😂😂 Given if one of you is a male and you are awake for 16 hours. And need atleast 4 hours of work and 2 hours of the daily eating bathing sitting etc. You have about 10 hours. Given sex after every 2 hours, the only thing you do in a day is sex. Seems like you just had an arranged marriage. 😬

Operations Manager

Associate Software Engineer

It depends on the urges of both. Make changes in your diet. Include Pomegranate, dates, banana. 
 Read the Kamasutra book or check Seema Anand podcasts. 
 Meditate. Workout. Stay away from porn. 
 The more you have sex the more healthy and happy you would be.

It is all good. It's not like we don't have urges. We have a healthy life too. But on an avg what is the general frequency.

Software Developer

Communicate with your partner how often you both want it. Make more time for each other.

Whats your no though? How many times.? I am not sure if mine is normal or it's less. It's definitely not very high

Generalist

If u are married, how much sex do u have on a weekly/Monthly basis? Sometime I am buzy or stressed, sometimes it's the other.

If u are married, how much sex do u have on a weekly/Monthly basis? Sometime I am buzy or stressed, sometimes it's the other.- Grapevine

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It’s a question that many men want to discuss but can’t in the open. How do the costs of life split between you and your partner? If you’re both making the same money, is it 50-50? Or do you each handle certain categories of expenses without getting into the details?

Married men, how much do you spend v/s your spouse?

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How frequent a married couple have intercourse after child birth?

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This should include everything from home bills, entertainment, medical expenses, trips etc. When I was single (back in 2016), my expenses were around 20k per month.

Now I easily go above 1L every month (without rent, we live in our own house). My wife also works and she has her expenses too.

Not sure what’s the reason for it though. We live frugally and don’t spend lavishly (atleast I don’t think we do). I barely buy anything for myself (I use 1k earphones and buy clothes from decathalon). My wife is the same.

Is this common when you get married? That your expenses permanently increase? Or is there something I should be worried about? TIA

Married folks, what’s your average monthly expenses?

20 K + 20 K in 2016 -> approx 35 K + 35 K = 70 K (assuming 7% inflation over 8 years). 
  
 Extra 30 K can be attributed to your lifestyle increase, going out more often , more food ordering , better furniture, gym, medicines, insurance premiums , vehicle purchase, and maintenance if not included etc.

Corporate Strategist

Head Of Marketing

This needs to be cleared out :)
To the men & women in there 30's - 60's.

The answers will be guiding light for many. 

Stay flexi♻️
Let's make grapevine the new reddit 💚

Is s*x really worth the marriage? ❤️

Your advice on No Fap?

Software Engineer

Hello,
In today's world most of the married couples are working. How do you guys manage your non-work life together like kids, food, grocery, shopping, house chores? 
As most of us come from a background where our mothers are housewives and she used to manage the household chores like cooking, house management, kids and other indoor stuff and our fathers used to go out and earn money, and manage outdoor stuff. Now, this paradigm has been changed and I fully accept this maturely but I want to fit in this new model. Can anyone tell me how they are managing it positively?
Thanks for your time and only serious answers please.

How do working couples manage their life?

Just want to understand if it’s manageable when both are working. Like given the current cost of things in tier 2+ cities and uncertain employment scenes… I can’t imagine a household going well enough without both earning. If you’re such a couple, can you share some thought? I would also imagine at some point ur job companies may be in different cities ?

How is married life for folks where both work?

My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

I feel guilty as my fiancé’s pay is 3x mine

When I got married, my partner’s pay was 2X mine. Cut to 8 years later, my pay is now 2.5X more than my partner. I am lucky to have a partner who never questioned me while my pay was lower than hers. So our relationship has been the same then and now.  
 Your pay cannot be the basis on which you decide if you have to be partners or not. If that is causing a rift between the both of you, you should perhaps have a honest conversation with your partner.

Founder’s Office

Analyst

Is it true that chronic stress can permanently affect our libidos? Is it true that we might feel disgusted about something or someone we were oncr pretty eager for? 

I mean , keeping the morning wood aside, I feel every other moment of arousal is dependent on a stimulus right? Then how exactly is it dependent on stress? Shouldnt it be the other way around? I mean stress should create more dependencies on sources of happiness

(Men only) Private Hormonal Question

Data engineer

Married people, did you have love/arranged marriage? Did things go as per your expectations?

I dont care about money above a certain amount, i dont care about power. I just want my newfound family and my stability. To live a happy life surrounded by my loved ones. I feel as if its not a bad dream to have.

All id want is stability

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I see a lot of posts about WLB, I want to know what do you consider as a decent WLB. I will go first.

1. Leave early if the work for that day is done
2. No pings and calls post work hours, there are always exceptions and thats okay, should not become a norm
3. Respecting when someone is in vacation and not disturbing them.
4. Not rejecting leaves 

I will add more in comments If more comes to my mind.

Work Life Balance

Rule of thumb  
 If you get work thoughts outside 9-6 or weekends, it's not WLB.

Computer Operator

I see a lot of girls today have this condition of not staying with in-laws after marriage. I want to know the opinion of both genders on this. As I myself don’t understand what difference it makes. 🫠

Marriage Stuff

Business Analyst

Anybody here who's in their late 20's and family is pressuring them to get married but you're not mentally ready for the responsibility because maybe first you want to achieve something or be in a better place mentally or financially.

For Indian families marriage is just a checkpoint on their long list of responsibilities like science in school, btech in college, gov vs pvt job and stuff. 

I guess marriage is much more than just a wedding. If you're not mentally ready to have a partner reasons could be multiple like maybe you want to achieve something before tying knot or maybe you want to be at a better place mentally or monetary.

Honestly i dont know how to frame this question 
I just need to know the perspectives of married as well unmarried people or maybe any advice. 

I'm 27 btw 🫂

Thoughts on marriage

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Was having a discussion with a friend. All solutions look good in theory. Would love to understand practical choices made by people. 
Also, what do people do when there's a skew in TC between the two spouses (spice? / spices?)

Married people of GV - How do you split expenses amongst partners?

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To all married and working couples out there, how do you folks manage 8hours of work as well as cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner?

Do you guys survive on outside food or have a maid for cooking?

If you both have divided the responsibilities then who does what?

To all working married couples out there, how do you manage work and cooking food?

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
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Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
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If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

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