Regardless, the ipill will fuck her up for a few days so be extra nice to her.

Software Engineer

Don't give her ipill, it will f up her future changes of pregnancy, not good for her health bro 
 If you love her don't give her ipill or any other contraceptive, use protection or git pull before merge

Software Developer

Senior Consultant

Bro chill. Chances are 0%. And take my advise don't let her see your fear.

I am really not letting her see my fears. I have assured her that everything’s gonna be fine and i am with her to take care of things but deep inside i am so fucked up

Analytics Manager

@PeakyCoder when she had the day1 of last period? You can back calculate and make sure the chances of getting preg. or not

her last period was on 9th october and incident happened on 20th oct morning which basically means either she is in ovulation phase or leading into that

Product Owner

Hardware Engineer

Thats not an option right now so only thing we can do if we end up getting pregnant is abortion, but i am very unsure about how it works and how it will go

Founder

The probability is in your favour with the pill 
May the right thing happen 

And never ever do this!

Corporate Strategist

Product Manager

Wait for a month if she gets her periods. Else do a test with pregnancy sticks. They are quite accurate. Should your fears come true, mutually consent to termination of pregnancy.

Project Manager

If the Ipill was taken within 24 hrs then chances are very less of getting pregnant.

was in the same state when I was 20, mine protection just tore out. Was in a totally fucked up state also I was a bit late to jugaad for ipill yet there were no issues. It’s gonna be alright I know it’s hard to stop yourself from overthinking every worse possibility but just trust your faith and take care of her.

Frontend Engineer

You should have thought this before you decided to  make this mistake.

you degenerates deserve it… & that raand will marry some innocent guy

I ( 27 M ) am in relationship with a girl (27 F ) yesterday night we ended up having unprotected intercourse ( i know too silly of us ) and since then my life is completely fucked up. I am not able...

I ( 27 M ) am in relationship with a girl (27 F ) yesterday night we ended up having unprotected intercourse ( i know too silly of us ) and since then my life is completely fucked up. I am not able to concentrate anywhere for even a minute. Although we took i-pill within 1.5 hours but knowing that it isn’t 100% effective, my heart is just sinking. There are continuous thoughts of unwanted pregnancy, abortion, pain etc. Has anyone ever gone through this, please give me your shoulder, i need it. 

P.S : please don’t comment anything related to trolling or anything if possible, i am already doomed.

Messed up real hard

Messed up real hard- Grapevine

How did you manage or navigate through it

Have you (& partner) ever had pregnancy scare?

Intern

I'm 21 m. Had a 9 months old relationship with a girl who's 6 months older. It was the best 9 months of my life. We connected on so many levels that I never thought would happen with me at such a young age. 

Recently, she broke up with me. It was not our mistake. Her mother isn't well (from a long time, and I knew that) and her last wish is to see her daughter getting married. 

Forcefully, she had to admit this and told me everything. And told me that we need to end this. 

It's been 3 weeks, and there's minimal contact between us. 

I'm a final year college student, not getting placements, too much pressure from family. I can't think about anything. Feels like all of this is eating me up. We had very secure future plans, but everything is over now. I don't know what to do. 

I try very hard to stay on track, but her thoughts are eating me up. I've started meditation, therapy and everything, but nothing is working the way I thought it would do. 

She was the one that gave me assurance that everything will be fine. Her presence was the most peaceful thing I had, but now, there's nothing. 

Help me, please. 

PS: please don't judge me the way I am. I'm trying to be normal as much as possible but nothing's working.

Need urgent help.

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[Hypothetical] You got your girl pregnant at your current life condition, what are you doing next?

Growth Manager

I think the current phase in my life is the lowest I am already PIPed by swiggy and I have broken up with my gf.

Feeling like my life has reached the end. Can't sleep at all specially after the break up. Now I regret for blocking her atleast I should have waited until getting into some company. But now I don't want to go to her due to some personal reasons.

It feel sucks. I am not able to focus on interview preparation. I am not in depression but my mental health is shit right now and gets headache daily.
Please help me shall I consult some doctor for this or is this okay. I don't have much friends that's why I am asking here

I genuinely need help

Sorry for posting here. Can anyone help me

Sorry to hear what you're going through. It may sound cringe but praying to god helped me during my tough times. 
 Talk to your parents and siblings if you're on good terms. If nothing helps talk to a psychologist. 
 I may get flack for saying this, but right now you have a much bigger problem to deal with, i.e. PIP. Start preparing for interviews during weekends and try to finish your office work diligently.  
  
 As for your relationship, no one here knows how serious you were about it. If both of you hadn't considered making it long term, I would say it's better to keep things the way they are right now. I had a pretty bad breakup few years back, but now when I look back, all I can do is laugh about the fact that,  I was head over heals for such a shitty person. 
  
 It's my suggestion and I might be completely wrong and being a d*ck here. You have to decide what's utmost important to you write now. 
  
 Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, then your work, and then someone else. Wish you all the best.

