Congratulations! I hope your wife and kid are healthy. 🤍 
 . 
 Taking care of someone who is completely dependent on you (and your wife) is demanding and exhausting in the beginning. This will ease up after a few days when you get into a rhythm and routine with your child.  
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 A truth pill is that right now you won't find 50-50 balance between work and parenting. Taking care of your newborn would (and should) take the most of your time and attention. Because your baby would grow faster than you can imagine and this time would be gone in the blink of an eye. So enjoy this time with your kid as much as you can as it won't come back. And don't take stress because everything will work out.

Software Engineer

I’m a functional head, new dad and struggling to find my balance with work and parenting. Any tips? How do I win both parenting and work? Right now the split is more like 7080% parenting, but 2030%...

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I’m a functional head, new dad and struggling to find my balance with work and parenting. Any tips? How do I win both parenting and work? Right now the split is more like 70-80% parenting, but 20-30% work. Need to balance it out

Any tips for a new dad trying to balance work while being a functional head

Head Of Marketing

Any tips for a new dad trying to balance work while being a functional head- Grapevine

How to manage workload with new born baby. I just had a baby and feeling a lot of pressure with office work as well as parenting. 
I want to give lot of time to my baby but it's not getting possible. My wife is on paternity leave and doing most of the baby work. I feels like I am missing lot of things in this phase of my child. 
Please suggest something.

Workload with new born

Tech Lead

Everyone knows about the relatively young median age we have India. So consequently, we are going to be having a burst of newly weds and their subsequent kids. This would also be a generation where we see both parents working instead of one parent staying home(rent ain't cheap).

So, few questions to new parents who are both working jobs: 
What were major problems/stressors you faced in early years of parenting ? (Specifically between 0-2 years of age where babies require alot of care) 

What parts of early years of parenting strained your work life the most?

What parts of the early years of parenting gave you guys the most joy?

Would love to know more.

New Indian parents, What are your problems?

Machine Learning Engineer

Dear Fellas,

I hope who so ever is reading this post is doing great.

I need a personal advice from all of you who have started 30's journey with a wife and newly born kid ( 2-3 months old).

I am working with analytics role with a Edtech renowned company for 2 years now. Due to following reason I feel like I to switch :

1. Job insecurity ( lay offs) - (however they don't have any replacement to my role.)
2. Very short sighted leaders.
3. Very low increments even with maximum ratings.
4. Sir & Ma'am like culture.
5. They poke for working from home even with genuine reasons.
6. Strictly time bounded culture. 
7. Less chances for promotion as sometimes I give priority to my personal life.


So I want a suggestion that does it sound good to rejoin to  the analytics consulting roles. Will that make my life easy or this is not the right time looking at the market situation.

Managing a 2 months old baby with work

Business Analyst

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Is it just me or is even a job at the best Tech companies just don’t make any sense for women? 

There are always women who have great family support or husbands that are understanding and encouraging. But generally why does it seem like becoming a senior woman in tech even at the best places is sort of unattractive and significantly increases your odds of “failure” outside of work e.g. divorce,having kids late? 

Interested for thoughts from both men and women.

27F Engineer: Software Engineering Not Worth It For Women?

Hmm, someone I know has more than 10+ patents(ex-broadcom), is a tech evangelist and an implementation advisor for a cloud tech, have 3 kids with fourth on the way. Sometimes you just need a supportive environment.

Product Manager

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DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

We are a DINK couple (live-in, will get married soon) and absolutely no plans to have kids. Maybe be a DINKWAD someday by adopting an indie. Also no plans to buy a home or spend on our marriage. This is not a financial decision (both of us are doing decently well in our careers) but we don't want to have a child knowing how nothing around is improving and we don't want to sacrifice the best years of our lives by doing this. We are building a large corpus to be financially independent and travel without any financial restrictions.

Growth Manager

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I have seen pseudo feminism happening everywhere around which has just wasted everyone’s time and energy over debating for false narratives. Does feminism really matter or it brought any change in corporate lives. If yes then why still pay parity exist and why projects have been given on the basis of gender but not on the basis of skill and experience? What’s your take on this ?

Has feminism ever been useful ?

I work in a startup, have been since the past 4 years. Earlier it was WFH, I had the liberty to work whenever I want - task had to be done. 

