I can feel it too but this is how I think: If we plan to bring them in our lifestyle, they will be depressed in few days. Let’s meet their monetary part and make sure we have health insurance as in the end we fail even after putting 100% of our savings.

Strategy & Operations

This happens to everyone. You are not new.

Tech Lead

My parents are in their 70s now, and I'm constantly worried about their health and wellbeing. They live in another state, and I feel guilty for not being there more often.   How do you balance ca...

My parents are in their 70s now, and I'm constantly worried about their health and well-being. They live in another state, and I feel guilty for not being there more often. 

How do you balance caring for aging parents with your own life and responsibilities? Any advice for long-distance caregiving? This whole situation is giving me major anxiety.

How do you deal with the anxiety of aging parents?

Software Engineer

How do you deal with the anxiety of aging parents?- Grapevine

Folks who live away from their parents, how do you take care of them?
I recently shifted to Blr, parents live in NCR - In college I was a day scholar and also I don't have any siblings.

Taking care not in terms of monetary help, but rather physical and emotional help - like being present there when they need me.

Taking care of parents

Software Developer

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Guilt of not taking care of parents due to office work and other responsibilities

Operations Manager

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It's for the people who stay away from their parents for work.

How do you deal with this guilt of leaving your parents behind when they need you the most? Also, if you have done something regarding this, please mention.

Guilt of staying away from ageing parents

I'm seeking advice on how to handle a sensitive situation that's been affecting my well-being. As a young woman in my 30s, I'm still unmarried and  my younger cousins or relatives have all gotten married. While I'm genuinely happy for them, I sometimes feel pressure and low self-esteem when people ask me when I'll be getting married or imply that something is wrong with me for not being married yet. It's not like i don't want to however in a vunurable situation when it comes to emotional connection stuff.I am a bigtime dog lover and I am happy being with my dog and parents too.

As someone who values my family's opinions and approval, it's hard for me to ignore these comments and not take them personally. How can I deal with these kinds of situations in a healthy way and maintain my self-confidence despite societal expectations?"

Let's see if sharing can help 😇😊

Consultant

(I know Osho type question hai but just curious)

What is it about life that scares you at the moment?

Data engineer

Been in corporate for 18+ years. It's been a good run by God's grace. 

Situation currently is I have been WFH for last 3 years and office is requesting return to head office in a metro for at least 2d a week for senior folks. 

Unfortunately as you can understand, I am 40 and got an ailing parent with me being primary caregiver. Moving is not practical. 

Anyone else in same boat? What did you do?

Difficult Life Situation

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I have been wfh for than a year now, my parents would keep ordering me to do small household work even when I’m working. I have asked them not to do that as it distracts me, but they will not simply listen and even scold me and compare me with others that they help their parents 😅

I have thought about just going to a different city and wfh from there but my parents are also getting old so have to think about that also.

People who are WFH, how do you stay focused in work when your family members / parents keep distracting you?

I distract myself scrolling reels, who else can distract me 😭

Associate

I am 33M, started working at 20. Earned 87LPA when I was dropped off in June 23. I am a very responsible person who had taken care of everything in the family for quite some time. My parents and relatives and everyone else who know me well, know this and kost have appreciated this at some point.
My sister separated from her husband 6 months after my marriage and had been living with me and my wife since then till COVID hit.
My mother has anger issues and my father is very obedient to her. I love my parents and they loved me I think.
Post COVID I moved to my hometown (because family) and things started going downhill. My mother will almost entire day find every faults in my wife and share it with everyone with an angry tone. I just listened to her initially for 2 years but at times I told her that it's enough.
Now she has started fighting me. After the fight I would go and apologize to her knowing that it's not my fault just to make things right.
This time when my mother fought with me she taunted me that you will come back and apologize. This hurted me even more than the fight.
Now I am not going back to apologize and she's escalating it every day. Convinced my father and my eldest sister(happily married) that I am a bad son. Shares messages like "maa bap ko pareshan krne vale bachho ko kya fal milta hai" in WhatsApp groups.
She has even asked me to vacate home. I am unemployed at the moment and I told her I will when I have a job.
I don't know how to deal with it. I can't convince people in the family that she has anger issues.

My parents hate me

So bit of context here. I am a 25 year old Male. Moved to bangalore after 2 years of wfh. Stayed there for a year. Got fed up of my job and toxic workplace tendencies so wanted to resign. Dad had been doing a startup for a bit and he felt I was ready to be useful so he asked me to come. I felt it would good for my career so I moved back. 6 months in I feel mentally drained, and all my limited excitement I feel in life are for the small trips I manage to do where I meet some of my college friends/girlfriend. I had read takes online from people that if I had a chance I would leave everything and be at home with parents, but I just dont feel this way. I love my parents a lot but I just dont feel too much anymore. I dont feel like oh I am so lucky I get to spend so much time with my mother. All of my childhood friends from my city have moved to the US. I have 2 friends(not very close but decent) who I meet sometimes, so life is all about waking up, going to office, coming home and calling my long distance girlfriend (who was with me in Bangalore) and falling asleep with 2/3 hours here and there. I rarely have plans. I feel like I am doing something wrong but I cant pinpoint what. How can I passionately want to spend more time with my parents? I just don’t get it from within. Do I really have to work and find new close friends in the city. People at work keep a bit of distance because my dad is the founder. Anyone with any advice?

Struggling to feel excited after moving back home. Can anyone help?

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It's been 2 years since I've lived outside my native city.
My parents are aging (70 above) and I want to live with them, especially papa. Have found myself closer to him as I grew older kyuki bachpan mey phat'ti thi

I have 2.5+ years of work experience as a PM at start ups. I like working under pressure. Hot fixes or quick releases.
I believe in management which observes and takes decisions quickly and releases quickly and doesn't play too safe.

Also, I don't want to quit my current company, but I'll have to since no WFH can be offered. A chance to move back home is the only reason I am thinking of switching.
Am I doing the correct thing? Let me know.

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