the ongoing meeting. My “passive” attendance in some other meeting is more important than the ongoing meeting.

Scene: +team FYI 
Reality: Not my responsibility. Team must take a look.

Scene: Do you have some bandwidth?
Reality: If you say no, I will use this against you during appraisal.

Scene: Feel free to give feedback about leadership. Your opinion is important for continuous improvement.
Reality: Negative feedback should be worded with politically correct statements. Else be ready to face consequences.

Scene: The leadership team expects so-and-so from you.
Reality: I’m not capable of questioning the leadership team. I’m just passing the buck to you.

Scene: Can you prepare a deck by this day?
Reality: I want to show a rosy picture to my leaders. I will ‘use’ you to impress my leaders.

Scene: Who wants to work on this item?
Reality: I’ll judge employees who don’t volunteer.

Scene: I want you to complete this (bullshit work) by this weekend at any cost.
Reality: I want to save my ass in this job.

Scene: Do you have any blockers?
Reality: As if I’m capable of resolving them…lol

Scene: Taking a day off. Reachable on mobile.
Reality: Added the second statement to ‘show’ how important & flexible I am. I know you’ll not call me anyways.

Scene: Manager presenting something. Do you have any questions?
Reality: -silence-

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Have you ever encountered Managers like these?

Inefficient Managers

Software Architect

I have observed many freshers joining seniors during smoking break for “networking”. is this a common thing and does it help in getting promos?

I don’t smoke but will consider it if there’s a benefit for my career.

Do you feel the urge to join folks during smoking break?

Data Scientist

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Context - Since Deloitte does not get a lot of projects, they bend over their knees in front of clients and do each and everything like literally peon, clerk jobs too if client asks them to.

I was deployed at a client location 5 days a week and was not giving any specific work to do but was told "Jo client bole wo karna hai". Client was a 24 yr old kid earning 80% lesser than me. He used to hurl abuses in the office, on weekends and even behaved physically inappropriately at times. When I informed the manager, he was like " tumse client handle nahi hora".

Even after raising it to HR, no action was taken and manager also got promotion inspite of being the one aware about everything and not stepping up. I was given way below appraisal than industry and company average and have been pushed aside by the company.

Request help from the community to help me with any openings or jobs in product management role in your company for me to move out of this toxic environment

Mental harassment at Deloitte from clients

Operations Manager

Hey guys
Got Piped and laid off by my toxic manager giving bullshit reason. The manager was giving random excuses when i asked in details. Anyways toxic people will do toxic things only. On the top of that phonepe was giving PIP to reduce experienced people and was hiring junior engineers to reduce costs.

Finally got a job after few months of efforts. Not that great but I am feeling great to get out of that toxicity. I am feeling better since I left phonepe. When I call my friends back at phonepe, I see them casually mentioning there is too much work I will do on weekend, will sit at night. That's how overworking in normalized. I was also doing the same before and didn't think twice how much I am working.

I Will keep on preparing and would not leave my future in hands of my future or any manager from now on.

Got Laid off. Got a job. Fu** off Phonepe

Though it’s great you got rid-off toxic manager, I would suggest you to reflect back if there were any short comings on your side. If not, it can become a chapter for you to identify toxicity early. If yes, learn from mistake and never to repeat it again. Sometimes, we miss the opportunity to learn from experiences.

I strongly believe we need to do better!

Senior Software Engineer

It's been raining too incessantly since morning but my manager asked to come to my office strictly!😭😭😭

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