I'm sure this is a joke, but it's Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Consultant

Sorry to hear bro, but i really don't know about that. Now it is painful. I thought it was something funny 🥲

Software Developer

You need to learn how to get clean closures.

Guess getting the experience certificate wasn't enough 😅

It usually is, but you seem to have tattooed employer logos out of your love for them.

Sales manager

Security Analyst

Associate Product Manager

If anyone from my previous org joined my current org, I'd have leave because of this PTSD 💀

Product Engineer

Software Engineer

Product Manager

Taking a new job always reminds me of the past trauma

Systems architect

Name and shame ALL the previous companies

I have more PTSD from previous jobs than past relationships 🙃

I have more PTSD from previous jobs than past relationships 🙃- Grapevine

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My manager is completely unpredictable. I don’t know what they want, they give me unclear instructions and often do a 180 degree turn when it comes to delivering it. They trivialise my work sometimes, don’t take feedback very well, at this point they’re taking revenge when I finally stood up for myself and explained my issues.

I have around 5 years of work experience and worked with various types of people but I’ve never worked for such a person. I even went to therapy just to see if something’s wrong with me instead. This situation is affecting my confidence a lot since I’m also new in the organisation and not able to settle down. 

Did you ever have such a manager and how did you deal with them?

Unpredictable managers

Founder

They don't know your life, may say something that triggers your PTSD
But now you cannot react, though hurt
You cannot drive them away because it isn't even their fault 

🥺😪

Making friends as adults is so difficult

thank you for the support on my last post( https://share.gvine.app/UPfUks6ks55jLbpB8 )

i went to a therapist after that and she made me realize that i have a ton of unresolved childhood trauma which makes me think that earning money will make me feel in control when in fact i still am brutally traumatized by events in the past.

i really liked watching american psycho, and have often related to the mind of patrick bateman. i can only wish that i don't turn out like him. My history with work, wealth and women has always been deranged. 

my work attracts my wealth and it then attracts women. but inside I am hollow. hollow like i live in an empty shell with no conscience. 

life is good and so is 2024. over and out.

update on my last post, went to a therapist.

*TW: Mental Health Struggles*

Hi there, folks!

I was contemplating about how my fellow professionals with mental health conditions manage their careers and grow despite the daily struggles.

You see, I deal with Clinical Depression and Anxiety which often hinders how I function day to day and have too manage through rigorous therapy and opting for heavy medication. 

This condition often disables me to concentrate on long-term performance and stability in a ln organisation- I often get burnout within 6-7 months of the job & need to take a sabbatical of the work.

I will love to hear about anecdotes and see if we all can create a space here. Thanks! (:

Mental Health and Your Career

THE POSITIVE SIDE:
Sometimes you kinda eventually develop a soft corner for your therapist (especially if they belong to the opposite gender) due to the following pivotal reasons:

1. They are perhaps the only person you have who "listens" to you and helps you de-tanglenhour thoughts

2. Their tone is pacifying and welcoming.

3. Sometimes when you are venting out, you logical side of the brain takes the back seat and your emotions take over. During such conditions, you end up trusting someone if they are listening to you with an active interest. 

BUT BUT BUT !

THE APPARENT DARK SIDE:
1. They do all the sweet talk for money. While it may seem like a hard pill to swollow, its just like any other medical profession like cardiologist or radiologist, who wouldnt even look at you if you dont have money.

2. They will obviously judge you and talk about you to their close colleagues or intimate friends.

3. They would want you to BE SAD so that they can get paid. Infact my therapist once clearly said that we only take 20% accountability for everything when I was thanking her (indirectly hinting that if something goes wrong its on me and if something goes right its also on me)



Thanks to my therapist I dont even trust my shadow anymore.

Therapy : An Absurd Profession

Data engineer

This is coming from a guy
I know you dont get asked this question as most people assume that you have more options than men so its easier to make the switch.

But having options "may" not always make things easier. Every bond is different. 

And most mature women never go for temporary validations (rebounds, intoxications etc)

Would love to hear about the triggers that follow, and their respective coping mechanisms 

Open up ladies !!!
Stanley Hudson is curious

Women of GrapeVine, how do you handle an emotional rejection ?

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I come from a good college (tier 2) with very good placements but because of mental health reasons ( I was severely struggling) i had to skip placements. After being unemployed for 4 months after graduation my family forced me into taking a job I never wanted. Very low pay, extremely toxic work culture and insane work hours. I don't even have energy or time left to prepare for interviews or even apply to other jobs. This job is slowly pushing me back into depression. And it even hurts to see that all my friends are earning 17+LPA base + stocks and other benefits, while I can't even get a 15CTC job. I feel my career is over and see no hopes for my future. Should I quit so I can atleast prepare for a better job? Any advice is appreciated.

Should I resign and look for another job?

Broke up in 2020, thought of giving all my energy to my job as my career won't wake up one day and say I don't love you.

Jan 2024 update - Got silent laid off from EY.
Anyone else going through the same trauma?
How to heal?

which is worse: Toxic ex or toxic workplace

External Audit

I have been battling depression from childhood when I didn't even know it was called that. I am trying to switch jobs, I got 1-2 offers as well but I am not happy at all. I stay at home with my parents and work currently. I fear moving to a new place for a new job all alone would be very hazardous for my depression maybe. I tried therapy multiple times, didn't work, tried yoga, reading books, meditation, yet nothing seems to work. I double doubt on myself working in the IT field as well and think I don't wanna do this, i don't know whether it's cos of my depression or me actually hating the field cos I felt bad during my college days as well in anything i did.

I think of offing myself to attain peace and come out of my head from all the overthinking all the time but I understand i can't cos I have to stay well for my mom and dad who love me the most

Anyone has any solutions (maybe proven ones) to this matter?

I.

Is there any way to tackle depression

Data scientist

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I'm typing this out as a way of collecting my thoughts and feeling a bit normal to take myself through the day. Context: I have been working with a small b2b IT firm for the last 1.5 years, and resigned yesterday. This was my first job straight out of MBA and it has sucked the soul out of me to say the least. The notice period is 3 months and I am really unsure how will I survive it considering that I'm already completely drained. 

I do not want to list out the reasons of how this place has been toxic for me because I also carry a lot of self doubt if it was really the toxicity of the place or my own incapability to handle the work. I do not have any offer in hand, and haven't started a job search either. Just wanted to put this out there to see if people here in the community have been in a similar situation in their professional lives and how did they figure out the uncertainty, was it a good decision for them in retrospect and if they have any tips for me to deal with this better, with less anxiety.

I have more PTSD from previous jobs than past relationships 🙃

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