My girlfriend (now wife) was working near KR Puram in bangalore and me, near electronics city. After crazy rains in the evening, she was freaked out to drive back in her car because there were trees fallen. I was on my bike. So went all the way from e-city to KR Puram, guided her on my bike to her place in Btm layout and went back to my house in Malleshwaram while it was pouring.  
  
 So, from south Bangalore to east and back to south and then to north.  
  
 But that was 2013 and the traffic was manageable.  
  
 I get belted now for not stepping out of the house to get groceries. 💁🏾‍♂️

This is such beautiful story! 
 Much love to both of you 🧡

Consultant

Product Manager

School one. 12the ke boards ki aur JEE ke result ki maa behen karwa li pyaar me andha hokar.

Software Developer

Was in a situationship with someone for over a year, realised I felt very strongly about her and we had good compatibility - asked her if she wanted to make it exclusive and build together 
  
 She choose another person over me, I made my peace with it and tried to move on (basically became a gym bro).  
  
 Every few months she comes back and texts me saying that I was the best thing in her life and that she wants to get serious and that her mom really wants us to get together. 
  
 At this point it’s become joke in my friend circle, cause she’ll come back and then decide she doesn’t want to make this work.

Yaar, aise situation me phasna toh break-up se zyaada bura hai🥹

Founder’s Office

Apparently not for me. I always knew she's the best and deserves the best. And my low self-esteem convinced me that I'm not good enough for her so I simply let her go and didn't do anything to make her stay.

Software Engineer

So, a person I know fell in love with the billionaire Nikhil Kamath...

Business Analyst

Sorry yaar 
 I was thinking, and then realised few things. So asked

Been there, used to stay in hotels on weekends just to hangout with her. And one day she breaks the news about going abroad, all my efforts just worthless. Even after that I tried to make her feel special like one last time she was "I never asked you to do this and that" . Now we hardly talk.

Met my ex when we were both 23 
  
 She was the first woman I was dating & for physical with; for her, she had lots of flings before me. The longest relationship she had before me was 6 months. She had a pattern of getting bored/moving on from guys quickly; i naively thought that our relationship was different.  
  
 She got bored within 6 months and dumped me within 9 months.  
  
 In hindsight I should've realised that she was not ready to commit to anyone

I realised later (after few years of relationship) that on many instances where I thought I am respecting her own time/space, I was getting two timed with someone else. 
  
 While I definitely won't stop giving time/space if and when I will get into the next relationship. 
  
 But I will have to certainly deal with the fear or thought of being two timed again.

This. 
 Even if you get the nicest, obsessed with you person, these trust issues won't go until very long 😥😥

Software Test - QA

Team Lead

Yeh pyaar wagaira se related question mat pucha karo aap…thoda uncomfortable feel hone lagta hai 🥲😭

Oh! I used to travel in the general compartment of the train for 20hrs to meet her, because I couldn't afford a better way to travel

Senior Software Engineer

Data engineer

I just want to be in blind love with my drms

Android Engineer

I used to be the kind of person who couldn't be at peace if something was wrong. Any small discomfort ,a fight or some issue with my ex,would consume my thoughts until the problem was resolved. My brain would stop functioning properly until I found a solution. I used to have a very bad day at work due to this.Later learnt to not worry or overthink.

Senior Associate

Met him a few months back, It was like a surprise that something good could ever happen to me, especially when it has always been a one sided love affair for me. We both had never been in a relationship before. He honestly had become my best friend and we would talk about everything,the most bitter pills too. I thought it would all workout find and started dating him. He ghosted me later. It's like, I don't even know what to believe anymore.

What all did you not see, and now years later come at you like "How could you be so dumb?"

What's your story of "I was blind in love"?

What's your story of "I was blind in love"?- Grapevine

What stupid things have you done or do in love, or when in a relationship?

We all carry scars from love - some visible, some hidden. Maybe it was your first heartbreak that changed how you view relationships. Maybe it was watching your parents' marriage fall apart. Or perhaps it was loving someone who couldn't love themselves.

I've been thinking a lot about how these experiences shape us, for better or worse. Sometimes they make us stronger, sometimes more guarded. I'm curious to hear your stories.

What experience with love left the deepest mark on you? How did it change the way you approach relationships or trust? Has time helped heal that wound, or do you still feel its effects today?

