The fact that women have the same level of emotional and physical needs as men

So like earlier did you believed on this or did you realised this after interacting with them???

Software Developer

Data engineer

1. More than 99% of problems that women face are either created by themselves or by another woman. 
 2. Women are very much favorable for dowry system. They want lot of things from their parents and brothers when they are getting married.

You believed in them earlier Orr do you believe in them now????

I believe in them NOW. I was believing women were always victims and men are the reason for all their problems. Now I realized that it's not the case.

Senior Consultant

Girls get free initial drinks & snacks at pubs as they are crowd pullers.

my bias/finding: girls aren’t super interested into marriage, unless their parents force them into it 
  
 Women are more vocal about the problems they face amongst their peers, hence very few women are willing for arrange marriage & almost every time they’d prefer a love marriage.

What were the myths about opposite gender which got broken after you interacted more with them with course of time...  Negative or positive both will work.... Just be respectful....

What were the myths about opposite gender which got broken after you interacted more with them with course of time...

Negative or positive both will work.... Just be respectful....

Myths about opp. gender broken after increased interaction....

Myths about opp. gender broken after increased interaction....- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Why is it that some men show too much interest in you for initial few weeks, like asking for ig and then ig messages. Seeing your stories just about the instant you post it. They tell you about their last break up they can't get over with but still tell you that falling in love is the most beautiful part of life and talk about wanting to settle down - until the time you show interests and hola! They suddenly change their verdicts - suddenly they're no more interested. Suddenly they get busy and don't respond to your messages anymore. 
My question to men, what do you seek from a woman when you are looking for some serious engagements. Whom should one trust with attachments?

Question to men

The Nice Guy Trap : Being overly agreeable and trying to win a woman's attention by being too nice can backfire. It often leads to being friend-zoned or overlooked because it reduces perceived attractiveness.

2. Attention Isn't Free: Attention is valuable, and giving it away too easily (e.g., always responding instantly) decreases a man's perceived value. Men should be more mindful of how they give attention.

3. The Authenticity Principle: Women prefer men who are genuine rather than those who just agree to avoid conflict or seek approval. Trying too hard to please can come off as inauthentic, reducing attraction.

 #women #psychology

❤️🎎The post is a thread about why being "too nice" can negatively impact a man's chances with women. The key points include:

Finance Consultant

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzL40RYNTF4/?igsh=NWQ5enkwNjB1bTJu

Not saying i agree or disagree, but interesting pov.

How to trigger everyone 101

Product Owner

Women of Grapevine, what traits do you look for in a potential partner? 

Trying out dating again, what are red flags I should look out for, green flags that are usually overlooked etc. 

Any boundaries, guidelines to navigate early phases? 

P.S: Only looking for women to answer :)
Saw a similar question by biryanienthu along the opp angle, inspired, hehe.

Traits women look for in men

Digital Marketing

I'm fairly new to this platform, but in last week I have seen posts appreciating men and celebrating women

The posts have comments from men demeaning their own.
I don't understand why. Who taught us to be like that?

I am a man, I have vulnerable self doubt thoughts, but I would never put down another human (any gender)

Is it something common on this platform?

[Controversial] Why are men getting hurt by men and women alike?

Consultant

Why do people on this platform assume a generic username to be a man? (if the username doesn't give the gender away)

Assumption

Customer success

I have had over 8-10 managers in my life in a career spanning over 8 years, 5 of them were female managers and unfortunately the experience with 4 of them were very bad. They’re either micro managers, or power hungry, want to be dominant over male juniors, misuse their power, cannot take any kind of resistance or refusals or disagreement from juniors.

I have always heard female managers are more empathetic but unfortunately I’ve faced the opposite. Just wondering, was it just bad luck or is it actually the case?

I tried to introspect in this and I found at least 4 points common across all these female managers:

1. They are all from Tier 2/3 Cities
2. They’ve studied in premier institutions IIT,IIMS,Wharton even one of them
3. They either have a younger or elder brother who got more love in the family
4. Their husband is at a higher senior level than them in professional life/career

Unpopular Opinion: Female Managers are Dominating

Growth Manager

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

In my closed circle I have heard very horrific stories of how toxic females are in management compared to their male counterparts.

These are personal points & not facts. Would love to hear on what others have faced in their career paths!

Why are female Managers toxic?

Lead Designer

Guys - do you think women aren’t as smart/hardworking/motivated OR that the women working around you have been hired for the wrong reasons? 

Girls - have you experienced sexism at workplace? How do you tell that someone’s behaviour toward you is BECAUSE you’re female?

[Serious Q] Sexism - how prevalent is it in startup ecosystem?

Product Manager

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

In my view, male interviewers want to give jobs in the market whereas females are still confused b/w whether he/she gave the appropriate answer or not. 

I never had a matured interview from a female interviewers in 7+ yrs of experience neither my ex-managers of ex-companies tried to understand the concepts. They were mainly focussed on attire, makeups and accents to impress. 

I hope we get more female intelligent folks to conduct and focus on meaningful conversations.

