If your partner is trustworthy and she is sincere to you man I don't see a problem  discuss it with your parents take it a step forward ,but if you don't believe your partner then trust me end it immediately else you won't be able to even like a girl even she is good looking than her.

Software Developer

Easier said than done, but move on.  
 If you know there’s no possibility then better to go for arranged marriage.  
 You would have a good and clear idea about your future.

Staff Engineer

Bro, it's a pain and a gamble to find and build a new relationship. If you have something good, don't ditch it. 
  
 Love isn't that big a factor in marriage. Stability and compatibility are.

Generalist

I have a 3yr long relationship which started off as a fling but later we both got attached to each other. We don’t know if this is love but we know that we will not be able to make it to marriage d...

I have a 3yr long relationship which started off as a fling but later we both got attached to each other. We don’t know if this is love but we know that we will not be able to make it to marriage due to multiple reasons. Because of this relationship/situationship I’m not able to proceed for arrange marriage also. I’m 30, and want to have a family. I have a very good prospect of arrange marriage but I’m unable to convince myself to take the leap of faith. It feels like I’m drained out and don’t want to invest in another relationship. What should i do ?

What do i do ?

Product Manager

What do i do ?- Grapevine

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

So i am writing this post reaching out to the world of men for help. So as we all know that as a man we are pressured to get married and start a family as soon as we start earning some money. I am a 27 year old man, who is doing decent in life. So as we are looking out for girls in this arranged marriage setup i am in talking stage with a girl. So in chat i am good and fine and i talk well. But from front i am shy and conscious as to not do anything that would come across as a creep. So i this girl let’s name her X is in a Y profession and she is in a different profession from me. So i work in City A and am also ready to relocate to city B after getting married. On one of my dates she said she had switched the company and joined another company within 15 days so me being a working professional said that you could have served a few more days of notice and tried for a different company for a greater pay rise. Look i am not aware how her line of work operates i just gave my opinion not sure what she thought she started saying of you want a higher package woman marry her. Then one day she said that you will be my second priority after marriage my work will always come first. I chose to ignore it. Then when we met after the date she tried to hug me me being an introvert and a shy person i got a little awkward hugged her back but lightly not tightly. She flipped out on me like i pushed her away and i am not interested in her. I tried to explain this to her. She did not listen to me. I have been the one from the start who has been down tooling myself ready to sacrifice things trying to make things work. She brought a gift for me i was happy and shocked and a bit confused so my expression came across a awkward to which she said i did not like it. This is how i am. I have always been an introverted and a shy person never been in a relationship in my life, so these things do not come to me naturally. I am very good at chatting and flirting on chat but in person I am a shy guy. But now i feel i have had enough of this setup i am not going to marry this woman at all because in the hindsight i am being made to look like a fool and i will not destroy my life by taking this step. This is what i am feeling right now. I need advice from men out there if anyone of you have been in such a situation in life please let me know. I am willing to listen to your advice am i right or thinking too much in life. How do i tell this to my mother? Like how please let me know because one thing i know is that i could be wrong in this but being an introvert in real its real hard to make people understand to what i mean and to what people think i mean.

HELP SOS!!! 🚨🚨

Backend engineer

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I'll go first - 

Shut laptop, get in comfy clothes and watch Amar Singh Chamkila!
Imtiaz Ali after 4 years!!

What are your Friday plans?

Consultant

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

Founder

hi all,
Please just pour some ideas ,I am in relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years,My parents are accepting my love .THe problem here in his mom don't get to our marriage untill his elder brother gets married but my parents are urging me to get married before his elder brother .....or asking me to call off as I am 27 dont know what I need to do and his parents are coming to my home to have a word with my parents whatif there will be clash between 2 family I am very depressing with this ....please pour some suggestions

Depression

Test engineer

25M. My parents keep on asking to get marry Because I am earning.. But the thing is I am not prepared for this, need to achieve my goals, not sure I will be reaching my goals after marriage. more over there are some trust issues on arranged marriages. Also I do get this on my mind some times, does marriage is mandatory, can't we live without marriage, I feel this when I see married people pretends  that they are happy outside but they are not inside, reasons might differ, lack of understanding, compromises, adjustments, Financial instability . I am in full of confused state. I already rejected few matches because of this mixed feelings and also to achieve my goals.

Marriage in Early Stage Matters ?

At what age you guys are thinking for marriage, I'm 27, relative says I passed the age😂

Data engineer

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I know it's not a good platform to share a personal story but wanted to express myself. I am a software engineer with decent earnings working in Accenture and going to join Deloitte! My family environment is getting worse because of my father's drinking habit. We are not able have a normal topic with happy moment. Every-time I tried to have a discussion it gets into bad fight. I already had a pretty hard heart break and only option I have is family where I am not able to make things right. I am feeling as a failed as a child and not having any expectations from future. I am tired of toxic environment not sure till when I can handle this. I don't want to have any partner in my life as they will face things which I am facing. I suppose leaving life alone is good for me. Alone and happy.

