In life, to others, yes. But in your career, for studies or work being sensitive might not work in your favour

Consultant

We are one cringe post away from becoming LinkedIn

Should I not post stories on Grapevine? ( a genuine question) I do not have anything else to post as I am a student,actually being adult people forget the basic lesson in life I'm just helping them to recollect the small lessons. (Please tell me if its ok or not to post these stories.

Product Manager

Anjali, a gifted young dancer, practiced tirelessly beneath the banyan tree. One day, discouraged by a misstep, she sat with tears in her eyes. An old woman, watching from afar, shuffled over. "Lit...

Anjali, a gifted young dancer, practiced tirelessly beneath the banyan tree. One day, discouraged by a misstep, she sat with tears in her eyes. An old woman, watching from afar, shuffled over. "Little one," she said, "the wind whispers secrets to the leaves. It bends, but never breaks." Anjali, taking a deep breath, rose and continued her dance, the wind carrying away her doubt.
Lesson: Resilience is key to overcoming challenges.

Be Resilent Not Sensitive

Be Resilent Not Sensitive- Grapevine

This question is to people who are in their late 20s or older.


Life shows its ups and downs to pretty much everyone. And when you are younger, living with adverse situations that impact your mental peace and health, paving your way becomes difficult. All this can lead to uncertainty about future, can make you doubt yourself and your decisions, or can make you think whether you would be able to make something of yourself or not.


If you ever felt like this, how did you handle it? What would you tell your younger self about how to navigate through these situations and feelings?

How did you figure things out?

Software Engineer

Hello Viners 
Hope you have had a great weekend 
This Post is just to appreciate each other that whatever we are going through is fine 
There is always a brighter side to the things 

Recently I also dealt with many things in life , But yet there was always one person or the other who said to me that I'm proud of you of what you have done and there will always be something better on the other side trust the god's plan 

So let's make this post Just a Thought of Appreciation 
Share Anything you want to , Whatever how small the accomplishment it might be 
Let's gather along and appreciate the person just to show them some love 

Because you never know what a person might be going 

Let's make this a Nice Post ❤️

Post of Appreciation

Software Developer

What is your top 1 strength? Just one. The one thing that truly made you stand out

How do you cope up with failures in career? Delayed timeline, failed project, not finding one's footing, navigating job and finding job satisfaction?

Founder

The things you will take care of or do after the layoff

What would you do if you got laid off from your job today?

Analyst

For the Pride Left Behind
For The Kindness that was sowed when I was a child
With the empathy I felt for the hearts around
For the love I saw in everyone's eyes

The warmness everyone carried in themselves
Was I late
I don't know
I didn't seek revenge on myself
Nor a war

As a Adult
I realised I seek Calmness
The battle that carried himself over the years
The criteria to win was to loose upon himself

The scars that I carried
Were after all the Pride I heart
The uneasiness I fealt
Was to do the good always
The light that shine
Was after all the hope that was always within me

How could I Forget?
The life I lived was a blessing
The problems, The solutions
The journey blessed by my ancestors.

A Reminder

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

What's a lesson you learned from a moment of unexpected challenge?

In the silence of the morning, a whisper cuts the air,
A message cold and distant, a news too hard to bear.
Dreams built on dedication, now teetering on the brink,
A heart beats heavy, wondering what to think.

Hands that once were busy, now tremble in the void,
A future once so certain, now painfully destroyed.
Colleagues turned to family, faces etched with strife,
Together we once thrived, now fragments of a life.

Hope flickers dim, yet stubborn in the dark,
A search for new beginnings, a flame ignites a spark.
For even in this sorrow, strength will find its way,
In the wake of endings, dawns a brighter day.

Layoffs

Operations Manager

I feel my life is extremely difficult after demise of my beloved father at the age he should have  not left us this early he was 51 and now without him my life is just extremely difficult in all aspects  , people around me , relatives , career aspect marriage aspect future everything just scares me and  i feel i cannot reach out to anyone for my help not even my mother with my problems I feel if i reach out to anyone they just shut it like dont overthink , please stop with your negativity I just dont know how to get on with life He was like shield to us Now i dont know even me , my mom , my sibling has changed like anything Nothing feels good anymore

Loosing a parent

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Adulthood 🫡

Product Designer

Account Executive

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

What's something you never appreciated until you lost it?

Life has become so dry and meaningless nowadays. Struggle connects us on some level. I’d love to hear your stories of struggle and how you overcame it.

Here’s my story.
I studied B.E for 7 years because of backlogs. Every year was a new batch, no friends. Extreme depression, humiliation everywhere. Isolated myself from an extremely judgmental society. 
Confidence had no meaning in my life. 
Somehow struggled and cleared all the backlogs. Studied programming and web design. Started working for free.
After 1 year, first salary was 2k per month.
Then 18k. Then 30k.
I always felt dumb because of the backlogs. Want to rectify it. So went to the US with the only admit I got. Studied my ass off. GPA 3.95. But I was broke again. Cried my eyes out multiple times because I had no money for food. Couldn’t tell this to parents.

Found a job later after many many applications. 
Happiest moment of achievement was when I bought my first 43 inch LED TV. With my own money.

Current pay: over 2L / mo.

Tell me your story of hard work and difficulty

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

I will keep it short.

So I know this guy who goes to the same gym as me, 

The dude always looked kinda lonely so I would often greet him good morning or howdy,

However, I never got a chance to sit and talk to him as he always seemed in a rush,


Yesterday, I saw him talking to one of those  E-Girls on Instagram in the locker room, you know the ones which offer sexual video calls in exchange of a few thousand rupees,

I unintentionally read the chat while he was reaching out for his sipper,

And I saw "I dont want to have sex, I just want to talk to a real woman about my mental issues" something


While this sounded absurd and funny to me in the first moment of reading it, It left a resounding wave of abyss in me.
On how some people could be extremely lonely , and all they need is a hug !!!!

While his actions may not be the most mature of all, I do recognize this feeling. 


Afterall,
Duniya mein bohot gamm hai,
Apna dukh toh fir bhi kam hai.

Adulting: An Eye-Opening Experience

100% while I am a believer of being mentally strong. A recent incident also surprised me.  
 So this girl I matched on a dating app, was looking for a long term partner and was hoping for love marriage instead of arrange that her parents were doing. 
 We had been casually chatting but never even on a call. One day she asked me what I was doing the next day. I said i could open up my schedule for her. Then she asked let's meet tomorrow.  
 Then I got to know it was her birthday the next day and she had no one else to celebrate with so she was open to being with a random stranger. She used to live away from family all alone.  
 It felt so bad that the girl was feeling so down. So this changed a few thoughts about dating. Some people just want to talk freely and deeply. Wish the world could be a little more comfortable for such folks

Data engineer

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, 
I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them.

I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions.

I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair. 

Is life all about suffering and pain?

[Thread] Am I really a failure?

I have lost all the trust and dont even trust my shadow  anymore.

But then,
Human relationships thrive on trust.
Its forms the fulcrum of every bond.


This puts me in a difficult situation where I cant offer trust but seek a deeper and lost lasting connection

I just feel that people leave me.
Most of them did,
When I hit my low.

But as they say,
The comeback has to be stronger than the setback. I am moving towards bigger things in life and am still haunted by this fear of not being able to connect.

Crippling Trust Issues : Why cant I connect with fellow humans?

Something that you reserve for yourself or very close people/special occasions

I used to sing for my gfs, but now only for myself

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