Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Reality of life. Some genuine relations will still be there even if you guys aren't meeting regularly or in touch regularly. However you can consider other relations as gone. With time only you will know which ones are going to fall in which category.

After 30 you are hardly left with 1-2 friends from school and college. Rest are just social circle and acquaintances. And its okay. As you grow your priorities change and it should change. Otherwise you aren’t maturing enough. My simple thought for life, less people less shit to deal with.

People become friends in school and college because of proximity and ease. Once you pass out, very few remain in your life. But that's okay, you'll also make new friends. Nothing to worry about. You can also try and stay in touch with them by making efforts.

Different POV: Instead of losing out, I have gained friends. I wouldn't say very close friends but yeah atleast something is better than nothing. There will be certain people who wouldn't be friends with you, but a lot of people are in the same boat as you are, wishing they had more friends. Here's what I do. I rarely chat or talk with them on phone. If they are in the same city as I am, I ping them every weekend asking to hang out. When I visit my hometown, I make sure to ping everyone there to meet me. You will need to put efforts, its not gonna be easy. Sometimes I meet people after 6months, 1yr or even more. We start talking from where we left last. Try to treat them if you are meeting them after a long time. The more you hang out, the more the friendship will grow. Please make sure to stay away from people who you aren't comfortable with or don't like.

And here I am losed mostly all the friends after school cz took science and different college then now graduated last month and the calls and notification everything has went silent and realized most of them were along because they needed my help and now it feels like what have I done wrong.

It is the bitter truth of Life.

Structure of societal system. You are being put into mass institutions as a young child with tons of friends to learn and play with each other. Then you grow and the institution of marriage + kids and the individualistic structure of the modern markets put you into isolated units.

welcome to real world buddy, my pov is it's all an arrangement which we make because it was accessible and convenient that time,we were the means to each other's end. we helped each other get somewhere. it was an useful arrangement.

Yeah, I have come in terms that friends are temporary. I have lost all my friends to long distance, losing touch and petty misunderstandings. Tbh, I have reached a point where the only thing that matters is family (parents, spouse) I feel siblings get branched out too.

Bhai even parents will leave at one time to baaki ka kya hi kehna....better hain accept it earliest...life aasan ho jaayegi...koi bhi nahi aayega permanently nahi tumhari life me....

Same for me. I’m also 25. Most of them are getting busy with their love life/marriage life. Feels lonely sometimes but it’s okay.

It's just part of human life. People move on and don't stay in touch, and you always slowly lose friendships that go out of touch, whether school friendships or otherwise. Instead you make new friends around you in your new circumstances. So don't worry about it, it's just a normal part of life.

Reality. You'll make friends at work and they'll dissappear too. Some will continue to be friends for thr years to come and they'll change cities or marry someone and leave you. Trick is to continue making great friends along the way as it's natural you'll be losing them as years go by.

I had a school friend with whom I used to plan stuff like leaving homes together and go out in the wild world and explore stuff ourselves. I was in the 4th Standard at that time.😅 It's been so long since I left school and college. I do not even know where he is, if he's there or not. Even when I go home, I don't see him near his place. God knows if he has moved or something. We used to call ourselves best buddies. And that's another reality of life.

I m that friend who move away with friends, get toxic, ignore them to such extent that they stop coming back. After 25y, I just start staying away with all friends. Your story is same for my friends.

Every particle of our physical composition is temporary. Remember that!

Thats the reality Everyone will become busy with their lives and there is nothing you can do go back to normal rather than staying in touch regularly to keep up your friendshipnfor lifetime

If you are losing ppl in your life, means you are growing buddy. However, do remember that the ones who really care about u would always be there for you. Rest all are there just to like and comment on social media posts etc. Learn to identify your true friends and don’t let them go !

Hey stranger, well the inevitable happened to you too, congratulations! I have lost all of my college friends (read: cut them off myself) except 2 and have a few school friends who have been there for me all through this time and one person I made in Bangalore. That's it that's my entire friend circle. Trust me, right now you might be getting all nostalgic about the memories made and the time spent but eventually you gonna and you will make peace with the fact that this is a part of life and had to happen someday. That's the only way about it as well. The good part is that these people are the ones I can fully trust with my everything, know me in and out and likeways. Btw, I too, recently turned 25 so don't think 25 is too young an age to be losing people. It can happen anytime, you just gotta accept and move on. One advice though, be open to making new friends. You might just find few gems of people worth collecting haha.

It is true that friends begin to fade away with time, but if you are a true friend, they will never leave you.