A recent scare with a friend, all our gang was waiting on the girls' period 😂

Software Developer

Oh damn! Can only imagine how that must have been

Founder

Intern

Product Owner

Senior software engineer

Still a virgin, will let you know once I try it

Consultant

If you're so afraid of pregnancy...why not use protection?? 
 Be safe, Be worry-free

If done right then it's 98% effective  
 Only unlucky ones will get in trouble. 
  
 There are more than one contraceptive method  if you really want to play safe.  
 Else either be ready to take responsibility or abstinence is the only way 🤷

Software Engineer

NGL it's very scary situation for both .I remembered two years ago me and my x in the same  situation and finally after a week  I got them .😂

Frontend Engineer

How did you manage or navigate through it

Have you (& partner) ever had pregnancy scare?

Have you (& partner) ever had pregnancy scare?- Grapevine

I am currently expecting, and while I am overjoyed about this new chapter in my life, I've also been facing some unique challenges in balancing my personal and professional responsibilities. 

I believe that some of you have been through similar experiences, and your insights would mean the world to me.

I had a few questions on:

1. When and how did you choose to disclose your pregnancy to your colleagues and superiors? 

2. How did you handle any potential changes in workload or responsibilities?

3. How do you stay energized and focused during the workday, especially in the later stages of pregnancy?

I understand that everyone's experiences are unique, but I believe your advice and insights can provide valuable guidance during this exciting but sometimes challenging time. Please feel free to share some stories that you're comfortable with.

How do I cope with the challenges of Pregnancy while maintaining professionalism?

Product Manager

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Am I the asshole?

After a few months clear to me an employee was taking company for a ride. Average a few days a week in the office, otherwise sick/on errands, delivered no work. CTC 55L.

Before I could fire her, she announced she was taking Maternity leave a few months into the job. Well crap guess I need to pay her for 6 more months more because of laws I don't understand. Rip my bank account.

She returns, same issues. I put her on a pip & she resigned telling me I'm sexist and it will be hard to find a new job now. I say sorry, performance was bad, she can do pip and stay if things are better. She askes for 2 months salary and i agree.

A lawyer calls telling me I need to pay more or they will file a case. Said I discriminated to her, and it's not legal.

I think this person is a bully/psycho/self entitled. But am I the asshole?

AITAH? Fired a lady after maternity.

Investor

I'm feeling really stuck and frustrated at work lately. Despite putting in my best efforts and consistently performing well, it seems like my manager is feeling threatened by my progress. He’s been rejecting my ideas and work without even reviewing them, and calling me out in meetings for not completing non-priority tasks. The environment has become really toxic and it's taking a toll on me. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Feeling frustrated at work

I am almost 31 now. Usually in our families, by this time, married couple is having a kid at least. 
We don’t want to have kid only because i work in startups. Last 2-3 years were tough from job security point of view and I don’t want to get into a situation when I don’t have job to support the family and kid or I need to change locations frequently because of jobs.
Is this common for more folks? 
Thoughts?

PS - I have emergency fund of 6-8 months.

Delaying the parenthood!

Sales manager

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

Dual Income and No Kids sounds very attractive but advice from people in their late 20s and 30s is probably too biased to be considered sound advice.

Wanted to understand how couples who took that decision in their 30s feel today.

Do you regret it?
Do you feel purposeless?
Do you feel lonely?
Do you feel the FOMO?

And so on.

Any DINK couples in their 40s? How do you really feel?

Growth Manager

DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

Overview: 
Everyone around me, be it old school friends to the people in the bangalore startup ecosystem are planning to or already in the process of doing an MBA. 

What is happening:
Most of the people I know, either are going for a tier 1 MBA in India or colleges like “Carnegie Mellon”/ “INSEAD”/ “NUS” these are really good places. 

Why am I concerned:
I dont have great acade, GEM candidate so I have decided to not pursue CAT at all, and MBA outside India is too expensive. 

I feel like my job and career are going fine with 4 years of professional experience I am making 25LPA in marketing. I am not keen on doing an MBA but I dont want to regret later.

I consider myself to be fairly smart but what happens when I am competing with people who have great brand names on their resume and are actually smart. 

People on GV with more experience, have you gone through this struggle? 


Sidenote: I also have friends who have cleared IIM ABC, ISB and not gone, because they just wanted the admit letter. Which is brave lol!

Will an MBA destroy your life or make it better?

Performance Marketer

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I'm working at a decently large firm here in Bangalore, leading a cool project that involves stuff I really like, like modeling and data engineering. Plus, I'm helping leadership team with some cool projects which is giving me a lot of visibility in the org. Lately I'm finding it hard to stay motivated.

I'm on medication and seeing a therapist for depression, and I’ve been feeling a lot better overall. It's just that with all these responsibilities I'm not feeling happy. I sometimes vent out on juniors or colleagues (erratic behaviour).  

Has anyone else gone through something like this? What helped you get past this kind of mental block? Any tips or advice would be really helpful.

Mental Health Challenge @work

Had a regular yearly check up 2 weeks back and found that I'm diabetic. Both my parents are diabetic and I assumed I'll be as well at some point in my life as an inheritance from them but never thought this early. I did not tell this to anyone, not even my wife. Took me 2 weeks to get hold of myself and let the feeling sink in.
Started making changes to my life style since yesterday and started working out as well. Today is Day-2.

Health scare at 35

Programs for pre-natal, delivery and post-natal care.

[Parents] Did you signup for any care program during pregnancy ? Please mention your experience

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hi guys! I have a situation. I hold an offer from a company now. And only after the offer was released, we realised our pregnancy. What would be the right thing to do now.

Should I tell the new company about this and how will my maternity leaves be impacted?

Is it not wise to join the new company even after knowing the situation?

Or how do I handle this 🥺

How does a switch impact maternity

I'm typing this out as a way of collecting my thoughts and feeling a bit normal to take myself through the day. Context: I have been working with a small b2b IT firm for the last 1.5 years, and resigned yesterday. This was my first job straight out of MBA and it has sucked the soul out of me to say the least. The notice period is 3 months and I am really unsure how will I survive it considering that I'm already completely drained. 

I do not want to list out the reasons of how this place has been toxic for me because I also carry a lot of self doubt if it was really the toxicity of the place or my own incapability to handle the work. I do not have any offer in hand, and haven't started a job search either. Just wanted to put this out there to see if people here in the community have been in a similar situation in their professional lives and how did they figure out the uncertainty, was it a good decision for them in retrospect and if they have any tips for me to deal with this better, with less anxiety.

Panic after resigning from a toxic workplace

Project manager

My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

I feel guilty as my fiancé’s pay is 3x mine

Analyst

From my college days I always wanted to start something of my own. After my graduation I started my own company then closed due to the pandemic. Post the pandemic I joined a company. Got married. I want to start something of my own now and am very scared because in 1 year we will have a baby I don't know what to do. Financially not capable of starting as well. I need to save for the future. I am having a big time existential crisis is anyone going through the same thing? Being a woman and being highly motivated with a lot of challenges itself is challenging.

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