Salesforce Developer

Senior Software Engineer

If both person just follow the same principle, the relationships cannot be sustained. 
  
 When efforts don't give results,.let it go.

Engineering Manager

The problem lies in ‘If it goes’, nobody is concerned about ‘if it comes’!

True. But we shouldn't hold on to things/people who aren't as invested as we are in them. Life goes on with or without them. I read somewhere "The one who's meant to be with you will come for you even if you go in himalyas and the one who's not meant for us won't". If it's meant to be, it'll be, it'll be. :)

Tech Lead

Product Manager

Business Analyst

Jb time acha chal rha hota h to ye sab bhut acha lgta h sunne me ! There’s saying that poeple cannot appreciate stability/good time in their lives so they create some unnecessary problems so that they can keep their mind occupied.

Everything is not in our hand. People/things are not permanent. When someone leaves we are hardly in a state to understand that it has happened and we continue to live in denial and it's only after few weeks/months that we understand it's best that they left. Recently, went through this cycle and now understand the value of jaane do jisko jana hai, jisko rukna hoga vo ruk hi jaega.

Software Engineer

System Administrator

Art of letting go!

Art of letting go!- Grapevine

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

I thought I was pretty HEADSTRONG until I had to let something go!

Letting Go!

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, 
I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them.

I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions.

I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair. 

Is life all about suffering and pain?

[Thread] Am I really a failure?

A couple of weeks back, I faced an emotional turmoil. I thought I'd found "the one" but that actually wasn't the case.
And no hate here, but I did not take the bursting on my fairytale bubble very gracefully. When my delusion broke, I was a total mess, emotionally and mentally. And it made things worse for both of us. 
But one thing I take as a learning from this incident is that, no matter how hard you try, no matter how much of yourself you pour into someone, if it isn't meant to be, it won't work out. And this fact has to be accepted with grace and dignity. 
I believed in the concept of soulmates, i believed that somewhere, someone is meant to be for me, made for me and only me. 
But today I believe the concept soulmates isn't hypothetical, magical or delusional the way I previously thought it was. It is when two people are willing to save the bond between them and put efforts, both ways, to protect what's theirs. It's a realistic concept only when relationship worth saving for the two people.
Realising this took a lot of introspection. I hope this helps y'all in one way or the other. ✨

Letting go ✨

Consultant

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

Software Developer

Let them go

DevOps Engineer

Le them be
For the ones you cant control

Let them be
For you are your own destiny

Let them be
For you are enough for yourself

Let them be
For the god will take care

Let them be
For the smile you heart everyday

Let Them Be

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

“When you’re young, you believe that there will be many people with whom you’ll connect with deeply. Later in life, you come to realize that it only happens a few times. A few moments, frozen in genuine beauty, where you look at someone and you know, from a place deep within yourself, that they are going to mean something to you, that they are rare.

When it comes to this kind of connection, it’s important to understand that energy cannot be created or destroyed — that is a scientific fact. If the depth is there, it cannot be denied, cannot slip through your fingers, cannot be something you successfully run away from due to fear of exposure or battle wounds. You can try to dismiss it, can try to stay protected and hidden from the warmth, but your hiding spot is never watertight — it always catches up to you.

And if it’s not meant to fit within the soul of you, if it’s simply not your love to hold, no amount of bargaining with your heart will anchor it. That is the beauty of discovering the things that stay, the things that fall into place. In a world of billions, in a world where we are all seeking connection but avoiding eye contact, there are remarkable points of impact where you manage to crash yourself into someone who ends up breaking through the exterior. Someone who makes contact with your heart, who grows roots within it. Together, you beat the odds.

If you have found human beings like this, I hope you protect them. I hope you risk your heart for what you feel. I hope you believe that you are worthy of something full, and pointed and real. I hope you never settle for less, because certain people are truly just rare, beautiful drops of borrowed light that find their way to you. You don't feel alien with them. The otherness never arrives. There isn't a version of yourself you have to shed in order to feel connected to them. They see you clearly. You are held there. (Continued...)

Extremely Beautiful quote on finding connection

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

We evolved to live in small tribes and now live outside of our natural habitat, in an advanced civilization. One effect of this mismatch is that there are a bunch of things that feel dangerous to us that aren't actually dangerous, leading us to be way too risk averse. Like:

- Asking someone out on a date
- Trying something new even though you'll suck at it at first
- Quitting your job to start a company or try a career in the arts
- Putting your real voice out there on controversial topics

For primates living in a small tribe, rejection, embarrassment, failure, and criticism posed actual material dangers. These things are not dangerous today, but our software hasn't been updated. So we miss out on living our best life, hiding in the 1-4 zone of the danger scale. In a world of overly risk averse people, the epiphany that the 4-7 zone is actually a safe place to play is a superpower.

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