I know sharing this will not change anything. Just wanted to tell everyone keep your family first priority. Without family high paying job will also not give any satisfaction.🙂

Don’t feel to get a married life, feeling like got stuck in life.

I did not grow up in a lot of money. I ordered looking at the prices on the menu. This feeling has stayed with me and has fueled me to thrive, push harder, work long hours and get to my goals.

I'm 5 years into my career, and last year I had a feeling of "making it". I had enough to not look at the menu, or even the place I'd be going to. This feeling is really really satisfying and I took some time to sit with it, enjoy and bask in this glory (humbly).

But I also feel my drive to hustle and do better has gone down. For instance, I'm okay pushing work to tomorrow, I'm not as keen to pickup work.

I feel some of graveviners could relate to 'making enough' story. Have you also feel a lack of hustle to keep you going? What do you think is the reason?

For experienced folks, I'm really keen to know how to get past this slump.

Do you feel lesser need to hustle after making a decent amount of money?

Marketing manager

I've been of the opinion that I don't want to marry and will enjoy life single. Turned 28 this year and for some reasons, my thoughts and perceptions changed and decided to give it a shot. 
Installed a matrimony app and didn't find much things happening there until I found a girl whom I thought I would give a try. I requested a match which got accepted very soon.
Fast forward, it's been 2 months since we whastapped each other. The only thing bothering me is that she's working in audit and says that she's too busy for texts, calls etc. And over the course of this 2 months period, we only managed to call each other thrice(including 1 video call). I had asked her to atleast try to call me but she's too busy/ not feeling well/ tired etc.
I really had feelings for her initially, but even after multiple attempts, she still keeps me waiting, I feel I'm slowly losing it and have reached a stage where i don't feel anything. 
What should I do?
P.S. we live in different time zones with a difference of 1.5 hours and by the time I'm back from gym, it'll be 11-11:30 pm her side. I try to have food and everything very quickly and make time for her everyday, only to be disappointed most days.
And most of her texts are scattered, with time gaps ranging from 10-16 hours at times. 
She tells me she's too exhausted and has no energy for anything but I am cent percent sure that she is using phone for insta, twitter etc even when my chats are waiting.

Finding your behalf

Hi guys
I am facing some issues with my family members, they are constantly trying to convince me to get married with someone, although my mom is supportive but my dad is not, I am fighting with them almost everyday, i somehow left my job life been on bench since long periods, not able to Focus properly on my health, not able to sleep properly at night time, got infections in my body, I am feeling shattered don't know what should I do

I'm 26F working in an IT service based company, I need your suggestions guys

Thank you

Negative Energy at home

Systems Engineer

26M, avg looking introvert, I have worked hard and only focused on my career, so consider 0 pro-dating skills. 

Shy to open conversation/first move to a girl. but confident that I hold the conversation after building the rapo...

looking for genuine advice, that's why I have opened up to the community! 

tried few dating apps but bad experience mostly fake or i dind freak girls or girls chatting for timepass or scams.

but sadly, it looks like arranged marriage might be the default option for me... but I like to have a love marriage

Dating Tips for introverts

I know I'm not the only one having to go through this. Let's speak our heart out.

[Rant] Arranged marriage process

Software Engineer

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I am 29. My family wants me to get married. I want a partner but not big on getting married or having kids. Fed up of matrimonial sites as i cannot trust strangers easily and prefer love marriage over arrange marriage. Idk what do I do!!!!!

29 and single

Analyst

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. 
Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. 
I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. 
Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. 
Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. 

Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

Loneliness - Nothing brings joy anymore

Product Owner

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I am dating this girl for an arranged marriage setup, we have met multiple times(6-7 times) and almost all the time, i paid for it. She did not even attempt to pay or even ask for it. 

In another instance, she took me to a mud doll shop yesterday and I had no idea she was taking me there. She chose some mud doll which cost 2k and asked me to pay for it. 

It's really putting me off, is it normal or should I call it off???

Should I call it off??

My parents have started talking about my marriage and I am only 23 rn. 

They are pressurising to get married by the time I’m 25. I feel like I’m a kid even today

I haven’t even travelled yet 🥲, If my +1 comes I’d have to take her to travel and the cost of travel would double

When did you feel you were ready to get married ?

Ideal age to get Married

Searching for my lobster since fckin 5yrs and no results!

-Tried through contacts, turned down
- Shaadi/Jeevansathi : No one is serious and the more options I get the more end up confused. Likewise for the other side.

Although in online I get plethora of options,I end up wasting time and money.

95% of the matches are doing window shopping.

This is way way harder then getting into FAANG.

Some stats of me:

Height:6'2
Age:33
Diet: Vegetarian/Teetotaler

Btw feel free to reach out to me here also  😂

What do i do ?

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