FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster

Dealing with lonliness

Graduated in 2021, got an okayish job, still doing well career wise. I tried my own startups too. But I've never got the feeling of "yehi karna hai yaar life mein". All the friends are now disconnected. Doing WFH since forever and don't even have good connections at my current org or in my previous org. Tried therapy as well, didn't help much, they recommended medications, but that I'm not willing to do as of now. I don't know whether it's just me or this gruelling feeling of existential dread will ever go away. Maybe software engineering as a domain is like that, encourages introverts and introvertedness. But idk something is not right. No friends, no space to vent out frustrations. And it's been about 3 years since I last had a conversation with the opposite gender. I'm in complete mental mess, only thing keeping me alive is probably gym. I just want something to cling on to, to know this is not the end and this is not how it will end.

14mo ago
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PerkyTaco
PerkyTaco

Try working from office, interact as much as you can, play games, travel ...

FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster

Small team and no one is at the office except founders and sales guys. Going to the office doesn't look very exciting in this case.

PerkyTaco
PerkyTaco

Give it a try, you can interact with other team people.
Travelling is something that can help.
Just try once hopefully you will feel better

SparklyNugget
SparklyNugget
Amazon14mo

Why you posted my old story?

Well I was in this same situation for approx 2 years, My friends asked me for a Rishikesh trip, I refused. they forced me for it. Went there and I liked it. 3 months I went ahead with another trip.

Traveling was something that helped me a lot in overcoming those situations.

Might work for you. Let's connect if you don't find any travel buddy maybe we can go.

FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster

Thanks man, this is very helpful. Let's connect either way. How to find you?

ZestyDonut
ZestyDonut

WfH kar raha toh thoda ghum bhai. Dunia dekh le. It really helps. You might meet an opp gender too.

Lonely planet ke website pe ja. Acha khana aur culture wala location dhundh.

GigglyNugget
GigglyNugget

Talking with the opposite gender doesn't happen just like that. You need to make it happen. Today, the opposite genders have too many options with them, thanks to social media, dating apps and real life orbiters. If you are waiting for a chance for it to happen, it will never come your way. Also, talking with chicks is one thing and actually tapping them is quite another. Let's connect, I might be able to help you here to an extent.

FloatingHamster
FloatingHamster

Sure buddy let's connect. You can reach out via Gmail at casualconversations16@gmail.com. Or if you want me to find you somewhere lmk.

SwirlyRaccoon
SwirlyRaccoon
Target14mo

Still people need remote work. Hybrid works better, and ideally it should be wfo early in the career. A lot of folks in your age group is facing the same issue

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