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Product Manager

Such a relief🥹

UX/UI Designer

Such a relief🥹- Grapevine

"It's that time of the year again—counting accomplishments. I came across a Twitter trend about such posts, and it's heartening to read about people achieving so much, including celebrating those seemingly small victories. As the year ends, I acknowledge those who may not have such so-called accomplishments; I hear you. This year felt monotonous for me, with neither highs nor lows, but looking back, I'm content. The year is over, and I'm optimistic about doing better and executing my plans in the coming year.

Life is good, even when it feels stagnant. Don't be disheartened; it gets better. I've had some of my worst years, but they were followed by great ones. This especially goes out to young individuals entering the workforce—your favorite company or desired CTC might be just around the corner. Keep at it.

Survival is the biggest achievement.

Accomplishment of the year

Business Development Manager

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What a relief if this happens

Chartered Accountant

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hi all,
I am facing gut problems since 5yrs now. I always bloated and constipated. It started off after my school and it has been going on since then. Not sure if this is stress, lifestyle or what. Have tried all the medicines and what not but not getting the root cause.
I am physically active as well and that’s also not resolving this.
Currently I am working from home therefore I manage somehow but now it’s a huge blocker for my growth. 
I am just living the life counting every day and not sure how long this will go on.

Anyone else facing this or resolved this? 
Need help on this.

Thanks

Gut health is f*cking my career

Software Developer

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I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Stop comparing yourself with the new guy, take a few days off and go on a vacation. Given that she lived with you, it must be a strong connection which would take quite a long time to wear off. You'll learn to live with it in a few months. All the best and take care

Business Analyst

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Context- https://share.gvine.app/f9px4N8yWVNYJA1a9

Thanks to everyone who responded! I am super stressed cz of the situation and counting on the community because i’ve got nowhere else to turn to.

In my post, I mentioned that my relieving letter states the date as "Dec," as verbally communicated by my ex-employer. However, today when I requested the letter from HR, they went back on their words and they indicated it would show October to align with their records for audits which would otherwise create a discrepancy since my final settlement was in October.

Now, my resume states my experience until December, prompting questions during interviews about why I left in December. 
However, for background verification form that i had to urgently submit today, I listed my last working date as October because supporting docs will mention october only and i was out of time & options. 

1. Will this two-month discrepancy on my resume cause significant issues? Are the dates in resume and BGV form matched? If not, whats given more preference?

2. How do I explain the advance payment reflected in my payslip? If the new org comes to label it as severance pay, I lack evidence to prove otherwise, especially since my resignation was verbal.

3. Will my new manager come to know of the disparity between my resume and BGV data?

4. ⁠I need to provide last 3 months payslips and i told new HR I'm seeking payslips for November and December. Now, My ex-employer can't provide them as well since payment was earlier. How do I cover up and offer payslips to HR for Aug-Sep-Oct instead? How do I explain the Oct payslip discrepancy mentioned in point 3?

Thank you again everyone, and i advance. Looking forward to a way out from this mess🙏🏻

Update- ex-org screwed up, BGV data

Software Engineer

Drop the one small thing that made you feel good today.

Often we look for “happiness” while we rush through life like there will be time later to pause and enjoy. Little moments should be cherished and enjoyed - makes the day to day more meaningful. 

Mine: 

1. 5 small red roses and 3 white roses in the balcony. Waking up to that felt good and makes me smile today.

2. 5 minutes in the balcony and the morning sun. therapeutic!

What made you smile today?

An important meeting cancelled. Woke up to the cancelled invitation on my email.

Analyst

Growth Manager

Just an update, 

Finally after 1 month of being laid off I got a WFH job.

Got Job 🙏

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

This was the job I so badly wanted. It's WFH. The actual work hasn't begun. Training phase is going on. It's not even training. They've sent me some material to read and learn. That's it. I don't know any of my colleagues well. I just hear their voices on teams meet. I feel like quitting already.

Is it normal to feel like quitting your new job within a month?

We love to create problems when there aren't any

Medical Expert

This is a personal win post.

I'm a '23 grad from top IIT but from non circuital branch. I did my summer internship in a payments MNC as a Quality Engineer and received PPO, but I rejected it since I didn't want to continue in testing. This was when recession was just starting. The money was decent in PPO, but I felt I could get more in a dev role in placements.

When placements came, I interviewed with few big companies, but unfortunately got rejected at some stage. Finally I got placed at Cogoport (yes that same cursed company), with a higher CTC but same base. I was initially happy with it, but as I talked with seniors I came to know about the horrors there, and a month before my joining I decided to take the jump and didn't join. My parents weren't supportive of the decision and I had to fight with them.

I was trying offcampus for a couple of months with a very specific strategy, I got good response but none of them converted to an offer. I finally joined a seed stage startup through my friend as an intern for 3 months. I struggled a lot initially but eventually put in the efforts and learnt and contributed well. The work, culture and people are great here.

Two months after I joined the startup, I got to know that almost half of the new joiners were laid off from Cogoport. And today is my first official day as a full time employee at the same startup I joined as an intern. The base is also the same as the other 2 offers, although CTC decreased but I have immense learning and responsibilities here and I'm sure I'll grow faster than my counterparts in big companies.

Thanks for hearing me out. Have a great end to the year folks

Huge career gamble paid off

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I got 100% hike. I joined an abroad company. Now my salary is 30 LPA. Any serious answers what should I do? I don’t want to be reckless with so much money.

100% hike. Now don’t know what to do with so much money 😂

I’m thankful to my manager in my first company for showing me the way and the lead who gave me a chance.

People you are thankful for in your career!?

