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Product Manager

Software Engineer

Software Developer

Operations Manager

Literally me right now!!

Literally me right now!!- Grapevine

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

Consultant

Using image in comments feature 😁

P.S. My Grapevine time would be much more, I keep deleting and reinstalling app (like the relationship you cannot get over 🥲)

How's screen time looking for last week?

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

I always think of studying or building that one project over the weekend or complete that one chore which is pending from past 2 years!
But fail everytime, I don't even move on weekends i don't like going anywhere I don't even like house full of people I just want quite time in weekends but unfortunately don't get it so I feel like I have not relaxed properly and this makes me think I deserve to be lazy all because of this have not studied from a long time so much so that I am almost back to being a noob on my skills its so freakin heart breaking where I have landed myself and I repeatedly do this every week! I can't even focus on one thing. Even if I quit social media and get serious it's just for 2-3 days max after that I am back to the procrastination den.

Please guide, seriously need advice and steps that can be helpful to overcome this.

Need advice on procrastination. Please pitch in.

Data Scientist

Memes

Adulting is going great! *sobs silently*

Intern

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Done with my end-sem, and started building projects and learning new concepts for like 15hr+/day, but now it's getting boring for me(I like working on projects) no physical interactions with friends just sitting in a room and coding😩. bruh sometimes I like watching series, movies, and animes but now that's also getting me bored.

Any suggestion what you all do in such time? I wanted to be productive, spend time where boredom can be escaped but also get some productive output.🫂

Bored After college exams

Literally every Genz be like

Living in Bangalore is like participating in a daily obstacle course of stupidity these days. It's like the city is hosting the World Championships of Not Using Common Sense. Day by day, it’s getting crazy in here. People are literally just straight-away stupid.

Picture this: I'm in the metro, following the line like some good boii. But no, here come the backline breakers, sprinting ahead like they just got the memo that the free WiFi is about to expire. They won’t even have the patience to let others deboard from the station (bs ghusna hai sbko).

On the road: Small Aile is there, and these morons either walk in the middle of the road or walk slowly like they are going to maaiyat. There is no way to even overtake them.

One day a couple was literally just standing in the middle of the fucking metro entry gate, and all other people were going from sides. I was literally at my fucking limits; I controlled the urge to ask them that whatever shit they're discussing, if that is a national concern, then it’s okay; otherwise, please fuck around on the side.

And what’s up with this throwing garbage on the road thing, literally every morning on the road, tons of food, spillage, and disposals of whatnot can be seen. God, please throw it in the trash.

Rant! (Bangalore)

Lawyer

Security Analyst

Job posting: Budget 20L to 2.5CR 
Translation: Isko laga daala to life jhingi lala...

Also goes on to say (on behalf of the Hiring Manager & Recruiter duo)..
1/ I am here to buy a car but am super okay with you selling me crocs
2/ I want to go on a world tour but don't mind getting stuck at Silk Board
3/ I am okay to hire an intern but don't mind hiring a CXO
4/ We just had our brains removed. We are still adjusting to this body

Also I am thinking 
- you could have as well started at 2 Rs and gone to 2500 Crore
- I so so so... want to see the interview process 
- Who are these 78 folks who applied.. 
- Onboarding kit possibilities range from Vim Bar to Gold Bar
- and ... Delhi mein hiring kuch alag hota hai kya??

Marinating in so much FOMO right now.. 🤦‍♂️

Human Resource

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential!

Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document

The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant

Does anyone ever wish they were... Less?

I used to be a creative guy in my mid 20s. I learned to play a guitar, could sketch pretty well and also used to work out pretty regularly.
Lift has changed drastically in the last 2 years and I now find myself no time to spend on my hobbies. I tuned 30 recently and have been under slight shock that my responsibilities are bound to increase due to family and work.
I had no responsibility till now and had lived a care free life.
Now that I am engaged, I've realized that I need to dedicate my time for my family, my well being, my upskilling and also some to to evaluate my finances. This has also made me realize that I won't have enough time for my hobbies/interests. I badly want to learn to play an electric guitar and the fact that I won't have much time terrifies me as I need to make a choice of doing something that I love (learn to play a guitar) or doing something that helps me to live a life and pay off my bills which basically is my full time job.
I might have a child in another 4-5 years and the responsibility of having a child terrifies me even more. 
I don't want to make a choice between being there for my child and being there for my work.
I'm not sure if I'm over thinking or just being realistic but not having enough time for yourself due to work and family has been bothering me lately. 
I'm 30 and the fact that responsibilities are bound to increase in my life terrifies me.
Is this a common and a normal feeling or is this unnatural?

Folks who are working in your 30s, do you still find time to work on your hobbies? If yes, how are you able to manage your family life, work life, upskilling, working out and making time for your hobbies?

Product Designer

Hey guys so not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but I really need help from wherever I can get. 

So I was never into pornography until college happened in 2014 and I had a single room all to myself and unlimited high speed internet. 

It started with watching porn on weekends and snowballed into doing it daily over the course of the next 4 years. 

Not only that, as of today I am spending so many of my productive hours (3-4 hours) on sites like Omegle hoping to meet someone with the same fetishes as me.  (ik foolish me) Not only that I do the same on Telegram, Instagram, Snapchat, Kik, Discord etc. I know I'll never get anything worthwhile here but I am deeply addicted to this expectation that I will. 

Today I haven't come out of my room. Since 9am when I woke up, I have only been looking at porn and at these sites doing God knows what!  (It has been 8 hours) ☹️

Not only these, once or twice I had a chance to get intimate with a girl, but I could not keep it up and ejaculated within a minute.

Guys I have ruined my life. Please guys I am begging you, I want to pick myself up and make a man out of myself and live a happy life. I am very very sad and depressed. Please help me if you can.  It has been 10 years, I am 28 now and I can't take it for one more day. 😭😭😭

Need help from everyone to break an addiction that is destroying my life

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So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Me and my friends aren't even getting shortlisted for an interview.LinkedIn isn't working, direct referrals isn't working. After multiple rounds they just decide to go the other way. And this is happening with experienced talent. What the hell is happening!

Rant:What is up with hiring market for product!!! It's way worse than developers. I know that a general comparison scenario but past few months it's gone super downhill.

Instagram drives fomo have created epidemic of status driven consumption like ₹2500 for a one hour class of pottery, strawberry picking for Rs. 2000.

What happened to free activities like playing morning cricket or enjoying IPL finale with your best friends / family . 

Bangalore economy is running on fomo

Bangalore economy is running on fomo

Finally someone said it 🙏  
 Why is Staying at home looked down upon

I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? 

I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get.
To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. 
I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished.
I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.

Can anyone explain me what’s the point

Backend Engineer

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Everytime my routine gets fucked up i feel like not doing anything!

Note feeling that great right now

UX/UI Designer

Had a chat with a senior PM today on the need of the PM function with Ai getting smarter. 

Engineers build, designers design, data people analyse things, and a business person has the mind to make money by leveraging the team. When a point arrives where Ai does all the IC part of Engineering, Design and Data, there won't be a requirement of PM function at all! 

Creativity, Empathy, Product thinking, all these skills will be owned by Engineers, Designers, Data  and Business leaders. These skills like "product sense" are something that won't hold the fort much longer because eventually all good engineers, designers and data people will have to develop the customer empathy and product sense to prompt the Ai and do their individual job better.


IMHO it is a high time that all PMs work to strengthen at least one hard skill to keep themselves employable. 


While I am writing this post, unfortunately I am also the one who is seeking a PM role right now. 

Any suggestions or thoughts you have on which hard skill to master and how to remain employable?

Literally me right now!!

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