With experience, I've felt that my work life balance has gone for a toss. I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong, I feel exhaused and burnt out. This is also sucking out ownership from what I do. 

To all the GVs out here, have you guys tried doing something that's helped you? Or are we all on the same boat here? Are folks in MNCs going through the same? Genuinely seeking for help here. 

I just feel ki, I should stop running behind money now. Take a pay cut if needed and join a company thats a bit more established. 

Ps: In my case working from office seems like a total waste of time. I had been so much more productive at home. 

Thanks!

Work life balance - Tips

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Consultant

I’m a working mother. Also a nursing mom living without husband. My stress level has reached new heights due to work and client pressure.

Software Developer

I am currently expecting, and while I am overjoyed about this new chapter in my life, I've also been facing some unique challenges in balancing my personal and professional responsibilities. 

I believe that some of you have been through similar experiences, and your insights would mean the world to me.

I had a few questions on:

1. When and how did you choose to disclose your pregnancy to your colleagues and superiors? 

2. How did you handle any potential changes in workload or responsibilities?

3. How do you stay energized and focused during the workday, especially in the later stages of pregnancy?

I understand that everyone's experiences are unique, but I believe your advice and insights can provide valuable guidance during this exciting but sometimes challenging time. Please feel free to share some stories that you're comfortable with.

How do I cope with the challenges of Pregnancy while maintaining professionalism?

Alright so this post is coming from a place of guilt so do not take it as bragging.

I have been employed for more than 16 years now and routinely clocked 60+ hour work weeks till before COVID. Once WFH started, I found it difficult to adjust working from home (especially with two toddlers) and found myself spending most of the time taking care of the kids (which I thoroughly enjoyed). Wife is a doctor and has erratic hours so I thought kids need the reassurance of at least one parent being around most of the time. Around 2021, I realised that my fitness has significantly gone down so I enrolled in a sports club and began playing squash regularly and religiously in the mornings. 30 minute sessions became 45 minutes which became 1 hour to now close to 2 hours (coupled with some running and swimming). By the time I login to work (I have UK hours: 11 am to 8 pm), I feel quite tired and at times take post lunch naps (during office time). My health has significantly improved but I have found that I am simply unable to stay productive at work for more than 4 hours ( around 4 pm to 8 pm). 

I am pretty good at what I do and one of the few technical people in a team full of Excel worshippers so one can argue that I get things done relatively faster than average colleagues. However, I have a serious fear that this level of slacking may get me in trouble and could even render me unemployable as I get older. Is this just a phase or a manifestation of a midlife crisis? Have others experienced something like this in their late 30s early 40s?

Unable to work for more than 4 hours in a day

Quantitative Research

Hello folks,

I am facing a time management hurdle. I am doing a full time job which takes 9 hrs of my time. Office days you can make it 10. I am also prepping for my GMAT and aiming for a good score (already cancelled my previous 700 in older format, aiming for a 715+ in new GMAT FE). I have gained a bit of weight and BMI is slid into overweight by a narrow margin (83.5 kgs and 181 cms). I am also learning a few things related to my current job to upgrade myself.

So I need to balance: job, prep, health and learning, all seeming mandatory at this point.

I work 2PM - 11PM, have househelp for cleaning and a cook for cooking.

People who have done this before, how did you manage? I am finding it extremely difficult. In theory, it looks easy as there are 24 hrs you know it's not the case. Between all the things I need to catch small breaks as well.

Need advise.

Finding it difficult to manage time

I became a new father like a week ago and I work in hardware. It’s already very hectic and has low reward mechanisms. Within next week I will have to leave my baby & wife in the hometown with better care and attention to earn my living in the city. Its not like my org is forcing me & is calling me, in-fact they are nicest I have seen but wish ke thoda time aur hota with zero regrets.

Wish I had work from home!

Product Owner

As I'm entering a new stage of life, I'm starting to reevaluate my career priorities. In my 20s, I was all about climbing the ladder and chasing prestige. Now, I'm more focused on finding work that aligns with my values and allows for a balanced lifestyle. 

Have any of you gone through a similar shift? How did it change your career trajectory? And how do you define success for yourself now versus when you first started out?

Redefining success: How have your career priorities shifted as you've grown older?