Thankful to my last org for having toxic culture and not paying salaries for months, leading me to take a mental health break and join a nice new place :)

Data engineer

anonymity is a blessing. thankyou grapevine

Founder

Covid batch 21, moved to Bangalore, got an apartment with a flatmate, abandoned all old friends, made new friends, made some new best friends. Bitter relations with my sister, long distance relationship, never felt more lonely, didn't do well with the flatmate, depression, therapy, suffocation, suicidal thoughts, adopted a cat, realised nobody is there for you, started drinking, started smoking, started smoking weed, made friends who'd smoke with me, they helped me get out of depression, realised there will be no one for me, nobody cares if I'm alive or not, started cooking, realised smoking can be lethal, trying to quit, learnt how to live alone. 

I am much better now. I am happy alone. It's really elevating how happy being alone can be. Now I don't have any expectations from anyone, and I don't care how others play around me. I know I'll be there for myself. I am not dependent on anyone. The cat really helped me a lot. And I'm so grateful for all those people for not being there for me, it really made me the person I am today.

2022 - life changing year

Attending a close friend’s wedding today. 4-5 of my friends are going to get married this year. 

It’s such a different-new phase in life to see so many folks I knew from college/school taking the next step. 

Happy feeling!

so many friends getting married this year

Hello folks. While I'd like to remain anonymous very much, here's what I can share about myself.

1. Working in consumer finance.
2. Love personal finance and helping people out with it.
3. Have published 10,000+ pieces of financial content in the mainstream media.
4. Wrote a best-selling book on money management. It was No. 1 on Amazon once upon a time. 
5. Lately been appearing on TV regularly for personal finance discussions.
6. Saved like crazy through my 20s and 30s, brought two apartments; have an 8-figure net worth mostly thanks to my mutual fund investments. It's not much but it's hard-earned.
7. My unrealised aspiration is travel and I'm working on it now.

No, I'm not selling anything. No commissions, no referral links, no finfluencing. 

Just want to talk, exchange ideas, and learn from you all. Maybe I'll feature you in my next book. :)

Ask me anything.

Let's talk money habits.

Corporate Strategist

So we had a town hall meet today with our entire vertical. And we reached to a point of AMA’s where people had asked some concerns directly with the CEO.

There was a question, that how can achieve work
Life balance to which he responded saying that it is not possible, we want to become the best company that we will surly become, but if you are expecting work life balance put down your papers today. 
Next there are people living very far away (30-40 km in banagalore) and asked for wfh on Saturdays, he said that please shift near by don’t use that as an excuse for anything. (I don’t know if he realises that people with with their families here and the deposit you would have to pay just be near your job location)
Adding on to job security, he said we have not fired anyone, if you are performing as expected you don’t have to worry. (They have fired over 15 people last month)
He also said that we need to focus on our work and only  be more worried about how to be more productive and nothing else. So we are going to continue working hard and we are not going to make any changes.
Another person asked about appraisals, and we got a disappointing reaction again from him saying that you should not be worried about it, but won’t be getting any appraisals in coming time. 

I am not sure what is happening here anymore!

Work life balance or resign? Definitely resignation!

Business Development

What is that one habit that changed your life?

Going to the gym. Very underrated life lack, I’m less depressed that I was a couple of years back, reversed at least 3 years of age and helped me deal with chronic back pain by strengthening the lower back muscle. Only wish I knew this a decade back.

Finance Consultant

[TL;DR former National quizzing champ dropped out of B. Tech in 2020 during peak of addiction and depression . Got over it and sober in Jan'23, resumed college and completed my B. Tech in Feb'24. Picked up coding again and feel ready for a job now Should I be honest or lie about the gap? Been ghosted my few recruiters whom I was honest with.]

JS developer here. I used to be a decent student, public speaker and one of the best quizzers in the college scene (former National Champ). But I never addressed some traumatic events that took place in my life before I turned 16. My depression took refuge in substance abuse and I abandoned all studies/career prospects during the pandemic. Eventually after 7 years of using, I got clean/sober in Jan'23 and resumed my studies. I earned my degree but on paper it took me 8 years to complete a 4 year B. Tech (2016-24).

Reasonably I get asked about the gap in my academics by hr/recruiters whom I push my CV to. I've been dead honest to them about my struggles with mental health and addiction in the past. And I've been getting ghosted. (It could be because of skill reasons on my part but I'm not even getting a feedback).

Should I not tell recruiters the truth about the gap? Should I leave the addiction bit out? How should I word it? I've never held a real coding job before but been slogging for the last 6 months to get better each day (my github and projects will reflect that). Please help me out with all your valuable suggestions. If you're a tech recruiter let me know how you would perceive my case.

Sorry if this is the wrong board to post in, I'm desperate. Should I be honest about my past struggles of depression/addiction with recruiters while explaining the 4 year gap in my resume?

You don't have to. They are not your friends and you don't know how someone might take it as.  
 You have been brave enough to come out of it but unfortunately not everyone will see it.

Investor

This is a funny happy moment for me, and I wanted to share it.

The picture below is from my handwriting practice notebook (4 lines are better to train the brain on the height of what each alphabet should be)

For context, I am ambidextrous. I used to write with both hands when I was young, but then dropped it when I was around 7.

I have been wanting from a long time to get my non-dominant hand (right) on the same level of handwriting as my dominant one (left). But I was never consistent with my practice, leaving it for months or years altogether. 

The picture is my random practice session today. 

But what a surprise it was! The alphabets on the first line are near perfect to how I write with my left hand. When I was writing, I kept saying to myself that "my brain has forgotten that I am writing with my right hand 😂". I showed it to my mother telling her the same thing 😂

Then I decided to test it further, started to write sentences, and lo and behold, my handwriting was actually very good. This surprised me, and made me super happy altogether.

This is my small celebration of coming close to achieving a dear dream. This made my day!

Such a relief🥹

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