Program Manager

Product Manager

A workplace crush is like a DONKEY- Distraction ON KEY work

Growth Manager

Software Engineer

Basically avoid all your colleagues.

Basically avoid all your colleagues.- Grapevine

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What is that one piece of advice you’d give your younger self or someone who’s starting off now after working for a few years. 

Mine would be that despite the hunger to prove yourself always take the time off to enjoy your success both personally and with people close to you. 

Time is something you’ll never get back.

One advice you’d give yourself now after having a few years of work exp

Assistant Manager

Hi, I am currently working as an SDE in India. I want to start a small business (online consultancy) with a friend which will require some legal stuff like GST and partnership firm/company registration in India. 

For the initial days of the business, we will be working full time as well and will work on our business in our free time. If this scales well, we'll probably leave our jobs and work on the business full time.

Now, I have a few questions regarding this
- is it a case of moonlighting? 
- What will happen if my employer gets to know this in the future? 
- What are the legal implications in India for this?
- What are the workarounds for this? 

I've seen many people selling some courses or having a restaurant or some small business along with full time employment. How do they manage to do so?

Start a business alongside fulltime corporate slavery

Founder

I have been suffering from work related anxiety for the last 3-4 months. I have recently started taking medications for it. I am supposed to move to Bengaluru as my wfh has ended. My parents think it's a good idea as it will help change my environment. I am wondering if it's a good idea to share about it at my workplace with my manager/superior. I know it's subjective, but still. Because I am worried this has started to affect my performance. Also, I am a talkative and emotional person and may end up slipping these things anyway.

Informing manager / superior about anxiety

Don't share this with anyone in workplace unless you really trust your manager who you know will always have your back 
  
 But please start seeking therapy regularly and actively, and do have faith in the process. You'll be available to cope with it better hopefully

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I work at a small startup that was acquired by a large corporate, primarily via high level contacts of the founders rather than technical due diligence. Founders and employees cash out big FAANG-level payslips without bothering about any actual work or revenue.

Being in my late 20s, I believe that our energetic youth should be spent on doing something that we are proud of, when we look back on our younger days. Imagine yourself in your 60s, and your grandchildren look up to and ask you about your life. I would definitely get depressed if I had to tell them that I did nothing of significance, just collected my salary.

In this context, I have been telling a few of my close colleagues how we can learn specific tech stacks which are in demand, in interesting domains that we can shift to, if applying to other companies. However, recently I came to know that some of these colleagues have shared screenshots of my conversations with management and claimed that I am violating company policy by apparently encouraging people to apply elsewhere.

Didn't see it playing out like this, so it's a shocker for me. Going forward, what would you suggest? Keep my mouth shut and be company policy-wise correct with people to avoid such backstabbers? Or should I continue to be honest and just change company myself?

Honest advice or political correctness?

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Here’s mine,
Care deeply about any work that you touch, give your best and more.

The effort really shows, especially when you can solve something better than what they hoped for.

[Thread] Grapeviners 🍇? Drop one lesson from your learnings at work.

Contradictory to your lesson… I learned not to get too attached to your code. Bcoz it might just get scraped.

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you. 

I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with. 

My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more. 

The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me. 

My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls. 

Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck. 

I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.

You can never be happy

Hang in there, friend. I can assure you that you can find happiness in the workplace. What you're experiencing is common but definitely not the norm. There are many places out there where people are decent and you wouldn't be treated so pathetically. I hope you find the opportunity to move out and cut yourself off from the vile people at your present employer.

Software Developer

Data Scientist

As the title suggests, does it make sense to talk about a colleagues’s inability to deliver to my manager. The colleague’s incompetence to take ownership is very evident now to everyone and the manager is not taking any steps on it. Others have to basically cleanup and babysit him. Worse part, this colleague gets paid the highest in the team. At this point it’s just breeding resentment across the team. How to handle this situation? Any tips. Early stage startup, the manager is part of the founding team.

Should you confront your manager about a colleague’s incompetence?

Do not get involved. Try to minimise your own additional work due to that colleague. In one-to-one meeting with manager, let the manager know. Use the words: I just wanted to bring your attention to one more matter. Then describe the challenges that you face. Not your team. Do not gang up, do not conspire or collaborate. Do not mention about how other colleagues feel the same way. If your manager takes a negative opinion of these activity, you'll be fucked, because such a thing would create a negative impression. If the manager is not inclined to go by your judgement of your colleague's competence, you'll lose face. But it's much easier to control the narrative and restore your manager's confidence in you in a one-on-one conversation, than when it's a group mutiny. No matter what others tell you, do not get encouraged. People often sound like they're with you, but they often are not. They won't back their statements, and you'll be alone holding the bag. And moreover, if you stay out of it, you'll be able to carry the high ground of being above the fray, out of politics, and being balanced. Don't do netagiri of this sort. Conserve it for initiatives for which getting consensus is harder. It might be possible that you're the only one feeling so strongly about it. Then you may be in need of a weekend, or someone to vent to, or even therapy. But get your hate in check.

Generalist

I’m keen on avoiding the drama, but I also don’t want to come off as distant or unfriendly to my colleagues. 

How do you deal with gossip when you’re the subject of it? Any advice on handling the situation without making things worse?

