The rise of social media has made it easier than ever to compare ourselves to others. I'll admit, I've fallen into the trap of scrolling through LinkedIn and feeling like I'm not achieving enough. ...

The rise of social media has made it easier than ever to compare ourselves to others. I'll admit, I've fallen into the trap of scrolling through LinkedIn and feeling like I'm not achieving enough. 

How do you all navigate the pressure to constantly hustle and showcase your successes? Have you found ways to unplug and focus on your own path without getting caught up in the comparison game?

Navigating the pressure to constantly hustle: How do you avoid the comparison trap and focus on your own path?

Navigating the pressure to constantly hustle: How do you avoid the comparison trap and focus on your own path?- Grapevine

Welcome to Get Motivated's Private Community

How do you all navigate the pressure to constantly hustle and showcase your successes? 

Have you found ways to unplug and focus on your own path without getting caught up in the comparison game?"

Growth Manager

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Everyone on LinkedIn seems to be getting promotions and dream jobs while I'm still figuring things out. How do you stop measuring your success against others?

Every time I open social media, I feel like I'm falling behind in the great career race. Is everyone really thriving, or is it all just for show?

The Career Comparison Trap

Software Engineer

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hi everyone,

I am an employee at a Big Tech Firm, and doing quite well at my job. I have few friends of mine, who are active on LinkedIn and Twitter, and use the company's name extensively and make posts and gain followers. I sometimes feel jealous of these colleagues and feel worthless due to them. Even though I am doing well than them in the job, sometimes I just can't stop feeling jealous. Any suggestions on what I can do?

Feeling worthless

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Exactly today 12th jan, 1 year back, i joined the decacorn startup as an analyst. I thought i will leave it within 8 month because i was running my own startup at that time and needed the money to run it. But as 21 year old i got stuck, i saw people of my same age earning more than me and not better than me. So i started chasing their role , the money they have. And now im stuck in this rat chase. 

Everday i go office look at people worse than me earning more and come home to study and compete with them.
But I’ve forgotten my main goal of building something. And I don’t know how to get out of this. I don’t want to waste my life in this shithole of corporate.

completed 1 year today in corporate

Product analyst

When i was in college i wanted to build my own company/product. Thought of many ideas and tried to build something. None of them worked and it affected my studies so I had to quit just to clear my exams.

After college I took placements in a WITCH like company where I got put into data entry/operations job after clearing difficult coding interviews (kismat kharab?). 
Somehow learnt new technologies on the side and managed to switch to a development role at a lower salary in a startup.

After 3 years Worked hard on DSA and (barely) managed to get a good offer with above average pay. But the company is not stable anymore and may layoff at any time. 
Right now struggling to learn enough DSA to crack any company.
Now I am almost 30, i have no hobbies,no talents, no relationships just trying to have a stable career.

I see people everywhere doing so many things at once. How do they manage to do this.
They are working at FAANG and managing businesses at the same time, have a bunch of friends.
What am I doing wrong?

Just a long rant about life

It is just luck + hardwork man. Work harder at everything and you will get there.

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How come the life of everyone on social media is sooo good? 

I mean I know most of them are just pretending but even that is so tempting, here I am who always forgets to take a snap of my food before eating it! 😂😂

Working, then working out, trying to eat right, and trying to stay connected with friends on weekends feels taxing now and I feel and blame myself for losing my circle day by day as I'm too exhausted to make efforts anymore.

The night feels worse cause the silence of the city makes me hear the noise inside me even more evidently. 🥺

Late night thought!!

Marketing Associate

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I'm surprised to see on the comment section that people actually support this load of crap. 

To any newbies or freshers entering tech this year, don't follow this advice. These CEOs exploit your time to gain revenue and when the time is not good they wouldn't think twice before considering layoffs. Just do your job and go home to your life and family. 

This advice only applies to entrepreneurs who have huge stakes in the company. Because if the company do well they get millions in returns as dividends. As an employee, even if you work for 25 hours you only get the same salary. 

Don't follow any so called self procalimed entrepreneurs advocating for the hustle culture. You hustle for your life, not for your boss or your job.

More push towards grind and sacrifice.

Analyst

Hello, Friday is here and so is one pick of mine to read as we get ready for the weekend. This is one of the lists I like to refer to every now and then.

https://blog.samaltman.com/how-to-be-successful

Please share thoughts. Share your read for the weekend too!

