I understand your predicament. Life can be chaotic, but remember, it's the same for everyone. We all have our off days. My advice? Embrace the chaos. It's not about the routine, it's about adaptability. The more flexible you are, the better you'll navigate life. Remember, it's okay to take a break.

Robotics Engineer

Everytime my routine gets fucked up i feel like not doing anything!

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Note feeling that great right now

UX/UI Designer

Note feeling that great right now- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am interested in specializing in fullstack development with modern tech stack, nextjs, prisma, postgresql, shadui. My current project has over a million loc, ancient tech stack though: java struts, weblogic. Build time takes around 2 hours and running it locally is a 8 point story task everytime. 

I have been trying my best to learn on the side. Have also built some projects but I need to be more fluent.

Only my debugging skills and code navigation has improved and that too has peaked.

I am now feeling stuck. Coming from office tired and then I feel guilty for not having learned on the side because I am mentally tired in office.

Can anyone suggest how they dealt with this kind of problem or if my perspective is wrong

Stuck in ancient tech project

Software Developer

Same as title. These days due to low job security and having faced layoff last year, I always feel the need to continuously do interview prep like DSA, LLD, etc even when I am not actively looking for a job. Plus, due to new technologies coming up, I feel the need to keep upskilling too. If I don't upskill or do interview prep continuously, I feel guilty as if I am wasting time. I feel like at this point, I am just living life to upskill and interview prep. Is there a way to balance all this along with work as it gets very tiring after a while and I feel burnt out?

How do guys balance daily work and upskilling?

Software Engineer

I had been working out on and off since covid and was not able to maintain consistency (used to workout at home regularly for a couple of years before covid). So I started going to cult a month back to be consistent and developed some good habits like 10k+ steps everyday, balanced meals and 5 days a week workout etc.
Now, I didn't go for a workout for the last 4 days, and I started getting food cravings and I am not able to maintain the steps as well. 
What's the solution here? I feel just working out keeps me centred in terms of other habits as well, but how do you all manage workout breaks and maintain healthy habits during non-workout days?

How do you bounce back from fitness breaks?

Data Analyst

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Ghosting everyone and thinking how a cheerful person turned into a depressed and lone ass!

Isn't life pre-COVID exciting and now it seems so gloomy! 

I missed my spark for quite a long time, and it's getting tough for me to bounce back. 

I'd like to hear from fellow grapeviners on their bounce-back with a bang story:)

Do you want to end it all?

Project Manager

Last two months had been great, I was consistently building a morning routine. Included little fitness too.
Happy how my body felt energetic.
Until one day, "I didn’t feel like getting up"
Two weeks, Schedule is back to groggy mornings, skipped breakfast, put on visible fat

Work has got shittier.
My day starts with 2 hours of compulsory, back-to-back meetings, followed by more 1-O-1s through the day. 
The meetings are just crying how things are bad, not working out, employees are not putting efforts, revenue is down, sales is not performing, clients are leaving - 3 hours later, we still haven't got a action plan. What's the use?

This wasn’t meant to be a rant. 
Just that cannot tell people to fuck off.
I feel should tell a part of me to fuck off too.

How do you overcome low days? (Indian parents term for being "lazy")

Consultant

Ok now, good tips on how to stop procrastination and actually get stuff done?

There's no 1 answer to it. It cannot be solved in an instant. I attend therapy to deal with issues in my life. I find Procrastination a single most disastrous thing in my life.  
    When discussed, I was told that focus on self Discipline. Here are things i was told - 
 1. Try to make a timetable which has all the indulgences you do(netflix etc) and also the work you wanna do, experiment with time tables to understand what works. 
 2. Try to get to root of the problem when you procrastinate. Find out why you are doing it. I do it knowingly as in, I am consciously aware of it. I am now in pursuit of finding why I do it when I do it and sticking to a plan I make. 
 3. I have made a note of how harmful Procrastination has been in my life, how it has affected so many aspects of my life 
 4. Procrastination is a way of dealing with your emotions so that you get the immediate dopamine hit instead of a reward far later in your life. So, I am told that it's like having a relationship with yourself. You reason with yourself and understand why you are procrastinating, what emotions are you feeling that is making you procrastinate and how do you solve for it! Remember, being hard on yourself is just gonna make matters worse! Always do truth seeking for these things, be kind to yourself. Little by little you should be able to navigate.  
  
 Unfortunately without knowing what kind of Procrastination you have, it's not advisable to take up my points. I suggest consult with a therapist and talk it out and solve for it!

Everyone seems so lonely , i just see loneliness on each and every individual. I don't know why , i think because I'm lonely  thats the reason i see loneliness all around . I feel no body is happy or sad. But tired of everything. we cannot be consistent for anything whether it's studies , job , relationship , marriage . We want change in everything every now and then . But with same time we want a home where we can find our comfort. Where we can find our people.  Why humans are like this .why can't e be satisfied. We are humans we want people with same time we don't let people enter in our life .just nothing seems goood.

Nothing is Good or Bad

Analyst

I've got an idea and I'm eager to turn it into reality. 🌟 
What are your thoughts around what should be the process, steps, the right path one should take in order to bring a product to life. 🤔💡

Building a Product

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Please tell me if there is any survival kit to survive the layoff. I am a Product Manager and have been laid off yesterday. Since then I have been panicking and feeling anxiety all the time. I am trying to be calm and handle this with all my patience but I am failing into this. I feel lost, confused, and shattered. Even breathing feels like a task right now. I can sense my heart rate going fast. 

Is it normal to feel this way?

