Confused about getting married.

@SecondNarrative Are you married to give this shit advice?? @Welt_yang bro get married as soon as possible. You grow up emotionally and mentally once you are with someone. And yes there are many benefits of early marriage. Let me tell you : 1. You finally stop worrying about the marriage issue, which might come after 30s, if I will get any girl or not now and all. 2. ( if married now) you know ur partner very well before 30. Which is very important for creating bond. 3. Life is very less. Office colleagues and parties are shit things believe me, nothing is bond like thing there, everyone is with you for a reason there,so after a while it's all boring. But with your partner soon u will have a very cool bond and it takes time to create that bond. 4. Don't think of marrying any papa ki pari types girl, marry a girl which ur parents like, belive me they might not be that educated like you, but they will kow a good character girls and bad once with just a glance. 5. And finally don't listen to this shit people who advice not to get married soon, watch some interviews of anshuman Khurana (article 13 movie actor), he got married when he was 24, then they got kids soon then her wife got cancer but they fought hard and all is ok now, if you don't like my advice, listen his interview then you might feel something.

Dont get married because you are asked to. 27 is still young enough to be married. But then again there is no age for that. Since you are moving to Bangalore, try new experiences which you might have ever wanted to do. May be in 1-2 years you will be interested to marry. After marriage you cant back out

The funda is very simple, the longer you wait for marriage, the selection pool keeps getting smaller. Similar to the saying early bird gets the worm. This is true in this setting as well. Do what you have to with this information. Looking at the current scenario there's definitely a demand-supply mismatch in the marriage industry. Considering all these factors, mid 20s would be the ideal time to marry IMO.

Exactly... As a man you are only expected to sacrifice.. Having a partner is of no use and even they will be with as you can provide...

If you want to pay Alimony to the gold diggers then only think of marriage else your left hand is perfect to spend the rest of your life.

At any age, finally it boils down to your expectations and your rishtas expectations... And at times expectations grows as you age and starts to drop down after 35

Bud I'm from the best UG and MBA colleges in India. I have multiple friends who are 32-34 and from the same pedigree, earning in the top 0.25%ile, who have been looking out for >4 years for a suitable match, but they're so far unsuccessful. What we have collectively realised is that the kind of women we want as our partners - from equally great edu pedigree, ambitious, great careers, from the same value systems as us - they are off the market by their late twenties only (more than 80% get committed during MBA itself 🙈) Plus these kind of women view men who are unmarried and single well into their 30s as a red flag- and honestly can't blame them for thinking so. Those are my two cents from the other side of the thirties, do what you will with it 👴🏽

I believe one never gets “ready” to get married. When right person gets along, i think everything falls in place. If you feel and believe you are financially secure (mandatory for guys as family responsibilities come along), and are emotionally in a good place (means no past relationship baggage, no big family issues etc), you/your family can start searching for a suitable match (if arranged set up is preferred) as anyhow finding a “right” person easily takes more than a year. If you start searching when you are 29/30, i think its late and u get filtered folks. Go by your conscience.

I have a multiple friends who started looking at 29 and are still unmarried. While I was a proponent of late marriage, after 5 years of marriage I think 27 is the right age to start finding a partner. Because you won't know how long process will take. Don't pay heed to folks saying don't marry at all, that's just plain bullshit. It's like they wanna start a business and want it to be successful. There's nothing guaranteed in life. Ofcourse there's risk but you would take better decisions now vs 3 years later when you feel it's too late

My advice will be 'test the waters' . You will be eventually ready mentally and clear about your negotiables and deal breakers. Trust me, most of them don't know what they want. Its like ' The more you spend the time on pitch, the better you understand the conditions'. This will help you choose which shots to play and which to leave. So take your moms advice and start looking. But don't rush till you have enough clarity.

Just cannot give any advice here, but all the best brother, hope you find someone with whom you can get all the happiness in life 😀

On this note, I completely agree with you. I knew a guy from my office. We both worked at same office in Bangalore. Few years back his parents got him married to a girl from his hometown. She was a house wife. He had a good reputation back in his hometown. After his marriage, his in-laws and his wife pressurized him to buy a flat. So, he bought a flat in Bangalore on loan. Later he even bought a car on loan. Everything was going fine until the company laid off 800 employees. In this layoff, he lost his job. He was sitting in his house without job. He was jobless for almost 1 year. He faced lot of insults from his wife and in-laws. He was unable to pay the EMIs due to which the bank seized the car and auctioned it. His wife also left him, and started staying in her parents house. This whole story was narrated by him to me.

Don't just marry because your parents wants you to. Try to ask yourself what's good for you and if possible marry the person who will most importantly understand you and feel like you. After the marriage, you're only going to spend time with your spouse and your parents are not going to come in between (though they will eventually try to 😜). Also if the person you are going to marry is also working, then it will be of a great help in planning your future and keeping stresses at bay. Most of all, there should be love, respect, mutual understanding and support for each other (husband and wife) to keep it sailing🙂.

My advice is don't get married at all...

@Welt_yang had similiar situation 2 years back. My take was 27 is desireable age in Indian society system. Get to know, talk to girls as you have been out of social for long. And if things build up the right way, get married. This decision will evolve over time, so better start early. All the best

Go on a small vacation and think whether you are ready for marriage or not, marry now or later, both choices have pros and cons Would suggest for go for marriage

In this day and age; I think you are already late, if you don’t have a girlfriend or fiance. After this it is all lottery , it might work out or may not, your luck.

Why don't u start dating some college girl ? Given that you are earning and settled, you will get a good girl and maybe you can transform her the way you want your wife to be. Just saying, rest it depends on you.