[Serious] What's the deepest wound love has left you with?

What was one Obsession that wasn't worth it?

Founder

It can be anything related to not doing something you always wanted to but never did, a mistake you realize you shouldn’t have made, or feelings of not being successful enough. Feel free to share your thoughts.

Do you have any regrets?

Failed to spend enough time with my parents. Life moves really fast. If you're around your parents take care of them, spend time with them and if you're away then make sure you visit them often ☮️

For me it has happened a lot and I am grateful for most of the times it has happened.

How many times has this happened to you?

I captured this moment on a street in Bangalore—a moment that felt like it belonged to another time. An elderly couple, standing together with their luggage, hands intertwined, as if they had traveled not just through cities, but through decades together. In that instant, I couldn’t help but reflect on how rare these kinds of connections are becoming in today’s world. We live in an era where dating apps and social media have turned relationships into transactions—quick, disposable, and often superficial. Casual flings, 'situationships,' and physical connections have become the norm. But where is all this taking us?

Are we chasing instant gratification at the cost of something deeper and more lasting?

We’ve all heard stories—people getting bored in relationships, not putting in the effort, or cheating when things get tough. There’s a growing culture of short-lived satisfaction, and it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking the next thrill. But what happens when all the thrills are gone? When, one day, you’re surrounded by people, but none of them truly know you or love you for who you are?

This couple —what do you think they’ve been through? Their love wasn’t built overnight. It’s weathered storms, celebrated joys, and shared countless moments, both big and small. That kind of love doesn’t just happen; it’s nurtured over time with effort, patience, and mutual understanding.

Maybe it's time we look back at how our parents and grandparents approached love. They didn’t swipe right and move on when things got hard. They built lives together, navigated challenges, and held on when the road got rough. They weren’t looking for something fleeting—they were looking for something lasting. Because in the end, when the rush of youth fades, and life slows down, wouldn’t you want someone who’s still there? Someone who will hold your hand, just like this couple —a love that has stood the test of time, effort, and life itself.

True love isn’t instant. It’s built over time. It’s a journey worth taking.

——-

PS: I’m building Havenn (https://www.havenn.co.in/) You should check it out!

The hands that hold through time!

I'll start - shifted cities, didn't work out, had to shift again xd

What is a stupid thing you've done in the name of love

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And all comments were nice - May God bless these parents, such strong parents raising a child, Life has been unfair and yet they fight etc etc

Though my first thought weren't these.
Guess I'm the only one going to hell here 🤐

If you didn’t understand, congratulations you aren't coming with me 😶

I saw a reel of blind parents with little kid

We've all had some embarassing moments that make us want to crawl into a hole. What's Your Most Embarrassing Moment That Still Keeps You Up at Night?

Name your "I Wish I Could Forget" moments

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Hey grapeviners, a data analyst this side (2 yoe). I aim to pivot into software engineering roles in the near future and that's what I do in my free time - prepare. I recently realized how much time I'll have on my hands if I start devoting my entire day to my studies and preparation - which includes building a project and studying advanced DSA. 
I can do this by resigning at my current job and then try to go all in on my "mission: domain change", and I definitely am okay to sit at home and put 3 months on this but nobody I discuss this with, advises me to quit my job for upskilling  (or cross-skilling in this case).
Most advice I get is to do this WITH my current job even if it takes longer to do so. I don't understand this - what will go so wrong if I resign and invest in myself?
I am well aware of the market situation rn for engineers and even understand that before you make these decisions, it is important to have a financial as well as mental runway. I am sorted on the financial runway part and for the mental runway - I think I'll enjoy the time off and having the liberty to architect my own day makes me drool already. I want to have the whole day to myself to learn backend, solve DSA questions, hit the gym, make meaningful and large chunks of progress daily. That's what I aspire to do post my notice period and I confidently believe in my abilities to do so, but I've been bogged down by all the advice I've got till now.
Am I stupid enough to believe in myself and think 3-4* months without a job is a boon for me in the long run than a bane? Am I stupid enough to believe that 3-4* months of working on myself will change me? Am I blind eyed by something or am I being plain delusional? 

I use 3-4 months coz that's what I think realistically will be enough for me to upskill, be interview ready and get a new job. And this time frame I've considered after a 2 month NP.

Thanks for reading if you've till now! 🙏
Any thoughts are welcome. Cheers!

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