Am I overthinking?
I work in remote based startup of Bangalore. And I live with my wife and infant in some tier 2 City. And my parents live in my hometown. I don't want to shift to my hometown as it doesn't have basic facilities available and I don't like being there as I get bored. My parents didn't want to leave hometown. And they continuously tells me yaha kyu nhi rehte. What should I do?
Go to your hometown and live with your parents. Your parents need you as they can't move to a fast paced lifestyle. Living with parents is a dream for many not everyone can afford, time is very important in this phase of life else you will regret all your life.
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You can stay with parents when your Kids have vacations. Have your parents visit you for a month once or twice a year.
There’s no need to stay with parents all the time, will lead to more kalesh.
Everything is good in moderation.
Yeah that's why yar, there are small small things which led to kalesh. Plus my wife is working and my mom will expect her to cook also and take care of baby it will be too much for her. Here atleast we have Cook and maid. Parents don't even want to hire them.
DesignTinker
Stealth
19 days ago
It’s difficult for parents to leave their social circle and move to a city. My parents also get bored when they visit me in Mumbai.
It’s best to spend some time with family in the hometown (1-2 months during festivals). At the same time they can visit and stay with you for 2-3 months. That way they will get used to city life. Help them make friends in the city, convince them to try new experiences; am sure they will start liking it.
All the best.
Product12345
Student
18 days ago
Those 2 3 months itself will create enough tension for living in upcoming years..somehow it is not working out
Yeah I do this every 3-4 months we go to hometown on festivals also. And when any emergency comes I reach there in 4-5 hours.
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Bittergourd
Stealth
19 days ago
Convince them for living with you, as together you can have more with each others like exploring new things, creating adventures with all, playing with your cute lil one,it will be better care for them etc..
I told them bro. But they don't want to leave their home. They tell me to shift there which I don't want
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They will keep pressuring u, it won't change. You have to be mentally strong enough to ignore it and focus on ur personal goals
WiseCustody
Student
19 days ago
Live in city and make your own roots. Parents can live till 90, how long can you keep sacrificing. You have to move ahead, parents can take care of themselves.
My office is in Bangalore and I am working remotely from some tier 2 City because I like living nearby mountains.
Same issue as mine. Can't settle in hometown, no friends and boring. I shifted from Hyderabad to Bangalore because my hometown is an hour drive. Once you get used to bigger cities, can't go back.
If your hometown is not far from any city may be 1 hr), then go and enjoy on weekends in city and stay with your parents at hometown. Jo tumhe mil rha hai, pta nhi kitne ladko ka Sapna hai woh...baki Jo Maan ho
When they will get married and have kids than let me know is this their dream to live with parents. I know bachelor can live with their parents but after marriage so many things we have to consider.
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WealthyBrewer
Student
8 days ago
You can ask your parents to stay with you guys for a couple of months in a year and you can always visit them in your hometown during the holidays. We aren't shortage of festivals in India.
LooseGoose
Stealth
19 days ago
What basic facilities are missing from your hometown?
It's a simple village type City. No medical facility, bad roads, no restaurants nearby, no movie theatre. It's a boring City.
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