Need advice - How to avoid gossiping colleagues without being rude?

I have tried developing strategies, brainstorming solutions, worried to core leading to breakdowns 
While collegeaues from IIT/IIM earning double, don't know basic shit
I have understood there's no point putting that extra effort.
How do I act dumb on purpose? I'm not someone who can stretch work, result and speed are inherent and this is why need advice here.

P.S. company is citing funding winter for no appraisals this year
So another reason

How do I act dumb at work?

Consultant

As a fresher entering corporate life, what advices would you like to give

Advice for fresher?

SDE Intern

Timely completion is better than delayed perfection!

read that again.

Corporate lesson learnt in 20s #1

2. Communicate even if it's a bad news. 
 3. Learn to show your work 😄 in mail or meetings

Senior Consultant

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

1. Build a home earlier. Be it rural home or urban home. Building a house at 50 is not an achievement. Don't get used to government houses. This comfort is so dangerous. Let all your family have good time in your house.
 
2. Go home. Don't stick at work all the year.  You are not the pillar of your department.  If you drop dead today, you will be replaced immediately and operations will continue.  Make your family a priority.

3. Don't chase promotions.  Master your skills and be excellent at what you do. If they want to promote you, that's fine if they don't,  stay positive to your personal.
development.

4. Avoid office or work gossip. Avoid things that tarnish your name or reputation. Don't join the bandwagon that backbites  your bosses and colleagues. Stay away from negative gatherings that have only people as their agenda.

5. Don't ever compete with your bosses.  You will burn your fingers.  Don't compete with your colleagues, you will fry your brain.

6. Ensure you have a side business.  Your salary will not sustain your needs in the long run.

7. Save some money. Let it be deducted automatically from your payslip. 

8. Borrow a loan to invest in a business or to change a situation not to buy luxury. Buy luxury from your profit.

9. Keep your life,marriage and family private. Let them stay away from your work. This is very important.  

10. Be loyal to yourself  and believe in your work. Hanging around your boss will alienate you from your colleagues and  your boss may finally dump you when he leaves. 

11. Retire early.  The best way to plan for your exit was when you received the employment letter. The other best time is today.  By 40 to 50 be out. 

12. Join work welfare and be an active member always. It will help you a lot when  any eventuality occurs.

13.Take leave days utilize them by developing yr future home or projects..usually what you do during yr leave days is a reflection of how you'll live after retirement.

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Data engineer

What's the dating policy at your company? Our stupid HR said that dating is not allowed..and you can be terminated if you date your colleague? I'm going out with this chick in design.while it's not official but we know where it's heading. Should I disclose to HR?

Dating policy

Analyst

What is some really good advice that you received from someone you did NOT like/look up to?

I am just speechless. Can't believe that this can happen.

Got fired for using betting apps and trading on company laptop...

Everyone knows you are not supposed to use company laptop for anything personal. This startup I used to work part-time for during college had some monitoring software on their laptops.

Somehow intimate moments were leaked of someone on the team, she slammed such a case on these fuckers that the entire startup almost got wiped out in legal fees.

Lawyer

[TL;DR former National quizzing champ dropped out of B. Tech in 2020 during peak of addiction and depression . Got over it and sober in Jan'23, resumed college and completed my B. Tech in Feb'24. Picked up coding again and feel ready for a job now Should I be honest or lie about the gap? Been ghosted my few recruiters whom I was honest with.]

JS developer here. I used to be a decent student, public speaker and one of the best quizzers in the college scene (former National Champ). But I never addressed some traumatic events that took place in my life before I turned 16. My depression took refuge in substance abuse and I abandoned all studies/career prospects during the pandemic. Eventually after 7 years of using, I got clean/sober in Jan'23 and resumed my studies. I earned my degree but on paper it took me 8 years to complete a 4 year B. Tech (2016-24).

Reasonably I get asked about the gap in my academics by hr/recruiters whom I push my CV to. I've been dead honest to them about my struggles with mental health and addiction in the past. And I've been getting ghosted. (It could be because of skill reasons on my part but I'm not even getting a feedback).

Should I not tell recruiters the truth about the gap? Should I leave the addiction bit out? How should I word it? I've never held a real coding job before but been slogging for the last 6 months to get better each day (my github and projects will reflect that). Please help me out with all your valuable suggestions. If you're a tech recruiter let me know how you would perceive my case.

Sorry if this is the wrong board to post in, I'm desperate. Should I be honest about my past struggles of depression/addiction with recruiters while explaining the 4 year gap in my resume?

You don't have to. They are not your friends and you don't know how someone might take it as.  
 You have been brave enough to come out of it but unfortunately not everyone will see it.

Investor

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Hi guys,I wanted to know what financial mistakes or right things that you did at 24 yr.Which changed your perspective to see the life.And as a 24-year-old software engineer what should I focus on my next 5 years both personally and financially ?

What will you give an advice to 24yr old me

Colleague asking my political views

Hi folks,
I am a new grad and work in remote first company. My team (8-10 people) has an offsite and also booked a resort for it in Bengaluru.

I am a new grad with no outing in college or with family as I am kind of poor and this has also made me introvert as well and so I don't have much idea about etiquettes etc and this really freaks me out

What should I do / learn before going?

Basically avoid all your colleagues.

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