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I'm in a longterm relationship, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm settling.   How do you know if you're truly happy or just comfortable? Has anyone left a "good enough" relationship and foun...

I'm in a long-term relationship, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm settling. 

How do you know if you're truly happy or just comfortable? Has anyone left a "good enough" relationship and found something better?

Stuck in 'Good Enough': Is Comfort Killing My Chance at True Happiness?

Stuck in 'Good Enough': Is Comfort Killing My Chance at True Happiness?- Grapevine

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

I have observed this( at least with my self) that whatever goals you set for your self ( X salary, Y net worth etc etc.) once you're there it becomes ordinary extremely fast and it starts feeling normal again and on you go towards the next milestone.
I was wondering when does this end? Do any of you have reached a point where you don't have the lust for more? You're happy with what you have? 
Did you do something actively to make that mindset? Or were you a "satisfied with what you have" kind of a person all your life?

How do you fight the consistent dissatisfaction?

Backend Engineer

I am 21 years old. I have good offers (20lac+) from good companies, but I am not happy.

I always feel that something is missing in life, I don't know what and why I feel so.

I tried to get in a relationship, but whenever I express this feeling, things get bad between both of us. I really want to love and get loved.

I have been living my life alone for about 3 years now. I want to make friends, and I want to be in a relationship, but the last 3 years have not been nice to me because of which I don't like going out and having fun.

I was in a depression and a workaholic nerd for the past years and feel that now I have got wired in such a way which is not letting me have fun and enjoy life.

I find myself lonely.

Whenever I don't have anything to work on, I get anxious, and I get this question, what am I doing with life.

Maybe I am feeling lonely while writing this post and may sound little gone case.

Open to your suggestions, do share your stories if you have been through this phase.

Is it normal to feel like this?

How to be happy?

Software Developer

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I AM NOT TALKING MONEYYY. 

I understand most of you who have switched is either for financial reasons or maybe change in role or work or even bad boss. 

I am talking about an angle from where your work is good, team is good so is culture. And most importantly you are being respected and have amazing peace of mind, stress free life.Yes salary might be low, but again there never will be a limit where some should stop and not ask for more money.

I am at this point, where pay is decent and genuinely don’t feel to switch. But it’s just that people everywhere are talking about switching, and comparing that this guy earns more than you. People are like you should switch and earn more money etc. 

But haven’t found anyone who feels the same as i do. In good place where I am. What do you think?

Does swtiching really help?

Software Test - QA

Is it true that after reaching a certain point in life, after achieving something you’ve been striving to accomplish for years, you often feel the most empty afterwards?

People say we should always set new goals and keep working towards them, but does it really bring happiness?

I mean, after becoming a millionaire, if you make another million, will it feel the same as when you made your first million, or does it hardly matter after a while?

Questioning the Fulfillment of Success?!

I dont care about money above a certain amount, i dont care about power. I just want my newfound family and my stability. To live a happy life surrounded by my loved ones. I feel as if its not a bad dream to have.

All id want is stability

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Have you ever got the feeling that you can do a lot more out of the current role you are in, and that so being inside your current org.

For instance, say you are a senior eng who definitely can have a linear growth in engineering, but that doesn’t feel like enough.

And if there was, say, a role (a more responsible and accountable one) which needs strong interpersonal skills too besides engineering, where you feel like you would really thrive. 

If yes, has anyone of you have broken out of this by doing certain thing(s) and has been successful in it?

If yes do tell.

Do you feel like you can do more?

Engineering Manager

I know it's not a good platform to share a personal story but wanted to express myself. I am a software engineer with decent earnings working in Accenture and going to join Deloitte! My family environment is getting worse because of my father's drinking habit. We are not able have a normal topic with happy moment. Every-time I tried to have a discussion it gets into bad fight. I already had a pretty hard heart break and only option I have is family where I am not able to make things right. I am feeling as a failed as a child and not having any expectations from future. I am tired of toxic environment not sure till when I can handle this. I don't want to have any partner in my life as they will face things which I am facing. I suppose leaving life alone is good for me. Alone and happy.

