How has your perspective on life changed over the years?

How has your perspective on life changed over the years?- Grapevine

How has your definition of success changed throughout your career?
What experiences prompted this shift?

Software Engineer

The number of times I've heard people say shit like 'traveling makes you grow as a person'. Someone please specify what this growth looks like because I've never experienced it.

I don't think traveling is life-changing. I think most people have a romanticized, cinema-like idea of traveling that has been exaggerated even more because of social media. 

It definitely is fun to go on a vacation. But in most cases, that's all it is -- a source of entertainment. Maybe an ice-breaker the next time you go to some pretentious party. 

Am I missing something?

Is travelling overrated?

It depends how & where u travel.  
  
 I will put a quick example - Someone close to me always assumed ki roads usually breakdown in monsoons because it is normal in india. Once they traveled abroad and to a tropical island where rains are very common. After seeing the roads there, first comment was - “Roads don’t break always due to rains”. So, this was a life long learning for that human, broke the mirage of road quality and execution in India.  
  
 Similarly, once I went to a 3-days long trek with a friend to inner jungles of SEAsia. We had to carry drinking water with us & took bath in flowing river. If you have seen “Iss jungle se mujhe bachao” (desi version of fear factor) was shot there. This friend of mine after landing back made a statement “yaar jisne bhi shower invent kiya hai, it’s a big gift”. Takeaway from this travel was - He was able to appreciate the simplest thing which we take for granted.  
  
 Many people learn new things about culture, practices of a new place. My personal surprise was when I traveled to Bali and saw similarities between theirs n ours practices. Helped me to go back n read about various things of empires.  
  
 Multiple such stories, so yeah, it depends!

Product Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am sorry my first post was supposed to be an achievement or CTC /salary  but  will surely come back one fine day with it too.
Anyways, I'm just trying to ask: what helps you? In your deepest, darkest of times, when nothing is working? Forget antidepressants for a second! Besides those medicines, what are some things that make you less depressed? 

The reason why I'm asking is that I am depressed. I was diagnosed by a professional.  Meds I don't like because they end up making me feel 
a) more depressed 
b) not at all myself; 
c) give me other terrible side effects 
Took therapy, antidepressants and what not for insomnia still don't have the right way to handle.

I just wanted new ideas, nevertheless, in hopes of finding something that may actually do something. If you ever have been in depression and insomniac please comment thereby creating a "safe space" Can't we ? For saving one life.
Apologies for the long post but sometimes I just have to say it

Depressed & insomniac .what helped you other than medicines .If you ever have been in this phase, your one solution might help. Please create a safe space. Can't we ? Thanks wholeheartedly.

What's the most valuable thing you've learned from a younger colleague?
How has it impacted your work or perspective?

Age is a very controversial topic (which I find surprising, though I kinda understand why).

Many people crib about growing up, and often remain too deep in the nostalgia of their youth - forever wishing to go back.

Personally, I like growing older. I can see myself having improved significantly from how naïve I used to be.

I’m not looking forward to creaky bones, degrading brain capacity and the eventual downfall of human civilisation (just speculating).
But I feel that aging - and eventually dying - is what gives any sense of progression and conclusion to life.

Would appreciate perspectives from others on Grapevine. What do you guys think? :)

(Also, sorry if I ruined your day by randomly reminding you that you’re ageing. 🥲)

Thoughts on Ageing…

Product Designer

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

I got into a startup (informal) and invested my savings and also took loan from friends and family.

It would take a couple of years to clear up but I am happy thwt I didn't let go.of the opportunity and the learnings also realised the following.
1.I enjoyed the thrill 
2.When something has to go wrong,It will
3.My priorities changed (family,health,mental peace)
4.I am enjoying what I have more than ever and not cribbing about what I don't have.

I am about to touch 40 and lose all savings(instead loans on the head) but I have never felt so calm ;)

Anyone with a similar life altering experience 😉

My hustle mindset backfired and Lost all,but am happy

Investor

Share something that changed as you aged in life

Project Manager

Sometimes I usually think, Why do I lose our school and college friends one by one? Is this a sign of maturity, reality, or something else?

