Product Manager

Damn, and I've to go through 6 weeks between 1st and 8th job interview?

Software Engineer

Analyst

It seems they decided to have court marriage and use saved money on Honeymoon 😅

Please share the process and how this happened in detail if u dont mind

If male toh samaj Mein aata hein... 
 But for girl... It raises few questions...

Software Developer

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My cousin got married in 3 weeks; from first date to marriage in 3 weeks 😱

My cousin got married in 3 weeks; from first date to marriage in 3 weeks 😱- Grapevine

0. Try to have a call/video call before the first date. Always take their phone number/insta id before agreeing to meet, plenty of ghosters and shady folks these days.

1. Always try to meet outside for the first date. Don't go for drives. Those kinda dates almost never end up going well in the long run. Ask to meet halfway, don't go out of your way just to meet someone.

2. Don't meet someone with the expectation to start dating or getting married right away. Get to know them as friends first. Everything else later. 

3. Date for 2-3 months at least before committing to be exclusive, don't rush into things and keep your options open. 

4. Do not go for dates when you're feeling down or depressed. Meeting a stranger most likely won't help, it'll only distract temporarily.

5. Draw up a list of things you want and don't want in a partner. Should have at least 5-6 points on both sides. Pointless to date without knowing that much, but the list will also change with time. 

6. Keep an open mind, try to be empathetic, and have fun. Don't compromise just to please the other. Learn to take a stand and draw boundaries from the start.

7. Use protection always, no matter what. And also have some self defense prepared just in case (for all genders).

Having met hundreds of people through dating apps in the last decade, these are a few rules I formed for myself over time. Hope they help :)

Dating rules 101

Generalist

how much are you planning to spend on yours ?

Senior software engineer

Am in my mid 30s from south working in Mumbai for a PSU. I’ve been declined in matrimony websites owing to location and perception of PSU. Is this the new normal?

Difficulty in finding matches for marriage in Mumbai

Human resources

Life has become so dry and meaningless nowadays. Struggle connects us on some level. I’d love to hear your stories of struggle and how you overcame it.

Here’s my story.
I studied B.E for 7 years because of backlogs. Every year was a new batch, no friends. Extreme depression, humiliation everywhere. Isolated myself from an extremely judgmental society. 
Confidence had no meaning in my life. 
Somehow struggled and cleared all the backlogs. Studied programming and web design. Started working for free.
After 1 year, first salary was 2k per month.
Then 18k. Then 30k.
I always felt dumb because of the backlogs. Want to rectify it. So went to the US with the only admit I got. Studied my ass off. GPA 3.95. But I was broke again. Cried my eyes out multiple times because I had no money for food. Couldn’t tell this to parents.

Found a job later after many many applications. 
Happiest moment of achievement was when I bought my first 43 inch LED TV. With my own money.

Current pay: over 2L / mo.

Tell me your story of hard work and difficulty

Product Designer

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

I mean there is fear of so many things, what if we both don't match the vibe, what if he is not supportive, i mean how should a women take decision?

How to find a partner in arrange marriage set up ?

System Engineer

29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally.

Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L.

People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

Budget for marriage

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I'll go first - 

Shut laptop, get in comfy clothes and watch Amar Singh Chamkila!
Imtiaz Ali after 4 years!!

What are your Friday plans?

Consultant

A friend of mine was dating a girl, convinced his parents to offer marriage. But girl chickened out last minute, married one her father had chosen. This really fucked him up, he was determined to get married anyhow, whom didn't matter. 
1 Yr later, found a girl parents found, got pregnant before first anniversary. Over 3 years, their marriage has seen divorce, domestic violence and 5 star hotel celebrations (oscillated to extremes of good and bad)

I'm seeing another such case.
Office colleagues were dating, he proposed marriage, she declined. He said stuff that shouldn't have been said, she threatened POSH (did not complain officially)
2 months later, he has found someone to marry through arrange marriage route 

Break ups are bad, but half of the problem were you. Instead of working on that, people take it on ego

Rebound marriages are the worst

Crazy story of a friend's friend
School best friends had jokingly committed to the idea - if we don't find someone, we'll marry each other

Both dated around, got hearts broken (broke some hearts)
10 years later, they are together and marrying in second half of the year.

Funny thing, both are 25yo

25yo marrying friend of 10+ years

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I once interviewed for an internship at this startup that made stuff for pets. I had researched the company inside and out.

I wore this funky shirt with a bird pattern to fit in 'context'. 
Turns out, the CEO was wearing the exact. same. shirt. 
We both just froze for a second, then she started laughing and said, "Okay, you've got the right vibe for this place!"

Weirdly enough, accidentally matching outfits with the boss helped me get the internship. 
I guess sometimes the most awkward moments can actually work in your favour!

Do you have funny/weird internship stories?

[ thread ] what are your biggest wins this year?

Operations Analytics

Men on GV: Ask questions on love, relationships and marriage!

Women on GV: Answer these questions genuinely and bluntly!

I'll go first: 
Heard about a married couple (married <1 year) and already separated (to be divorced). The wife hid her past and relationship from her family and in-laws. Husband asked about her relationships and she said she isn't in one. No pressure from the guy's family about marriage. Girl said yes and for months pretended to be excited about marriage. Post marriage, husband realised that she's cheating, excessive partying drinking, and smoking. Husband is in a disarray and suicidal.

Now I know there are both men and women like her (not making it a gender thing). But as a man looking for a partner/relationship/girlfriend, how do we be careful and what red and green flags should we look for, in a woman, while looking for a genuine relationship?

Love and Marriage

Share yours,

Sharing one of my female friend’s story :

The guy had uploaded backdated pictures (3 yrs) of his on matrimonial site profile, they talked and everything, went to meet the guy along with parents.

Situation : The guy was completely bald when compared to the photos he had uploaded, had also not shared any recent pics on WhatsApp chat (even after asking multiple times) citing reasons that he was very busy with work and all. 
Needless to say my friend was taken aback.

Verdict : Rejected on account of being dishonest (not bald). 

P.S. : My friend has dated bald guys in her past.

I am not a storyteller so had to use clear indications of situation and verdict.

My cousin got married in 3 weeks; from first date to marriage in 3 weeks 😱

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