I know sharing this will not change anything. Just wanted to tell everyone keep your family first priority. Without family high paying job will also not give any satisfaction.🙂

Don’t feel to get a married life, feeling like got stuck in life.

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I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🤧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking.

Help me guys 🫡.

Are you happy with your marriage?

> at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background 
  
 I'm glad you didn't say "Only candidates from IIT/IIM can apply for this position".

I have a 3yr long relationship which started off as a fling but later we both got attached to each other. We don’t know if this is love but we know that we will not be able to make it to marriage due to multiple reasons. Because of this relationship/situationship I’m not able to proceed for arrange marriage also. I’m 30, and want to have a family. I have a very good prospect of arrange marriage but I’m unable to convince myself to take the leap of faith. It feels like I’m drained out and don’t want to invest in another relationship. What should i do ?

What do i do ?

Product Manager

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I have close to 3 years of product experience.
Currently in my second stint and It has been 4-5 months now in the recent organisation but I really don't enjoy the work here as it's majorly operational work with limited to no product ideation work. Is it wise to switch now Or should I just wait it out for a year?

Need advice

I think about seriously quitting my job atleast once every few months but I've stuck it out here for almost 3 years now.

I don't know if it's just me but the idea of putting myself out there and starting afresh at a new company is just terrifying -  the struggle to find something exciting but stable, being evaluated at interviews all over again, the uncertainty of fitting into a new team and having to prove myself all over again at a new work place - all of this just puts me off from taking any real action

I see everyone around me talking about career growth and taking up new opportunities. And rationally, I get it.  I get that there are tons of benefits to changing jobs - better salary, escaping a toxic workplace, etc. etc. I truly admire people who make these frequent shifts - seriously, how do people navigate this?

Job Switching is not for me

U guys are lucky to have job in product based companies: 
  
 We, in service based have to give interviews every now and then as the project changes. So as a byproduct we are kind of used to interviews 😂 (cry aa rha)

Growth And Strategy

you don't want to change your current life with someone, you look to or aspire to. Huh.....what?  Assumption: Given the chance to exchange life with anyone in the world.

Why would you still choose yourself? 
Or you will exchange with someone? Who and Why?  

Interesting thought, right? Please think for a while, introspect wisely. 

(Personally, I look to and aspire a few but I cannot/won't  exchange with anyone. WTF is wrong with me with my miserable life. Trust me, I have a miserable life, enough to have rice daily, and already failed at what I always wanted to be since sixth grade. Now, I am just trying to do what I am good at and struggling with, frustrating on a daily basis.)

Aren't you the most happy person if;

Solution Architect

How do you know if you're losing feeling for your boyfriend?

I probably would start asking strangers on the internet

Finance Consultant

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Women of grapevine, if you had to share one advice with your younger self what would it be?

Human Resources

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I've been working at the same company for 4.5 years and while I feel the growth has been satisfactory, I feel my career has hit a wall. I'm aware of the layoff situation in the market and extreme grateful that I still have a job, but after almost 10 years of professional experience, I've come to realize that a good working environment pays off in the long run. Now, I have that in my current company. But should I consider a switch?

Career plateau

Content Marketing Manager

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Have you ever felt you have got cheated in your life? You are not in a place where you exactly should be? Wrong connection/relationship?? How to come out from this??

Hey guys...have you ever felt??

Imagine this : You are in your 30s

You have your own home fully furnished, nothing too fancy but big enough to give a separate room for each family member

You have a family car.. Not a luxury one, just a normal mid sized SUV

U have no loans, no emi, no obligations

You don't make a crazy amount but have some job security making early 6 figures a month.. 

Question : Are you happy? 
What else would you buy, what else would you aim for?
What are the other necessities.. We all know there's no limit to wanting more.. If u don't want to upgrade to luxury version of stuff u have what else do u need in life?

POV: You unlocked middle class 🔒

Team Lead

I've been in my current role for a few years now, and I'm starting to feel a bit stagnant. I'm craving a new challenge, but I'm not sure if that means changing jobs or just shaking things up in my current position. 

Have any of you successfully reinvented yourselves within the same company? How did you approach that conversation with your boss? Any advice for breathing new life into a job that's gone stale?

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