Ridiculous standards in dating apps.
Saw an acquaintance using bumble. The men in profiles literally look highly successful, From IIT, IIM, NIFT , Founder and what not. It was really raining overqualified guys on the platform. Felt like real waste for the first time and thought that hot shot guys like them couldnt land a date, a commoner is out of question. What do you all say guys ???? That platform instantly makes me introspect where I failed in life.
SabChangaSi
Stealth
6 months ago
Yeah that's true. Go to LinkedIn to find real prospects
SabChangaSi
Stealth
6 months ago
Atleast you'll find your one
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
6 months ago
Most of the overqualified men aren't real in life. Everyone is using IIT/IIM tag when then Don't have one
Its a numbers game.
Iv had a decade long experience with these apps.
You got to be ultra patient and have your soft skills A game available.
Bumble only uses these insecurities to it’s favor. Even having a IIT IIM tag in Bangalore is pretty common and girls don’t want what’s highly available, so maybe in some other place it would create a lot of matches but not in Bangalore. Also Bumble’s profit is not in you getting a match or a partner but you using those compliments and other boost or premium features. Using them also seems like a waste of money apart from compliments which stood you out from other profiles up until few months back but now they made changes to hide it too.
Dating via dating apps is flawed. It's designed to keep you single by showing you better prospects (for girls) and hiding you from the pack until you pay heavily sometimes even that doesn't work (for guys). So just give up already on them for your own sanity. There are numerous studies/TED talks over the internet to prove this.
Instead, go try out talking to people irl, meet people at some hobby class and build something from there. This has worked so much better for me than any of the dating apps (not that they haven't worked, the success rate is better irl).
Just be confident and have good conversation skills and be slightly good looking (lol).
Sapthinker
Stealth
6 months ago
Olx
Sab IIT IIM kuch nai hota ....baad me pata chalta hai sab Coursera aur udemy ke courses they
Use matrimony websites… Narrow down your requirements and you will feel better… Bharat Matrimony has more profiles than Tinder, Bumble etc. 🤣
Kamlesh
Stealth
6 months ago
But they're all paid and shit, full of aunties
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MutedFlow57
Stealth
6 months ago
Finding a good match on dating apps (if one is looking for something serious) is very rare. Luck hai..
Kamlesh
Stealth
6 months ago
Competition is high, but there will always be someone better out there. Even for the ones you see on apps.
Even bill gates would pay to be young again, but he can't. Value what you have, and make the most of it.
Tags and labels don't build long term character and trust, personality and wisdom do.
Nah bro. The hotshots like them are good at making money by doing the cerebral tasks. Their skills however don’t help them in wooing girls which tbh requires less IQ (average) so that you can lie without overthinking and say and do stuff that most people usually say and do.
These hotshots lack the basics social skills because social skills function on average IQ and non-calculated moves. Girls (in general normal people) find that boring and this are not interested.
Another reason may also be that they never had enough time to acquire the general skills needed for social interactions and impressing people because they were too busy with the books and learnings. And now they have to resort to showcasing over-thought and carefully written profiles in the hopes of getting attention from females of their species
The ratio of men to women on dating apps is 93:1 and it’s worse in India. So there’ll always be men from all backgrounds. Should ask them for aadhar card and company incorporation number :)
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