FuzzyMochi
FuzzyMochi

Would I ever find a love??

Need some advice from men specifically. I’m a 27 year old woman, and I’ve always got lot of attention because of my looks. While I get a lot of messages from guys, I often feel they’re more interested in my appearance than genuinely loving me. I’ve been cheated on in the past, and since then, trusting men has been really difficult. It’s been 8 months since my last relationship, and even though I’ve tried dating apps, I feel like most matches are just based on looks. How do I move forward? How do I rebuild trust and attract someone who truly values me for who I am?

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FuzzyMochi
FuzzyMochi

@NotJustAprettyFace if someone is genuinely interested in you regardless of a look, the biggest sign is he will not rush and slowly make a move. You will feel sense of patience and maturity while interacting with him. Hope this helps😊

WobblyPickle
WobblyPickle

This is the comments I was looking for. This is correct.

PrancingMuffin
PrancingMuffin

So so true. A man with intent will test the waters before making the move. Will never fall for superficial traits. He will assess your personality, intelligence, EQ, habits, lifestyle, etc

PrancingMochi
PrancingMochi

Most good guys ( obvio all virgins) I know are too scared to approach women.

WobblyPickle
WobblyPickle

Correct 🥲

PrancingMuffin
PrancingMuffin
  • they will never approach pretty girls assuming they are taken or have a concerning past 🫠
PrancingBanana
PrancingBanana

Stranger Strangers will always judge based on looks first, as that forms their first impression. However, within your friend circle, people usually value a person’s character more.

FuzzyMochi
FuzzyMochi

Bcz of my ex boyfriend I broke up with my friends , now i am all alone

PrancingBanana
PrancingBanana

Well ask an introvert about loneliness 😂. I’m 34 years old single and no friends . I’m now used to it I spend time playing video games and on weekends go to clubs alone . Sometimes I get scared thinking about future but that’s fine though

GigglyQuokka
GigglyQuokka

Suffering from success 🙏🏻

PrancingHamster
PrancingHamster
Student2mo

@NotJustAprettyFace I don't have enough context to be sure that this might help, but I hope at least some part of this does.

Rebuilding Trust in a partner is something I'm currently struggling with myself, so I won't comment on it.

Rather than trying to attract someone who'll actually value, you should be trying to understand what sort of a partner you'd want in a long term relationship (or even if that is your goal at all). After figuring out what sort of a partner you want, please change. This probably sounds unintuitive, stupid and dumb, but hear me out. You need to figure out what sort of a person your partner would want to spend their life with. Then try to become that person.

Hypothetical example: "Playboys" might look for "flirty" women who are not "reserved". If you want to Playboys then being this type of a person helps. If you want to attract caring, gentle, etc type of men, then please try to imagine what qualities would men like these look for in a woman when evaluating a life partner. They'll take their time to evaluate and scout out, what @OutOfRatRace said in their comment perfectly summarises this.

This is not some magical muska, this might just increase your chances at connecting with people you might want to. Also there is also the intimidation factor, attractive people are often very intimidating to approach, you might also want to do some scouting and initiate conversations sometimes on your own(if you don't do this that is). Also looking for partners outside your normal area of activity might help, while also focusing on fixing your trust issues might also be a good move.

Ultimately I have not said anything concrete, you have to understand a lot of things on your own, and I believe that one of the greatest joys in life is to understand yourself and grow as a person from that understanding of yourself.

Take care fellow human!

PrancingMuffin
PrancingMuffin

Perfect one!!

SwirlyPenguin
SwirlyPenguin

Well said and good understanding 👏

WigglyDumpling
WigglyDumpling

It's okay to be single for a while. Focus on yourself in terms of recovery from the relationship, like going to gym or improving your skills. Go out and meet people organically without relying on apps. Go ahead with people where you don't have to pretend and feel at home. Don't rush, trust your gut feelings. Women have stronger gut feelings than men. If your gut tells you not to go ahead, don't go.

SnoozyQuokka
SnoozyQuokka

I concur. Work on yourself.

QuirkyCupcake
QuirkyCupcake

So you don’t need attention? Hmu

FuzzyMochi
FuzzyMochi

Attention? Let me explain. When I go to the gym, out of 30 guys, 29 stare at me like they’re going to eat me. Their stares make me so uncomfortable that I stopped going. So, do you really think I’m looking for attention? Of course not.

SnoozyDumpling
SnoozyDumpling
TCS2mo

People whoever Direct messaging u all are interested in your looks. People whoever commenting in this post all are caring people.

PrancingMuffin
PrancingMuffin

Your username speaks about about you😏

PrancingRaccoon
PrancingRaccoon

@NotJustAprettyFace I understand how you're feeling. Finding true love in today's world is tough, especially after experiencing betrayal. I went through something similar when trust became difficult following the end of a relationship due to cheating.
But I believe that not everyone is the same, and with time, we can find people who truly value and respect us. The only thing I can suggest is take your time to understand the men.

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