I am just 25 years old, and within 3 years I have lost 90 percent of my circle and the few who left, with whom I usually get time to chat, call, or plan to get out.
 
And I feel that some day I will also lose them.

Can you guys make some comments that I have became  matured or that this is the actual reality of damn life?

Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Reality of life. 
  
 Some genuine relations will still be there even if you guys aren't meeting regularly or in touch regularly. 
  
 However you can consider other relations as gone. 
  
 With time only you will know which ones are going to fall in which category.

Software Test - QA

Application Engineer

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Just met a dear friend with 10+ yoe and earning 33L per anam. 

He doesn't want to get promoted or salary hike as he is getting enough as per need and wants to have good WLB. He is accumulating a 3cr corpus and planning to retire in 10 years in his hometown in Ranchi.

Debt free - family house in Ranchi and married with no kids - single income. 

Isn't the amount very small/too risky? Considering anything can go wrong in future and you should work really hard in 30s to avoid that as much as you can.

What's your opinion? 

Ps. He is also active here and I took permission to ask this question here

Is this new normal?

That dude has understood life, i’m 25 will do the same

Operations Manager

Hi All, what can help me join an early stage startup and grow up to the top close to the founders within a year? I want to be in the middle of the action 

Has anyone here done it before?

How do people climb up/become more important in startups as employees?

If they have the right culture then showing excellency in your role, helping out others in the team, having opinions on decisions taken (not just for the sake of it) should help you get closer to the decision makers. 
  
 Remember that at an early stage startup, everything revolves around the product, and you will be rewarded for aligning with that. 
  
 Speaking from experience, you will be involved in "the action" in a team of 30 people either way

Business Development Manager

You are 35. What have you stopped believing in that you totally believed in when you were 25?

Life lessons

Consultant

Business Analyst

You are being judged and measured every day.
Every quarter your new ratings are being published.
Every here and then your colleuges are getting fired and you dont know when suddenly it would be you.
Such a peer pressure with huge amount of people competing for same shitty life.

How are you guys able to work around this ?

How people in private sector are handling this ?

Have enough savings to sustain yourselves for 1-2 years without a job and be interview ready at all times.

As I'm entering a new stage of life, I'm starting to reevaluate my career priorities. In my 20s, I was all about climbing the ladder and chasing prestige. Now, I'm more focused on finding work that aligns with my values and allows for a balanced lifestyle. 

Have any of you gone through a similar shift? How did it change your career trajectory? And how do you define success for yourself now versus when you first started out?

Redefining success: How have your career priorities shifted as you've grown older?

Man, this hits home. I used to be all about the fancy title and corner office. Pulled 80-hour weeks, missed family events, the whole rat race thing.

Then my dad got sick last year. Spent a lot of time in hospitals, thinking about what really matters. Realized I couldn't remember the last time I took a real vacation or had dinner with my kids without checking emails.

Ended up taking a step back at work. Less pay, but more flexibility. You know what? I don't miss the stress. Sure, the ego took a hit at first, but I'm actually enjoying work now. Plus, I'm finally learning my kids' friends' names!

Success for me now? It's about having time for the people I love and work that doesn't make me dread Mondays. Still figuring it out, but dekhte hain baaki :)

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

I see ladies and gentlemen with heavy pay packages (touchwood hope everyone prospers)

How did this money change your life? 

For example, being the child to a single mother I handle all my expenses now. Yes, I come from a middle class family. 

What were your experiences like? Would love to hear how it brought about any mad changes.

How did money change your life?

Marketing Creative

Hi all, as the title says what drastic changes did you saw in your personality,maturity levels, way of looking at things and reacting to them as well as you aged and do you think that you're a better version of yourself now as compared to your younger self. 

Let's consider college phase and working or working+marriage phase. Or feel free to compare any phases of yours when you think you changed on above parameters.

What aging did to you?

Is it common for someone in mid 20s experience diminishing attention span and mental fatigue? Any advices on how to keep brain active like it was before. (I can literally feel the difference)

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