1. In depth Medical study of female body. 
It is shocking how doctors treat women issues with a contraceptive pill (and it is just not in India). Not their fault, we don't have much data to refer to.

2. Shift focus on Male Contraception.
It makes more sense to remove bullets than move out people.

3. Inflation, poor life standards, lack of choices and pseudo feminists pushed women to earn a living.
While I 100% support financial independence, no one asked for support in household chores. Those are 24X7 jobs, and equally energy draining.
Yes, things are changing. Our generations' couples are well beyond but still needs fixing.

4. Make marriage & kids a choice and not norm or "next in plan" theory.
You want them? Cool!
You don't want them? Cool!

5. Talk about feminine health more.
Do not just write ass long LinkedIn posts dissing period leaves because you have fairly light ones. Also, periods are just one part. There are more steps and goes beyond reproductive age. Specific reasons why are mothers have suddenly been so cranky 

6. Schooling needs recentering.
You put kids in all-boys/girls schools to prevent "young distraction" and when they embrace non-binary relationships, you are upset over not following "culture".

7. Men & women CAN be friends.
Yes, there are higher chances of the relations going beyond or less, but not all opposite genders experience sexual tensions. This is why we aren't animals (most of us aren’t)

[Long post] Things we should talk on Women's Day, and you'll agree to them

Consultant

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Context - Applied for leave but manager told that there might be some work coming my way so don’t take leave. I obliged but then I had an Idea of Workcation 😭

Since work till now is pretty lite so I planned a workcation thinking I would be working for like 4-5 hrs and will roam around in the evening. 

But on the day of my travel, my manager called and told me that there’s some high priority work and I had to put in long hours for getting this delivered within this week so considering I will not be having much time to roam and explore, I ended up cancelling my travel plan losing 15k in bookings and here I am, having not much to do because we are waiting for other folks to share some data and inputs. 

I mean wth 🤦‍♂️ Life has fucked me really hard.

Note- I live with my parents so I had planned a good 4 days getaway with my wife but it seems destiny had other plans. Since my parents are dependent so we both never got chance to travel and explore in each other company. 

Venting out here for no reason.

Rant: Life always fuck my travel plans.

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Am I the asshole?

After a few months clear to me an employee was taking company for a ride. Average a few days a week in the office, otherwise sick/on errands, delivered no work. CTC 55L.

Before I could fire her, she announced she was taking Maternity leave a few months into the job. Well crap guess I need to pay her for 6 more months more because of laws I don't understand. Rip my bank account.

She returns, same issues. I put her on a pip & she resigned telling me I'm sexist and it will be hard to find a new job now. I say sorry, performance was bad, she can do pip and stay if things are better. She askes for 2 months salary and i agree.

A lawyer calls telling me I need to pay more or they will file a case. Said I discriminated to her, and it's not legal.

I think this person is a bully/psycho/self entitled. But am I the asshole?

AITAH? Fired a lady after maternity.

Thats how things play.  
 Sometimes things are genuine sometimes u come across opportunists. You can never fully get to know what is the actual situation. 
  
 She might have genuine problems but if the conduct aint good, to hell with it.  
 She might be faking it to retrieve more money,

Technical Lead

Investor

Hi GV community,

Sharing a personal issue here but i trust this community số much that i hope i will get some good suggestions.

I have been dealing sexual health issues ( ED and PME ) , i am 26 years old, and it has put my relationship with my girlfriend almost to an end.

Earlier issues wasn’t even that severe like i was atleast getting hard morning erections and all but since couple of months even the morning erections have become rare and normal erecetions have become weak

I want to understand from GV community if anyone here or their known has dealt with this issue or have been able to fix it ?

Other details :
Smoking - No
Drinking - occasionally, not more than twice a month
Physical activity- moderate, doesn’t hit gym regularly but do go out for walks and all

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Why do you love Bangalore besides the weather?

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I am a homosexual, and I've found the dating culture here to be much better than in other parts of the country. However, I generally keep that aspect of my life private at work.

When I started dating, I was well aware of where high-risk behaviour takes you to. I made it a point to get tested every six months.

One of my tests took an extra two days for a re-run of the sample, and I received a call to meet the doctor in person. I knew that’s the standard protocol for an HIV positive result.

While I wasn't surprised, I was deeply saddened by the results. Coming from a middle-class family, I had worked hard to secure a good job, earn money, and support my family. Yet, this virus seemed to be an inevitable part of my journey ever since my struggles began as a teenager.

I've always known that I needed to be successful and strong to succeed in all aspects of life. But this is not a battle that can be won. It is a slow surrender to death. Life is an acceptance of your eventual death for everyone but mine is fated to be in my 50s. 

Some close friends, family members, and any partners I meet are aware of my condition, but I prefer not to deal with the hassles and perceptions at work. Legally, NACO registration is optional, have chosen not to.

With the hookup culture increasing in the city for everyone, I hope this serves as a PSA to be safe.

Messed up real hard

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