Did she recently join and is she a bengali?

Software Developer

And she’s been here around a couple of years, I joined after her

Senior Associate

Why BCG , are you trying to switch so preparing

Sorry for the confusion BCG is business Conduct Guidelines followed by IBM

All good in work,  I have a crush on my colleague, sometimes I feel she is the one I’ve been looking for but introvert in me doesn’t allow to speak with her because she’s from another team (need a ...

All good in work, 
I have a crush on my colleague, sometimes I feel she is the one I’ve been looking for but introvert in me doesn’t allow to speak with her because she’s from another team (need a good reason to speak to her)..I usually meet her only on Fridays ( and always there are colleagues around her).. I neither can keep it inside me nor can tell her.. Also my mind reminds me about BCG when trying to speak to her😐😅

Its not related to work😂

Its not related to work😂- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I have a female coworker of mine with whom I have become very good friends with. We talk a lot during office hours. I feel very happy around her and i am able to express myself the most in front of her. I keep thinking about her all the time, even when i am at home, during weekends. However i feel that she only thinks of me as a friend and nothing more. This is based on signals i picked up during various instances, conversations we had. This thing breaks my heart. Also since I dont have a friend group as such to make weekend plans with, i mostly keep thinking about this during weekends sitting at home and this shit has been hurting me a lot. Seeing my other friends insta stories is a final bullet which further pushes me into depression. Sometimes i just feel like being open about this in front of her but then this could take a very bad turn if things dont work out in a happy way. I also cannot completely avoid her since we are in the same team and same project. 

Can someone please help with how to deal with this?

Crush on my teammate is affecting my productivity

First of all uninstall instagram. I have done it and it helped with my social anxiety.

Software Engineer

I like someone in my office, but not getting the courage to tell that person. because i have created my image like a good person who will not do such things in the office area.

Getting questions in mind like: 
What if that person informed about this to my seniors?
What if any problem came to my career?
What to do now?

Is having a crush in the office good or bad?

Are you hot af? Then approach her. Otherwise, HR will approach you.

Pre Sales

I have been talking to this woman lately at work since the past 2 months (I KNOW dating at workplace isnt a great idea but pasand aagai kya karu) . Currently, we are mere workplace buddies and not in a relationship. 

On somedays she is like really friendly with me and starts talking about her life and I love listening to her. 

On certain days she is extremely unapproachable and feels like a stranger. 

I know mood swings hote etc but why would she ignore me completely on some days while try to engage in meaningful conversations on other days.

It keeps alternating and its very annoying. 

I feel like supporting her on bad days but she doesn lt want that it seems.

Yeh odd even kar kar ke mai thakk gaya hu
I just want her. Every single fckin day of my life. 
She makes my day a little more worthy every time we talk, and I feel when you find such people, you shouldnt let them go !

Mixed signals from my crush

Data engineer

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Some days going to office just feels like I am just existing to show up. 

Anybody feeling the same way?

Just Showing Up

Yeah Same Bro, My Office lacks a culture of keeping folks motivated, it fails to give a reason for people to come to office. No office parties or informal catch-ups for over a year makes it worse.

Product Manager

5 days work from office is the Best

Senior Software Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Am I the only one who likes working from office (Bengaluru)? I go to office every day, and it helps me to be more productive.

- There will be no distractions
- Team mates will be around, and if there is any queries, I can straight away ask them rather than typing a message or setting up a call
- Occasional chit chats
- Having lunch together
- being a part of all the conversations happening
- Managers works from office - a good rapport with him as well

- Free food
- Free Transport (can mates - another plus point)
- Good work set-up

- Meet new people almost every day
- Build/deepen real connections every day
- Interact with folks starting from entey level to senior directors or VPs regularly (L1 - L9 is the range mentioned here)


FYI: I moved to Bengaluru for work, although I've the option to work completely remote. 

One of my team member even mentioned that he has not yet been able to connect with the team member who has joined before me, like how he could connect with me.

I understand that once people have family, it will be difficult to manage everything. One of my team mate actually mentioned that, he used to do/manage everything properly before Covid, but it's kind of not easy/lazy since Covid.

I also realise that not everyone has the above perks, but still. 

Commute can be an issue. I travel 50+ KMs every day to and fro. I start by 7 am in the morning to morning traffic, and take around 75 minutes in the evening (I can survive the traffic without having to use my mobile 😂)

I do miss my family frequently, but I do have the flexibility to go home and stay a few days when I want. Staying alone in a service apartment is the only disadvantage as of now.

Working from Office

How do you approach your crush in the office ?

DevOps Engineer

Growth And Strategy

Just wanted to know if anyone on GV has had any kind of romantic / physical relationships with people at work or know of anyone who has and how did it end up as well as their thoughts on the same.

Office Crushes / Romances and how did it go ?

As a wise grapeviner told years ago  
 "Don't hookup where you V-lookup."

Consultant

Assistant Manager

I have no time for hobbies or anything considering I spend most of my time working. My only social outlet is my colleagues and I don't want to end up gossiping with them all the time. How do you guys (who are in a similar situation) manage?

What do you talk about with people at the office?

Brand Marketing Manager

Becoming too much friendly and little close with colleagues is good or bad thing? 

In my company/team most the people are from same age and mostly male. I found there is too much unnecessary discussions and arguments and worse thing is you have to respect each other. 

Just curious because today my junior almost disrespected me and I was very confused how to react.

Too much friendly with Colleagues

Frontend Engineer

What's your most embarrassing moment in your office

Was sharing screen for internal call when I zoned out and started texting my girlfriend on screen

Chief of Staff

I know a lot of people love working from home. But small rant here. 
Honestly, straight out of college I thought I would do too. But no, I absolutely do not.

Why? 
1. No personality development. It's honestly like an online college all over again (1/2 of my college "life" was online). I talk to a screen, waste a lot of time otherwise. 

2. I don't have a room to call my own. I know this is going to make me sound like a privileged brat but I need my privacy to feel my full confident self. My family members are always on top of my head and spy on me during work. No they really do.

3. I hate, absolutely LOATHE approaching people on teams. I'm more social, confident and comfortable working in an offline setting be it presenting something or talking to senior folks in general. 

4. I have NO life outside of the computer/home. My hobbies, interests everything are inside the tiny room I share with my parents. I still have 2 different desks (which are literally next to each other) for work and personal stuff respectively. When I had offline semesters, it was really awesome as I had balance.

I graduated in 2023 and of course I have a lot to learn, but I'm seriously thinking about searching for another job that's not WFH. I'm still early career and I think I should not be working remote. Am I stupid?

I cannot work remotely.

Work from home is hellish for extroverts. There is no alternative. I've tried co-working spaces. But nothing beats the actual office experience. 
  
 If you're young, go to office and build your network.

Its not related to work😂

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