Adulthood is something else

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Although most of us moved out as teens to pursue our degrees, during college, one is surrounded by friends all around, and it's hard for loneliness to hit except for those 1 AM Nights.
But as an early career working professional, for the 1st time in life, most start feeling lonely,
pick themselves up cook their meals, and maybe apply to new jobs because you hate your current job. 

The first thought over the weekends is to do the laundry and clean up the mess you made over there is no one for you to come back to, no matter how bad your day was, you still have to work on weekdays.

What I hate the most about this stage is the relationships and friendships, being away from parents,
surrounded by people in the office but can't open up to, maybe you are lucky and make friends in the office but still, not even getting the time to call them, and having multiple colleagues to hangout with but 
the day you switch jobs you will be leaving them behind, just like your high school friends were left behind 
when you moved to college, just like your college friends were left behind when you moved cities for a job.

You are aware and mature enough to know your mistakes and fuck-ups in the past but you are also chained in the shackles of habits you have made over the last 20 years. There is an opportunity cost to everything, do you sleep early on the weekend or party Friday night and end up being hungover on Saturday too, do you give your best to the job or start your master's prep?

It's like a world of illusions that lets you believe that something better is 10 steps away and does not let you sit still in the present.

Adulthood

Growth Manager

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Adulthood!

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And at work 
  
 + the endless chase for the mirage that is wlb 
 + if anything isn't per their expectation, its toxic

Sales Manager

By each passing year of my college, im learning the art of being alone and enjoying peace in solitude.
The situation and scenes are getting worse and worse, and i lose myself on a daily basis. Now, it has become a routine to find myself by dropping the last inch of patience, self-love, and understanding.

Adulting pushes you one step closer to independence.

Too many things to manage, too many expectations to live up to, too many decisions to make. After all what does it matter!!

Adulting is tough

Test Engineer

Adulting is going great! *sobs silently*

Intern

So I have been looking for projects in my company for around 2 months now.
I gave 4-5 interviews and got rejected in L1 interviews in all for one or the other reason.
Today, after so many days I got a chance to give client interview (happens after L1 interview...in case someone has no idea about it). It lasted 50 mins and I didn't perform well.
After feeling down for about an hour, I'm not feeling well.
I have observed myself that whenever I'm sad/down...I automatically gets better after few hours.
I should be feeling sad for loosing the chance that I got after 2 months but I'm like ....it's alright 🙃

Is this some sort of healing mechanism that my brain has created for me or I'm not sincere or serious about my life??

Is something wrong with me?

In a very chaotic place right now, moving to a new city, away from home for the first time, starting a LDR, nervously excited about the whole thing. 

Want to pick up new things. 
1. News: Shit at knowing what's happening around me. I know it's important but there's so much content everywhere. What few platforms will cover most of it? (PS: GV notifs sometimes do help with GK and starts good conversations :P) 

2. Books: Used to love them, trying to find my way back. Psychology, non fiction recommendations welcome  

3. Fitness: Gym jaana hai! Can show up consistently, just want a good environment, diet also needs work :/ 

4. Upskill: Marketer here. Don't feel like doing this most days, but aise nahi chalega, kaafi zyada hi chill kar lia 🥲

What more can I do?

1% better everyday

Digital Marketing

I have always dreamt of playing an electric guitar on stage. I started to learn guitar in late 2020 and it's been 1.5 years since I stopped playing it do to multiple reasons like bad time management, upskilling for switching, work etc.

I always wanted to work in companies not directed towards IT such as Mercedes Benz, Philips, Samsung,  Siemens, Ather etc and work in areas where UI/UX design overlaps with physical product design. Physical product design is my first love and will continue to be so as that field still fascinates me. Not everyone is privileged enough to pursue their passions and might have to work in certain areas where they are partially interested and pay is good coz, hey! We gotta pay bills.

I wanted to learn multiple languages and was learning German a couple of years ago. Again, due to the reasons listed above, I had to drop out. I want to travel abroad for work, work in multi cultural teams etc.

I always wanted to run marathons and reach the top of Nandi Hills (a hill on the outskirts of Bangalore) by cycling because I was once a obese kid and wanted to prove myself wrong. Now, I have to loose 13 kilos and I'm on working on it. But I sometimes wonder if I can do these things as I had so much to work on.

I was pretty good in sketching. In fact, I was pretty good once upon a time in my design school. Now, I barely sketch. I don't want to loose that part of me who use to sketch day and night. I want to have an Instagram page with all the digital illustrations I wanted to make.

We live in times where one has to consistently switch jobs, upskill everyday, spend time with family and friends (not that I don't want to, but I also love my personal time), take care of aging parents, take care of kids, take care of household, travel to work, get enough sleep for 6-7 hours a day- basically be an adult.

I sometimes wonder if life is nothing but a graveyard of dreams. I understand that one can't do everything in life and sacrifice is inevitable in life.

Folks who are 30 y/o and above, do you still have dreams or are following your dreams while responsibilities pile up in life?

Adulting is hard!!

Saturday and Sunday just went in a jiffy by attending to chores....

Friday nights don't excite me anymore. I couldn't play my pc games anymore😭

Everyone is busy!!! 

And definitely these dating apps are worse! Many racist for dusky guys....

Saving money just happens to standstill...

Nothing excites me anymore..

Any solutions??

Adulting is hard

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Post your mental health issues. Peeps with good knowledge / experience in the subject, please suggest some pawssible solutions.

Mental Health

“You should get married on time”

To the married folks, would it be different if you would have married later in life? From a personal or objective POV, what’s your take

32+ M here and not yet married.

“SHAADI waqt se ho jaana chahiye”

Got married at  26.  If i get  a time machine, will do it by 24.    There is a quote by ashneer, where he says, 30's are the most important time is building one's career and setting the foundation to make money. Distractions from family life/kids will kill both the careers and family. I think he made perfect sense.  

I think the older one gets, its difficult to have compatibility.  Too many external stimulus corrupts our view of the society. And more over everything has a purpose and we all come with a shelf life.  If chances of starting a family  is slim or nil, whats the point in getting married? one is better of single.

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Which part of adulting were you not ready for?

Seeing parents getting old and inactive 🥲

Category Manager

My overall education started a bit late than normal people due to my fathers transfers and school admission rules. Consequently when I applied for JEE Advanced back in 2017 i was 19.5 years old.  I got it but wasnt satisfied so dropped a year and got a better rank. I was 20.5 years old when I finally joined IIT. 
Somewhere subconciously throughout my college life i felt that I did achieve what I wanted to but really late. I know theres nothing I could do about it but this was something still killing me inside. Most of my batchmates where 18 year olds and even the ones who dropped where at most 19. 

I always wanted to pursue my masters and phd but somewhere at the back of my mind I feel I would have to go theough the same feelings again. It just kills me so much inside. 

Currently I have completed 2 years as a software engineer and I am 26 years old. 
On one part my mind tells me that I am made for much more than just an IT job and should go to academia. On the other hand it feels like I am too old for it. 

I dont know what to do. I am not able to rationalize my thoughts. I am not able to understand how can I bring myself to overcome my fears and achieve what i really want in life.

A subconcious insecurity

This quote I read - you will get old irrespective of your masters and PHD degrees too.
Might as well be old with them.

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