BouncyNugget
BouncyNugget

What am I doing wrong?

10 years of schooling, studying hard during festivals, sacrificing my playtime, my childhood for marks.. 2 years of high school - Completely cut-off from the world for a good college. 4 years of hard work for a job for a below average salary!!!

On the other hand: Some random chai wala earns in lakhs. Some MLM meme girl, living a luxurious lifestyle. Insensible people are valued in society. Even a 12th fail selling beer in his family shop lives a better life.

All the hard work I did is in vain? Whatever I did till this point of time was useless? What's the point of an endless struggle, if my destination has more struggle? Something is really wrong..

I have lost all my motivation 😞

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WigglyCupcake
WigglyCupcake

Would you be happy, satisfied and fulfilled by scamming people with MLM schemes? Would you respect yourself?

Would you be happy, satisfied and fulfilled by running a tea stall? Would you respect yourself?

Would you be happy, satisfied and fulfilled by dancing on reels? Would you respect yourself?

Scamming people is illegal, immoral and unethical. Running a Tea Stall is nothing to be looked down upon. It is honorable hard work, regardless of perceived status.

Dancing on Reels -> gaining followers -> being valued by society is nothing to be looked down upon. Creative pursuits, regardless of platform, are honourable hard work and deserve appreciation and respect.

There are people earning millions of dollars doing OF. It depends on the individual whether they are happy doing it or not. So please don't get demotivated. If you see yourself entertaining people by all means work hard on social media. If you see yourself in the food and beverage industry by all means work hard to get there.

But if you don't see yourself doing all of that and you see yourself doing what you're doing now or something similar but just earning much better, with a prestigious title tied to your name, and being valued and appreciated more by people, then just accept the fact that you've just begun to climb the mountain. Though it's a long and hard climb, it's worth the view.

Hard work never goes to waste. Work harder and smarter. You'll get where you want to. But decide where you want to go. Stop looking at people who are not even in the same race as you.
It's like cursing your destiny why am I not born at Ambani's place, it's if no use. Think and take action only about controllables and leave rest to God.

FloatingDumpling
FloatingDumpling

You are batman but I wish if were my life partner ❤️

CosmicNarwhal
CosmicNarwhal

Each word in this comment is true, but poor brain doesn't understand it.
Until you don't make it, you'll feel they're better. Once you make it, it will offset everything.
It's just a game of timing.

Source: Dealing with the same pain.

CosmicDumpling
CosmicDumpling

You are a good corporate professional making money in a respectable manner. This has come from you learning the right habits to become successful - working consistently hard.

Now we see that there are others making more money than you.

Zuckerburg once said - It takes the same amount of effort to build Facebook and a grocery store. Both the owners work 14 hours a day.

And there comes other factors of success - 1/ Luck - Getting into the right field at the right time. Techbros did that knowingly or unknowingly 2/ Vision - Yup, having your own conception of what is gonna make it big and compound. 3/ Risk appetite - taking the risk to try something out. 4/ Skills - Being actually in the top quartile of what you do. Not just an IITian but the top 5% of them. 5/ Habits of successful people - working hard. Being really driven even at 2 am at night (passion). You base mental health plays a big factor into this. 6/ Privilege - Makes doing all the above easier if you have the habits.

Most people only are able to do a few of these. The more you tick off the more the results.

CosmicDumpling
CosmicDumpling

Further on vision.

The chai wala is a good example of it - betting on a business with high demand. Influencers and gym trainers will find out that they can make lacs a month today but it's never going to scale. A corporate guy make even 20k /mo today has the opportunity take make Crs by the time they are 40.

Influencers are at the peak of their career when are are just 24. Sharp power law after it.

CosmicQuokka
CosmicQuokka

Grind Leetcode for better job or else start your own business don't crib.

WigglyRaccoon
WigglyRaccoon

Leetcoders don’t cry on platform, they are already grinding & winning outside.

PrancingBagel
PrancingBagel

That's harsh but true. Applies to me as well🥲. Though I'm doing decent in my career I often think why I'm not the top 5% talent. But people who are, are already grinding and winning and not just thinking. Thanks sir!

FluffyCupcake
FluffyCupcake

Ah, the biggest scam statement we learnt or made to learn is - “Only education can change your future”. No, that’s not true anymore.

At the same time, it’s your privilege that you got to study/learn during your growing years. Comparing it with someone else is another mistake.

Keep on working hard, you will find a way.

SnoozyPotato
SnoozyPotato

Bro you also start selling chai, do all the gimmicks that he does. Travel to Maldives.

If you enjoy all the above then just go do it.

If not, work hard try to be top tier or keep job hopping till you are working with the right set of people.

You are just looking at one chai wala, there are lakh af chai wala who are doing that for their survival and then for their comfort.

ZippyCupcake
ZippyCupcake

@Spiral_duck bro this is very underrated comment. There are millions of chai walas millions of developers not everyone reach pinnacle of success in their respective fields.

I won't give you ghyan or any tips you probably know what needs to do to get /do better. Just don't loose hope. Don't give up. Fight on!

ZippyCupcake
ZippyCupcake

It takes uncanny perseverance to reach at top in any field one who's that attitude will have fair chance others are not even in race.

MagicalNarwhal
MagicalNarwhal
TCS9mo

i do the bare minimum to keep the client happy and an external certification each year to bag a B without much effort. The true MINIMUM guy thriving in an ocean of mediocrity.

ZippyNoodle
ZippyNoodle

Its taking time for you because you are not manipulating people, selling your soul and fooling people. Be patient it will take time but it will be worth in the end

DancingMuffin
DancingMuffin

I think it's about the success ratio.

You can dance on videos or sell chai and hope to be one in a million people to be really famous. Obviously the chances are really slim.

OR

You can work on your hard skills and get a very high chance to a below average starting salary (which increases with experience).

FuzzyMuffin
FuzzyMuffin

Zindagi pasand nai hai toh kuch kar na.

Rota hi rahega kya ?

JumpyNugget
JumpyNugget

Worth what? Mental stress? Yes.

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