Male vs Female interviewers

Strategy & operations

- It's hard being the only woman in the leadership, in a room full of older men. If you don't hang out with them, you are excluded. If you do hang out with them, you got to get you act right with nods and smiles along the small talk. If If If If.. thats the loop you are caught in.
- Imagine being the only female developer in the team. BRO code is the default setting. DEV code took a sabbatical. All of you go hang out with beer, smoke and whatever and what if I am not into that? I am not a so called BRO then. And dont even get me started on the casual jokes and me not being into gaming and TT. Go ahead ask me.. How does she even fit in then.. Right??
- Declare I’m taking a "Wellness" Day. Might as well hold a flag and say "Guess who's on her period?! ME ME ME!" So much for your policies
- I can’t even begin to count the number of times I’ve been interrupted, spoken over.. 
- Dress too casually, you're not taken seriously. Dress too nicely, you're trying too hard. I've been judged for my clothes more times than I can count - too much, too little, too fashionable - yep been called that too. It’s exhausting
- I think my presence is acknowledged only when it’s convenient for them. My opinions and insights are ignored until they need a female face to tick a diversity box
- I’ve stayed late and worked weekends just to prove I’m just as dedicated as the others (even when I was doing next weeks work)
- Finding a mentor who truly understands the challenges I face as a woman in tech is nearly impossible. Male mentors often don’t get it, and female mentors are spread too thin
- I was told to speak up but when I did, I was labeled aggressive. I'm expected to be assertive but not too assertive, confident but not too confident. Also if I am progressing too fast, I have someone special rooting for me for something special in return - that the peoples verdict. And then the gossip starts.

A large majority of Orgs, Founders, Leaders, HR are getting by doing the bare minimum.

Things women said that will change the way you look at things around you

Human resource

I grew up with 5 sisters (1 real and 4 cousin), I am aware about the pain and the tribulation that women go through and have always been supporting women in general.

I was shocked to see the opposite when I stepped into the real world. Most women whom I have met have only disposed me after using my resources. Be it a friend or even a prospective gf. Even my lady therapist offered the same solution indirectly by saying that things work differently for men.

I have always responded to their rants and have comforted them.  But when it was my chance to vent out, they were like YOU ARE A MAN YOU SHOULDNT BE BOTHERED BY MENTAL ISSUES, FOCUS ON YOUR WORK. 


I feel bottled up and sometimes end up breaking down. These are the people I have been knowing for ages. The other day I randomly started slapping myself for no reason in the washroom. I dont feel like I am being heard. I dont want such a life where I am being left alone for feeling the same things a woman would feel. 

I feel that the only thing I am good for is making money. Afterall, thats what men are supposed to be. This is a punishment for breaking my mould and I accept that.

I have been very empathetic so far. NEVER AGAIN. I love myself and only myfuckingself nowww.

There is this book called "Men are from jupiter Women are from venus" which clearly states that when women are in misery, make them feel heard. And when men are in misery, leave them alone. QUEEN , RATHER PLS K!LL US ALREADY. 

Why are kind men being subjected to the punishment which bad men (rapist, dowryfreaks, cheaters) deserve? Why do I see bad men getting so much attention and respect? Why are we still adulating Ranbir Kapoor's charachter for cheating on Rashmika just coz Tripti was attractive? 


Being emotional is such a curse for men !


Dear men, 
Please focus on your LPA and provide for your parents, future wife ,and kids, and when youre old enough, JUST ROT AND D!E. The moment you dont, you will be treated like hell.

(Rant) Why are most women least bothered about men's mental health ?

Was speaking to two of my friends (from GV) on this topic. One was supporting, and one against.

As a fellow female on Grapevine, I think it is not necessary. 
If only we stop treating women as second gender, and just see them as basic humans, a lot of things will change.

To let people have a safe space to voice opinions, does not need a secluded room.

So many of us are unaware of problems (physical, mental, emotional) others face, this platform does a great job in bringing all at one place.

Do we need separate community for women on Grapevine?

TL;DR of this article from ChatGPT: 

The article explores how societal expectations and stereotypes impact male friendships in America. Historically, men openly expressed affection for their friends, but today, close platonic relationships between straight men face scrutiny and assumptions about sexuality. The author uses the story of two friends, one gay and one straight, to illustrate how cultural norms restrict emotional intimacy among men. The straight friend initially feels uncomfortable with physical affection due to societal pressures, but eventually learns to differentiate genuine intimacy from attraction. The article highlights the lack of emotional support networks for men, often placing undue burden on female partners. It argues for dismantling rigid masculinity and fostering healthier expressions of friendship among men, regardless of their sexuality.

Deep friendship between men doesn't have to be so complicated, writes Rhaina Cohen.

Why Men Struggle With Friendship

Do men struggle with friendships?

Software Engineer

Just a random thought, sometime I've observed professional women are hypocrite or not clear what they want:
(Please note these are observation i had sometimes, so I'm not generalizing women. Also, there is societal hypocricy. Please don't bash me. There are cases with men hypocricy also, but I'm just giving my perspective on women hypocricy.  I don'tsupport men hypocricy, that's why i do support my womrn colleagues at work in any difficult situation(if work is late night, stressed situation, or discussikn in a board where all members are straightforward men) and also household work(cleaning, arrangement, shopping. No child right now. (saying because some would try to bash me out).)
At work:
a. They want equal treatment, if due to poor performance, if you yell them in loud voice, they will cite all gender topics from PoSH.
b. If they don't know something, you can't make them do it and you have to learn(if you also don't know) and do it. Also, if you rry to act smart, they will straight away complain.
c. If you don't know, and if they know it, they'll touch your male ego or just provide little information. 
d. For poor performance, women have all sorts of excuses in front of male senior, but a man is never allowed to bring family issues in work in front of female senior.
e. A business decision if a woman has to take, and if it goes wrong, she finds multiple loopholes to divert attention, but if a man business decision fails, there is havoc on man.
At home:
a. They'll cite equality in work, and always want to settle with man with income above then her only.
b. If you've all servants for all households tasks and you take care of house works too, still she'll cite superiority.  And if you try to cite superiority, she will complains to inlaws and then it's again a family discussion.

Women Hypocricy

Backend engineer

for many people (mainly girls because they have many choices), dating apps are like window shopping, if it  doesn't impress you in the initial few lines then you move to the next person. 

This kind of thought process is bound to affect your in-person interactions.

Just curious to know if you have noticed anything?

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