Man, this hits home. I used to be all about the fancy title and corner office. Pulled 80-hour weeks, missed family events, the whole rat race thing.

Then my dad got sick last year. Spent a lot of time in hospitals, thinking about what really matters. Realized I couldn't remember the last time I took a real vacation or had dinner with my kids without checking emails.

Ended up taking a step back at work. Less pay, but more flexibility. You know what? I don't miss the stress. Sure, the ego took a hit at first, but I'm actually enjoying work now. Plus, I'm finally learning my kids' friends' names!

Success for me now? It's about having time for the people I love and work that doesn't make me dread Mondays. Still figuring it out, but dekhte hain baaki :)

So bit of context here. I am a 25 year old Male. Moved to bangalore after 2 years of wfh. Stayed there for a year. Got fed up of my job and toxic workplace tendencies so wanted to resign. Dad had been doing a startup for a bit and he felt I was ready to be useful so he asked me to come. I felt it would good for my career so I moved back. 6 months in I feel mentally drained, and all my limited excitement I feel in life are for the small trips I manage to do where I meet some of my college friends/girlfriend. I had read takes online from people that if I had a chance I would leave everything and be at home with parents, but I just dont feel this way. I love my parents a lot but I just dont feel too much anymore. I dont feel like oh I am so lucky I get to spend so much time with my mother. All of my childhood friends from my city have moved to the US. I have 2 friends(not very close but decent) who I meet sometimes, so life is all about waking up, going to office, coming home and calling my long distance girlfriend (who was with me in Bangalore) and falling asleep with 2/3 hours here and there. I rarely have plans. I feel like I am doing something wrong but I cant pinpoint what. How can I passionately want to spend more time with my parents? I just don’t get it from within. Do I really have to work and find new close friends in the city. People at work keep a bit of distance because my dad is the founder. Anyone with any advice?

Struggling to feel excited after moving back home. Can anyone help?

Data engineer

Fellow parents, what's one piece of advice you wish you'd known before having your first child?

New parent feeling overwhelmed

Hello married folks, how have you been managing work after getting married and having kids. Sometimes it gets really hectic to give time to all things at once. Your spouse, kids, work, parents, exercise, upskilling etc. What suggestions do you have with regards to this?

Working after marriage and kids

Data Scientist

howdy!!


Folks I need your inputs please. I am a single parent to two kids and have a full time job which is basically the only financial source and now WFH is ending and my problem is:

1. With the role n responsibilities i am fully booked for office work and not able to take care of the kids or house like i want to

2. Even if i hire someone like nanny i still thinking of their safety and activities they r doing bcoz i want to engage them is teaching or making them learn spend time with them as they grow be there for them ( bcoz i know how lonely it is to have working parents) so i don’t want them left with nanny bcoz i believe money can be made again but their childhood will not return 

3. Even if i get a WFH role, my time, energy and thinking capabilities will be taken up by the job only again leaving me less energetic, time to care for my kids

4 Everyone is against me leaving the job bcoz that’s the only financial source I have but i want to shift my stream maybe join as a school admin or start a food business that i can handle without much of mental stress but the pay will be way less

So I am looking for something which gives me the time and mental peace to spend and raise my kids with a decent money to meet the needs. 

What can i do???  please tell me any other way out or a guaranteed income source along with being with my kids

Your thoughts plz

Hello,
In today's world most of the married couples are working. How do you guys manage your non-work life together like kids, food, grocery, shopping, house chores? 
As most of us come from a background where our mothers are housewives and she used to manage the household chores like cooking, house management, kids and other indoor stuff and our fathers used to go out and earn money, and manage outdoor stuff. Now, this paradigm has been changed and I fully accept this maturely but I want to fit in this new model. Can anyone tell me how they are managing it positively?
Thanks for your time and only serious answers please.

How do working couples manage their life?

Hi all, I have noticed that the experienced senior people around me [ ICs, EMs, etc ] have too much work and they are always in a work mode. 

Seeing them makes me wonder whether I would want to be like them in the future.

All the senior experienced people here, how stressful / hectic / difficult is your work life as you move up the corporate ladder? 

Is it even worth it to chase meaningless numbers, and promotions, and grow up the career ladder?

Any tips for a new dad trying to balance work while being a functional head

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