Hustle culture and toxicity

When I was in melbourne, I met a waiter in an Indian restaurant. He did his bachelor's in biotech and worked at this resto part time. Post his studies he got some job opportunity but stuck to this resto job. I asked him why? He said I get a free house and 2 meals. In 5 years I can collect enough money to go to hometown and buy 2-3 shops and m done for life. That time I was like how can a person be such? With no ambition?
Now I empathize after having high BP, neck pain, and many stress induced illnesses. Work on something, be really good at it and give it time. Its ok to be rich at 45, no need to have millions today. I used to think I missed the bus if I didn't make millions by 30. Now a bit wiser.

I want to point out that the current leadership is full of people born in 70s and 80s and they hate 90s and above people like anything.
No matter how hard you work, it is always subpar for them and they will remain unsure if your calibre.
To be honest, f... the hustle and long hours . I just want to work for a limited time and then chill with my books and gym, Netflix and PlayStation.
I don't care if my boss having a mid life crisis is planning to spend long hours at work because he does not have a life. I have one. I don't want to spend it as per his whims and fancies.

If you are early in your career, like mid 20s or touching 30s, I would suggest to make a pivot, look for something that can give you a constant income of 20k to 30k in your hometown. This should be without any debt.
Rest of the things you can build overtime. Particularly if you have good health. In the long run, your body caves in being exposed to toxic pollutants in metros, burned out from unsustainable hustle culture and vision loss due to the strain of using laptops for long hours.

Slowly build yourself an exit path

...If one is not at peace is it really worth it to work ?

Bang on. We may be blindly chasing careers that will anyway not pay off after we turn 40-45

This would get worse at late 20s and with a lot of churn in our field,Don't know this industry and it's workforce with that much workload still survive ?

Don't work for a flat in which u r never gonna be at peace.

Take break, zoom out, zoom in life from a different perspective.

Prioritise what u want from life and be that minimalistic guy.

Don't run the ratrace

I experienced a lot of what you have written. And probably most people do. The key element to managing all of this is being content.

Now the next question is with what?

Professional life - be content with quality, hours and fair compensation. You can forego compensation for a great opportunity byt correction has to happen, its a temp situation. So think about comp carefully and balance it with the other two.

Personal life - Spend on yourself, your loved ones, on a cause. Time and money. Whatever brings you happiness. In this rat race of professional lives, we often forget to live for ourselves. Need this for family, that for partner, this other thing to signal society. Nope, you only need what makes you truly happy and it can be completely different from the next person and that is absolutely FINE (imagine someone yelling a loud, resounding fine in a positive tone, you will feel better).

I am not trying to diminish what you are experiencing but simply drawing your attention to things that could mitigate this feeling. Which I have been through enough and now become somewhat immune to, it takes time, patience and concerted effort but it can be resolved.

Feel free to ask more questions here or in DM. Happy to help!

What is wrong with the people who decides timelines. Why they make lives of developers miserable. Why so much inhuman behavior.

Maybe a government job... though not sure 🤔