Why dating sucks these days? (also a Rant)

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues. Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families. Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices. Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps. In the US, This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

I am writing this post to understand the pros and cons of different dating apps from the customer side point of view.

All dating through apps / offline / love in general has a common theme that Men finding it difficult to get a girl (their equal). How could this be solved ? And I find many nice guys be desperate for relationships but girls absolutely dont show the same feelings. Intuition says most girls generally go for Top 1 % guys . Why do girls not show the same desperation/willingness like guys in terms of relationships ? Thoughts on this ?

I'm a 25 y/o F. Met my schoolmate through Instagram. For 6 months we were dating. I clearly mentioned him that if we are getting involved physically then we should define our relationship as a long term one. I trusted this guy and went ahead in getting physically involved multiple times. The chemistry was so good and irresistible for both of us. He was giving me signals like saying “now I'm taken I guess “ “ i’m not a person who leaves someone just like that “ “ i’ll take care and not leave “ and all on top of this he was planning a trip with me. And in the starting of this relationship his ex girlfriend who got married called me and threatened me and she in fact bitched about me to this guy. He promised me that he will end things with her and she will not bother me. Ah for god’s sake I feel like a dumb ass for trusting this guy... Two days back he sent me a group pic where he and his married ex girlfriend was smiling. I asked him why would you send this pic at least you could have cropped your part and would have shared. He agreed that sending that pic was his mistake. Later I called him and playfully asked him to delete all his ex pictures because he had cried to me in the past that she had manipulated him hence out of care I asked him to stay away from the memories of her. That's were he got triggered and said me to stay out of his “personal things” he tells me how his 6 year relationship with her transformed him and he would like to revisit those memories it seems… honestly I felt like hitting hard rock at this point and I started to cry to my friend telling that I have been cheated. I then took time and called this guy and said hey I'll be there for you if you want to communicate about this. I'm interested in having a future with you. For which this guy breaks the ice telling me he doesn't have even little feelings about me or any love for me. Then I asked if you wanted to have a casual relationship you could have upfrontly said. At least I would have not had any expectations. Two days had gone still feeling hurt. And processing shit. To all women out there never trust words of men. Period. It might trigger some men her, but it is always a man!!!

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings? P.S: don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

whatever maybe the situation, Self Respect should always be on priority 🙂

Nothing related to work , i want to know how much looks matter in arrange marriage like everything is fine but i am definitely not drew to the person How do i marry such person what if i do not like him ever Please i am not being a jerk I am just ......how do i put it Not into him .....he looks much older than i am my family is like how long will you wait according to them i am already at an ange where i even should have settled with everything which i agree like okay i am 28 but i feel if we are not getting to a kind of person we do not like it's better to not marry at all. I know a person's behaviour is all that matters no money no looks nothing matter it should be a good person i agree but what if i end up not like him ever , i am 28 but Marriage just scares me to the core and also what i am also being made to believe if i look for a average to a bit good looking person he will definitely cheat on me. genuine opinion welcomed please ignore rather than commenting bad.