Survival Kit After Layoff

1. Visit crematorium one day and you will realise all this is bullshit 
  
 2. Spend some time going to slum area and you will understand people can be happy in 10k earning also 
  
 3. Visit stores operated by handicapped and you will understand how much lucky you are

Product Manager

Just got to know I was laid off, any personal stories or experiences you folks would like to share, 
- what helped you to find the next job
- how to mentally get over it it etc,

Thanks!

Things to do after getting laid off

So sorry to hear this @Yamprofessional! I’ve seen you on grapevine for some time and you’ve been so great! It felt like a friend got laid off :(  
  
 Please let me know if anything I can do to help! :/

Founder

Product Designer

for me. i spent college studying for grades and 20s making money in a job I don't like, but never got to make the memories I should've with all my friends. I regret doing all of that

what is your worst mistake professionally?

If we are spiralling, let's spiral right

1. Focused solely on grades in colleges
2. Thought Campus placements were ultimate goal
3. Spent 3 years in a company with 5% increment (once), because it was comfortable
4. Scared to ask even minimum budget while negotiating salary
5. Overthinking every step, still not taking actions to correct or fuck up anything
6. Major major regret - not taking risk of starting own. It also has to do with parenting, but lets not blame.
7. Ran away from public sharing - speaking, athletics, all extracurricular activities for that matter. Kids grow up with zero confidence and looking fat & ugly. (I'm not fat shaming, some fat people look 🤌)

I'll add more, there will be more for sure 😂

On the days you feel down, how do you keep yourself motivated?

Product Marketing Manager

Everyday i wake up with no motivation to work. Spend most of my day trying to gather any will i have to get something done and just wait for the evening standup. After which i have no energy to do anything since all was lost trying to ( not necessarily doing ) work. Can anyone relate? Or gone through it? How do you even fix it?

PS: don't suggest grass is greener on other side and how there are jobless people in the world...

Lost motivation to work

My brain is an over-reacting type. Since the past 2 years, I have been planning, at this point I don't even know what since it has no outcome, various things, job change, going for higher education, promotions etc. 

Got nothing, and am just done done. My brain just constantly hurts now. Want a detox to clear my brain, to start with all this again 🤕

Travel doesn't seem to be an option right now.

Want to detox my brain. Suggest some ways

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

I realised it today after almost 2 Yrs of working with my current firm. 

What was I doing?? 
—— Chasing numbers, building reports, finding new projects to work, Improving my personal brand within the company, perfecting and perfecting everything I work on, taking someone else’s ownership because they aren’t doing it and lot more.

Multiple people classify this under WorkaHOLYsm..

What does all these things give me?? 
——- Decent Hikes and Salary 💵 (Not much of a Financial Stress)

What did I lose?? 🥺

——- I lost my ducking feel of “living the moment” dude

I am literally realising this since a couple of weeks, I used to be fun, friendly and lively in the moment couple of years ago.

In past, People used to be jealous of how I live without any tension finding fun in everything I do —- Indeed I do have tensions then and now…!!

When I meet my friends recently, They say I was zoned-out, non-sync and no more fun and serious all time.

I have started feeling that I am not able to enjoy the “moment I live in” anymore and this is concerning to me.

Is this a Burnout Moment??

When my friends asked me what do I do apart from Work, I literally had to think twice/thrice and then answered that I watch Movies.

I currently do nothing else apart from work and watching movies.

Do you feel this is bad or am I exaggerating a normal thing..!!

Anyone with the same feeling and stuck in this freaking loop?? How did you come out of it.!!

Is this a Burnout moment’’’

Hello everyone,

I hope you're doing well. I find myself in a challenging situation and could really use your advice and support.

**Context:**
I graduated in 2021 with a degree in electrical engineering from a decent college, but unfortunately, I didn't secure a placement. Since then, I've been struggling to find my path and ended up taking random jobs, leading to a significant gap in my career of almost 2 to 3 years. Alongside my career struggles, I've been battling with depression and anxiety, which have been exacerbated by the lack of support from family and friends. Despite seeking help from therapists and doctors, I haven't seen much improvement. Additionally, I attempted the GATE exam without success, as I lack passion and feel limited options are available.

**Request:**
I'm feeling lost and fearful about my future, especially considering my physical and mental health issues. My confidence has taken a hit due to repeated failures, and I find myself fearing everything. I'm reaching out to this community in the hope of finding guidance, support, and perhaps some practical advice on how to regain my confidence and overcome these fears.

**Additional Request:**
If anyone has faced similar challenges or has insights on how to rebuild confidence after setbacks, I would greatly appreciate your input.

Any insights, personal experiences, or suggestions you can offer would be immensely appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read this and for any help you can provide.

Warm regards

Seeking guidance for carrer and mental health

So I have been looking for projects in my company for around 2 months now.
I gave 4-5 interviews and got rejected in L1 interviews in all for one or the other reason.
Today, after so many days I got a chance to give client interview (happens after L1 interview...in case someone has no idea about it). It lasted 50 mins and I didn't perform well.
After feeling down for about an hour, I'm not feeling well.
I have observed myself that whenever I'm sad/down...I automatically gets better after few hours.
I should be feeling sad for loosing the chance that I got after 2 months but I'm like ....it's alright 🙃

Is this some sort of healing mechanism that my brain has created for me or I'm not sincere or serious about my life??

Is something wrong with me?

People of Grapevine, how do you maintain (or try to maintain) a regular workout routine. How often do you workout and what do you do.

Workout Routine

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
.
Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
.
If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

Note feeling that great right now

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