Software Engineer

A better-half? Someone who's loyal, intelligent, funny, adventurous, attractive, humble, clean past, loving, and shares similar aspirations. Your thoughts?

Mine is very simple, someone with whom even death would be peaceful!

DevOps Engineer

Product Manager

No such thing as ideal. Just pick those things u cannot compromise on

Senior Product Manager

Good looking and good vibes. Enthu to go the extra mile with me. Contribution towards a common goal

Program Manager

Ideal better-half? Someone who doesn't ask such questions on a pseudonymous network. Get a life, mate.

Robotics Engineer

Just like in chemistry, the ideal temperature doesn't exist. In life an ideal partner doesn't exist.

Strategy Consulting

What qualities do you look for while finding ur ideal betterhalf?

What qualities do you look for while finding ur ideal better-half?

Ideal better-half

Ideal better-half- Grapevine

What qualities women look for an ideal husband. Also share your experiences to become an ideal husband

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

Married people or people who’ve been in long term relationships, tell me what qualities should one look for in their prospective partner? 
How’d you know she’s the one? What qualities should one look out for and stay away from? 

PS- I’m in a relationship, asking for research purposes.

What do women want?

Marketing Creative

All of us at some point of time go through this phase, fortunately/unfortunately I am going through it too!

Just wanted to know from experienced people, how do you find the right person on the basis of just a few questions?

Or what questions you should preferably ask when you are choosing for a better half?

Choosing right partner in Arrange Marriage?

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

After a few failed relationships, I had an arranged marriage (at that time, it was just to fulfill what my parents wanted). She was a very conventional girl,, never had any relationship before. I was scared going into the marriage too. 
  
 5 years later, she is the best thing that has happened to me. She helped me explore things I never would have. She gave my life a different perspective. 
  
 I'm not saying just because it happened to me, it could happen to you too. I'm saying unless you take the leap you'll never know what you're missing out on.

Founder

Nothing related to work , i want to know how much looks matter in arrange marriage like everything is fine but i am definitely not drew to the person How do i marry such person what if i do not like him ever Please i am not being a jerk I am just ......how do i put it Not into him .....he looks much older than i am my family is like how long will you wait according to them i am already at an ange where i even should have settled with everything which i agree like okay i am 28 but i feel if we are not getting to a kind of person we do not like it's better to not marry at all. I know a person's behaviour is all that matters no money no looks nothing matter it should be a good person i agree but what if i end up not like him ever , i am 28 but Marriage just scares me to the core and also what i am also being made to believe if i look for a average to a bit good looking person he will definitely cheat on me. genuine opinion welcomed please ignore rather than commenting bad.

Finding partner

Analyst

Can be a list too. But Only unmarried men

Unmarried men, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?

A rudimentary understanding of system design and database scaling. Preferably from fintech background. AWS certification and Rust experience is a plus.

Consultant

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

Based on comments Jo career pe focus Kiya use chahiye ladki, aur Jo ladki pe focus Kiya use chahiye career. Grass is always greener on other side.

Product Owner

[hypothetical question] 

Imagine if you had an option to custom make your partner, what qualities would you add ?

let your thoughts run free/wild, it's a hypothetical scenario anyway

[custom made partner]

Senior Software Engineer

Share your list. But Only unmarried women

We did a men survey with huge response rate
: https://grapevine.in/post/808462ef-8ae0-4269-aaa3-c683ba1194bb

Women your turn, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?

I was in depression a few years ago due to unexpected events in my personal life ( I don't want to give too many details, but it is related to family. Nothing happened to me) I have fortunately come out of it, but I still take medication because I don't want to relapse. Not being condescending but I have a good profile, I have studied in top tier institutions (iisc) earning well (30lpa), not beautiful but I know how to groom myself. Every guy I meet be it through friends or parents is initially very interested in me, then I tell them about my diagnosis. They straight up ghost me. Most don't even ask questions to know more. 
 TLDR someone with an open mind and doesn't have a prejudice against mental illnesses.

Data Scientist

For me it's honesty, Loyality and spirituality✨
I have full clarity on the type of girl I look forward to, these 3 qualities come on the top.

What's are the top 3 most important qualities you want in your partner

Analytics Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🤧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking.

Help me guys 🫡.

Are you happy with your marriage?

> at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background 
  
 I'm glad you didn't say "Only candidates from IIT/IIM can apply for this position".

Software Developer

Currently its 2 days wfo, soon its going to be 3 days. How tough is it to manage family if I get married now? My parents are seeing matches and most probably it would be some girl who’s working in Hyderabad as its my home. I am currently working in Bangalore.

Newly married and mandatory office days

Searching for my lobster since fckin 5yrs and no results!

-Tried through contacts, turned down
- Shaadi/Jeevansathi : No one is serious and the more options I get the more end up confused. Likewise for the other side.

Although in online I get plethora of options,I end up wasting time and money.

95% of the matches are doing window shopping.

This is way way harder then getting into FAANG.

Some stats of me:

Height:6'2
Age:33
Diet: Vegetarian/Teetotaler

Btw feel free to reach out to me here also  😂

Betterhalf search

Technical Lead

The context is simple. Given this is a common platform where bois and gals; single, married or divorced exists, this is your chance to share what you are looking for in a ideal partner \ companion? As for why such a POST? The hope is that it would change few thoughts.

Rules:
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1. Don't Spam, if you want to say something that has been already mentioned. Please don't repeat it.
2. I would ask to keep it real and feel free to call out if you see an unrealistic expectation.
3. Be Honest. You don't get anything out of this but other might. 
4. If you could share stories, that would also be fine but keep it short and anonymous.

PS (Bois): I invoke the Bro code, don't spam this post. Lets hear what the gals have to say.

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