Has feminism ever been useful ?

My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

This post references and continues the discussion on Rafael Nadal's comment about women getting paid more in fashion. As someone with 50% of their career in fashion, I can say it's not just modeling (that's the image people have). There are many industries within fashion – e-commerce, manufacturing, modeling, boutiques, etc Fashion is labor-intensive, so competition drives down pay. Yes, there are more women in fashion, not necessarily earning more. It's a loop – more women want to work where other women are, even if the money is less. There's a sense of security and comfort. A huge part of fashion works in manufacturing, you know, the clothes we wear. So many women work at the junior level, running around the factory floors getting things done. They are paid 10-15k a month. The men are paid about 20-25k starting salary. I had 3 girls and 1 boy in my team; they managed on-ground ops for different brands. But when there's night overtime in the factory, who stays late to oversee the work? The boy! And who got the orders out "working overtime" on these brands – the boy! Who deserves a raise – obviously the boy! Lack of appreciation in words and money, physically draining work (more stories there), fewer promotions, and male-dominated labor that doesn't want to "listen to women," combined with family pressure to get married - all these lead women to drop out of the workforce. Even if you want to talk only about modeling, women models get paid more than male models. There's a reason here – who do you remember watching on FTV during childhood? How many of you took the risk of putting FTV on to watch male models? Women are paid more because they sell more. Also, the models are just one, just one part of the fashion show. There's an entire team of underpaid people running around, fixing things last minute, ensuring the show is a success. Huge brands like Sabyasachi and Manish Malhotra pay 25-30k to NIFT Fashion Design grads, even in Mumbai.

Does gender wage gap exist in the corporate tech world? Or is it purely performance based? What about biases in appraisals, promotions, who gets a chance to lead and all? Looking for personal insights and experiences.

Hi community, Wanted to know why MNCs give priority to hire girls over deserving folks? Got multiple calls and messages from juniors both from college and others that companies are hiring in the ratio of 8 girls to 1 boy. Is there any specific thing that the companies gain by this? Really saddened by this current scenario, first this reservation scenario, and now this diversity shit. Seems like it is a curse to be born as a General Male in this country.

I have had over 8-10 managers in my life in a career spanning over 8 years, 5 of them were female managers and unfortunately the experience with 4 of them were very bad. They’re either micro managers, or power hungry, want to be dominant over male juniors, misuse their power, cannot take any kind of resistance or refusals or disagreement from juniors. I have always heard female managers are more empathetic but unfortunately I’ve faced the opposite. Just wondering, was it just bad luck or is it actually the case? I tried to introspect in this and I found at least 4 points common across all these female managers: 1. They are all from Tier 2/3 Cities 2. They’ve studied in premier institutions IIT,IIMS,Wharton even one of them 3. They either have a younger or elder brother who got more love in the family 4. Their husband is at a higher senior level than them in professional life/career

- It's hard being the only woman in the leadership, in a room full of older men. If you don't hang out with them, you are excluded. If you do hang out with them, you got to get you act right with nods and smiles along the small talk. If If If If.. thats the loop you are caught in. - Imagine being the only female developer in the team. BRO code is the default setting. DEV code took a sabbatical. All of you go hang out with beer, smoke and whatever and what if I am not into that? I am not a so called BRO then. And dont even get me started on the casual jokes and me not being into gaming and TT. Go ahead ask me.. How does she even fit in then.. Right?? - Declare I’m taking a "Wellness" Day. Might as well hold a flag and say "Guess who's on her period?! ME ME ME!" So much for your policies - I can’t even begin to count the number of times I’ve been interrupted, spoken over.. - Dress too casually, you're not taken seriously. Dress too nicely, you're trying too hard. I've been judged for my clothes more times than I can count - too much, too little, too fashionable - yep been called that too. It’s exhausting - I think my presence is acknowledged only when it’s convenient for them. My opinions and insights are ignored until they need a female face to tick a diversity box - I’ve stayed late and worked weekends just to prove I’m just as dedicated as the others (even when I was doing next weeks work) - Finding a mentor who truly understands the challenges I face as a woman in tech is nearly impossible. Male mentors often don’t get it, and female mentors are spread too thin - I was told to speak up but when I did, I was labeled aggressive. I'm expected to be assertive but not too assertive, confident but not too confident. Also if I am progressing too fast, I have someone special rooting for me for something special in return - that the peoples verdict. And then the gossip starts. A large majority of Orgs, Founders, Leaders, HR are getting by doing the bare minimum.

Has anyone ever faced gender discrimination at work place? We’ve moved forward, we tag ourselves as quite progressive and I believed the same but never did I think gender discrimination at work place could be a thing until it happened with me! Wanted to know if anyone else ever has faced such a thing and how did you tackle it?

How is the layoff situation incase of women? Bcoz i got to know from my friends of different companies when i enquired... POV 1:- Women are Layoffed more since after marriage their commitment level and quality towards works was decreased. POV 2:- Bcoz of office politics some of them are suffering and layedoff. Whats your Opinion.. any such women employees faced this situation?

Where do you folks fall in this complicated venn diagram?