Or someone goes and gets married

Software Engineer

Or someone goes and gets married- Grapevine

Attending a close friend’s wedding today. 4-5 of my friends are going to get married this year. 

It’s such a different-new phase in life to see so many folks I knew from college/school taking the next step. 

Happy feeling!

so many friends getting married this year

Founder

Anybody here who's in their late 20's and family is pressuring them to get married but you're not mentally ready for the responsibility because maybe first you want to achieve something or be in a better place mentally or financially.

For Indian families marriage is just a checkpoint on their long list of responsibilities like science in school, btech in college, gov vs pvt job and stuff. 

I guess marriage is much more than just a wedding. If you're not mentally ready to have a partner reasons could be multiple like maybe you want to achieve something before tying knot or maybe you want to be at a better place mentally or monetary.

Honestly i dont know how to frame this question 
I just need to know the perspectives of married as well unmarried people or maybe any advice. 

I'm 27 btw 🫂

Thoughts on marriage

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too

Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. 

How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings?

P.S:  don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

Women on GV - how do you find the right guy?

Content Strategist

how much are you planning to spend on yours ?

Senior software engineer

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Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

Hi I’m an above average looking and average height guy. I’ve been looking out for a serious relationship for years now and it really sucks. I mean career wise, I’m doing great. I’ve a stable career with a good car and my own house. Something that women consider for serious relationships turning into a marriage. 

I’m also very religious, super good at heart, loyal, caring basically too good to be true. I’m so loyal that I stop looking at other women even at talking stage. Send flowers randomly etc etc. 

Now the problem is, apparently if you don’t play mind and manipulation games, or basically be toxic, you won’t get a good partner. 

Every woman out there says she’s looking for 90s love and nice guys who care for her etc etc. Then why are people like me single? Not only me i know many men who are good at heart being played by such women. Why are you lying girls?

Why dating sucks these days? (also a Rant)

Growth Manager

29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally.

Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L.

People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

Budget for marriage

Product Manager

My cousin got married in 3 weeks; from first date to marriage in 3 weeks 😱

A friend of mine was dating a girl, convinced his parents to offer marriage. But girl chickened out last minute, married one her father had chosen. This really fucked him up, he was determined to get married anyhow, whom didn't matter. 
1 Yr later, found a girl parents found, got pregnant before first anniversary. Over 3 years, their marriage has seen divorce, domestic violence and 5 star hotel celebrations (oscillated to extremes of good and bad)

I'm seeing another such case.
Office colleagues were dating, he proposed marriage, she declined. He said stuff that shouldn't have been said, she threatened POSH (did not complain officially)
2 months later, he has found someone to marry through arrange marriage route 

Break ups are bad, but half of the problem were you. Instead of working on that, people take it on ego

Rebound marriages are the worst

Consultant

and then there's me collecting my earned leaves for my wedding (which might happen sometime in the next 4 years)

I mean there is fear of so many things, what if we both don't match the vibe, what if he is not supportive, i mean how should a women take decision?

How to find a partner in arrange marriage set up ?

System Engineer

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INR 10-13 lakh spent per wedding in India. 
Average annual household income is INR 4 lakh. 
Assuming 2 households spending, it's 1.2-1.5x their annual income. 
Assuming only the girl's family paying, it's 3x annual income. 
It's absurd how much people love to spend to feed and entertain the people they never want to see in their lives again. 
Also absurd, no big startup in this space. Why is no tech bro/gal conquering the wedding space?

Big Fat Indian Wedding

Business analyst

I’m 25, and lately all of my long term plans (travel, masters, moving cities) seem to revolve around the plan that I’d want to be married when I turn 30. I know that might be later than most people but I have this constant feeling that once I have a family with a child, my life would be different and that makes me want to do everything before I turn 30.

I don’t know if I’m being fair to myself.

Fellow women, do you feel like you have to accomplish xyz before marriage comes into the picture? How did you get over the self created pressure?

Men on GV: Ask questions on love, relationships and marriage!

Women on GV: Answer these questions genuinely and bluntly!

I'll go first: 
Heard about a married couple (married <1 year) and already separated (to be divorced). The wife hid her past and relationship from her family and in-laws. Husband asked about her relationships and she said she isn't in one. No pressure from the guy's family about marriage. Girl said yes and for months pretended to be excited about marriage. Post marriage, husband realised that she's cheating, excessive partying drinking, and smoking. Husband is in a disarray and suicidal.

Now I know there are both men and women like her (not making it a gender thing). But as a man looking for a partner/relationship/girlfriend, how do we be careful and what red and green flags should we look for, in a woman, while looking for a genuine relationship?

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Generalist

My parents have started talking about my marriage and I am only 23 rn. 

They are pressurising to get married by the time I’m 25. I feel like I’m a kid even today

I haven’t even travelled yet 🥲, If my +1 comes I’d have to take her to travel and the cost of travel would double

When did you feel you were ready to get married ?

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