Weekend musings - edition #2

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

Consultant

Founder

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How do you guys dissociate from office shit once you log out and not let your job be your personality. I am glad I joined grapevine so I can write about  all the shit that goes on and try and have an actual life outside office. 

In the name of hustle we have actually reduced the importance of living life to the fullest.

Dissociate from work

Associate Product Manager

My friends from good colleges are getting jobs, and sitting for more interviews. And in our college very less companies are coming(2-3 companies/month). 
I'm preparing really hardly. But couldn't getting any opportunities. 
So, day by day getting more depressed. What should I do?

Peer pressure

not only in monetary terms, but anything

this is simply an introspection, so avoid giving "don't compare" gyaan

[Introspection] How do you feel about your friends who took a leap of faith or risk and are doing much better than you because of that, do you feel left behind somehow ?

Senior Software Engineer

Batchmates making more money

I started this new role 7 months back, was full power working long hours, putting my 110%, and was rewarded with, ofcourse more work!
So I slacked a little, and little by little slacking got bit more. 
I'm still putting the hours, but my mind and heart are not there. Whatever I do, I want to finish asap fuck quality
Coz anyway you end up hearing 'you are not top of your game', 'this is not working' blah blah

I'm so detached, that I thought would ask for a short break (my boss is big on mental health)
But I realised, once they live without me, they'll know how to live without me.
I may not have a job when I come back from short break.

I discussed this with my family, they aren't in support (middle class gets skeptical too - "Why do you want to stop the cash coming in")

Have faced similar situations in previous companies too - I get bored, want to quit, then the phase tides over, and I'm back to being comfortable

Am I trying escape or is it that I am stopping myself from taking a bigger leap?

Getting restless at work, itching to leave without any future plans

The rat race amidst people working in corporates is inevitable. Everybody wants to win it. But nobody knows the true finish line of their career. While it feels intriguing to read fancy corporate jargons & success stories on LinkedIn, it adds an overwhelming pressure in you to a level you can’t recover from.

I have stopped using LinkedIn. I do not want to declare to the world that I got a promotion working in Tolaram & sons pvt. Ltd. I do not want to show the world that I have got a character certificate from a random.com site. Neither do I want to see how others are faring in this rat race.

I read books, I visit blogs on internet of my choice, I write blogs(not on LinkedIn) & that keeps me stay away from this rat race. I too am successful. 

What’s your mantra to stay motivated as a corporate employee? Comment.

LinkedIn is no less than a leaderboard for people running a rat race

Software Architect

Tldr: title
Living with my parents has allowed me to save a decent amount and invest while enjoying time with friends. My job is fun; I work with a tech stack I love (Golang) and learn new things regularly since it's a scratch project. My manager is great, an expert in SQL, and doesn't scrutinize my code much. My salary is around 9.5 LPA, and I have close to two years of experience. 

Being part of the tech community, I strive for a better salary. However, my efforts to switch jobs have been inconsistent. I dedicated two weeks to practicing DSA and applying for jobs but received no callbacks, which was tough to swallow. My goal is to achieve a salary around 14 LPA in my next jump, but sometimes I wonder if I'm being delusional.

I know there are amazing folks who get 20 or 30 LPA straight out of college, and I wish them the best. Comparing myself to them hasn't been effective. Even trying to dislike my company, thinking about how I barely make $10,000 while the company profits millions, hasn't motivated me.

what might be your strategy you if you were in a similar situation?

How do you fight complacency?

Backend Engineer

So, I graduated in 2020 and joined this org at 9 ctc, worked on good stuff for 2.5 years, got two hikes and reached at 14, got promoted as well and currently at 17. Though I gave some interviews during golden 21-23 period, I couldn't switch. Seeing my friends from college having switched atleast once, with some becoming sde2 at Microsoft and Amazon, my confidence is now broken.

Although I realise my mistakes and can't do anything about past. How should I pick up from here. Just went through sample interview exp at lc, and have prepared a roadmap, however that would take another 3 months, how much impact my cctc would have on future ones. Kindly advice for any preparation tips as well.

Getting jealous of my friends Ctc

Seeing colleagues getting promoted while your contribution goes unnoticed. Working on projects that none of your peers care about. Figuring out the balance between work and personal life. Regret of ignoring physical health due to work.

There are endless reasons that can trigger the imposter syndrome. How are you guys coping up with this?

How do you guys cope up with the imposter syndrome

I started a side business. These fuckers can have their promotions. I work for the salary now. I don't contribute beyond the basic limit.  It's liberating. I don't even laugh at the stupid jokes at meeting.

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