Have been through a similar situation. At work, you both cannot be the same as earlier, you will have to respect her title. So the bestie part will happen after work.  And she will do your appraisal and pull you up for your mistakes, you both need to be mature.  It is going to be tricky. Else get a new job, the relationship stays.

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My work bestie just became my boss. How do we navigate this awkward power dynamic? We used to gossip about management together, and now she IS management. I'm happy for her, but things are... weir...

My work bestie just became my boss. How do we navigate this awkward power dynamic?
We used to gossip about management together, and now she IS management. I'm happy for her, but things are... weird.

Has anyone successfully maintained a friendship with a coworker after a major promotion?

The Workplace Friendship Fallout

Software Engineer

The Workplace Friendship Fallout- Grapevine

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I thought my work friends would be happy for my success, but now there's tension and resentment. I'm struggling to balance my new responsibilities with maintaining relationships. Has anyone successfully navigated this tricky transition? What worked for you?

I got promoted to manage my former peers and now they all hate me. How do you transition from colleague to boss without burning bridges?

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Me and a friend joined a company together as freshers. Over time we both grew our knowledge and got comfortable with our daily tasks. Our project manager happened to be from around my friend's place, and upon learning that, they both started having frequent conversations and over time became really good with each other while I had never spoken with the manager. And with this, the manager started having a bias towards my friend. And then one day, he asks my friend to take up the assistant team lead (ATL) position without considering anyone else, in spite of having better candidates for the role (people with 5+ years of experience). Now I'm being assigned tasks from my good friend. He sometimes tends to micro manage me, which I really don't like. But what I hate the most is when he assigns me bugs from his tasks, I mean it's his task right, why should I deal with his mess (bugs), and secondly I don't even have any knowledge about his task so wouldn't he himself fix the bugs faster than anyone else? But nope, he just doesn't wanna deal with it, and since he's the boss, he gets to decide who works on the tasks. I'm honestly not liking taking orders from my friend, how do I deal with this situation?

My friend became my boss.

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I’ll go first: being honest with my manager that my workload has been very low for 3 months straight. It ended up showing in my performance cyan

One mistake at work that you’ll never make again?

Business Development Manager

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I took on additional responsibilities with the promise of a promotion 'soon'. A year later, I'm doing the job without the title or compensation. Has anyone successfully navigated this limbo? How did you approach the conversation without burning bridges?

I was fortunate enough to cultivate great professional rapport with my coworkers at HeyCoach, but it made me wonder how many professional friendships remain intact once everyone transitions to another company? Oh how I feel sorry for them, I would like to hear more from you. Are work friendships long-lasting, or do people become friends at work only to stop being friends later?

Can Office Friendships Last Beyond Work?

Some days ago my manager asked me not to get too involved in informal conversation with a female colleague. According to she, it can affect my appearance and hence my ratings :) 
The Nazi idiot missed part that Slavery is already abolished in our society and I am free to talk/flirt responsibly with whoever I like, as long as other person won’t mind in any space. 
Do you guys have this level experience with toxic/dumb managers ?

Office politics aka Buckchudi

Finance Operations

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Lately it's been really hard trying to cope up with derogatory comments and people trying to pull you down.

I build/refactored some of our codebase and things go south in terms of performance at few places. 
I realised the mistake and fixed the performance bottlenecks that happened because of me in least time possible. 

But people still look down on me on and manager keeps passing hurtful comments about the incident every now and then.

Moreover there's worse happening fellow people start blaming you for the performance of code you haven't even touched. You are just utilizing some function in your codebase written by some other person.

I don't know how to handle all this and what should I do to avoid this? 
Mistakes happen, bugs go on prod, things can break but as far as once everything stabilise, we should move on.

How do you guys deal with Office politics.

A very senior manager who barely drinks, got too pumped up during our offsite. Started ordering shots for everyone, one after the other. We had never seen him dance, and somehow, he was the person who danced the most that night.

Eventually, he started openly cursing at a partner (in a playful way, but could easily be non playful), and somebody recorded this. 
I think the video circulated, and it's been weird for him since.

What's your best story?

What's your favourite office party gossip?

Consultant

How many of you have proper friends at work? And how many of you just have a nice dynamic with people you work with but no friendships as such? Any anecdotes? Stories?

Work relationships?

Copywriter

I'm struggling with the whole office politics game. On one hand, I want to build strong relationships and advance my career, but on the other, I'm not willing to compromise my values. Recently, I was pressured to support a decision I disagreed with just to stay in my boss's good graces. I stood my ground, but now I'm worried about the consequences.

How do you all handle these situations? Is it possible to play the game without selling your soul?

Integrity vs. Career: Can you win at office politics without losing yourself?

Ever wondered how many love stories orgs have killed? Right at the start, in the middle, intentionally adding to the cold start or making the friction more pronounced. Think about it: corporate policies, unwritten rules, and so to say "culture" might have ended more love stories (and still is) than we care to acknowledge.

Imagine two colleagues who hit it off -only to be told that their relationship violates some archaic HR policy. Or worse, they keep it hidden, living in constant fear of discovery. Why? Because the org demands a separation of personal and professional lives that’s unnatural and really there's no switch to human connection. How do it fucking turn it off?

I mean you spend more than half your day at the work place right? falling for someone out there - Happens. Then, wouldn't it get to you that you have to say something but cant say, have to wait, but cant wait, and the distractions and more. I have seen most sides I guess - exceptional performers getting together, one high one low getting along - good outcomes, I have seen public spats too - really ugly ones. I have seen folks in depression. I have seen the founders being shaky with the gossip and more..

So you got to ask:
- Does this really add to morale? who really wins here?
- Does it take you away from your goal?
- Why are folks so divided on this topic?
- Is it about control or culture or someones belief system coming in the way?
- What’s the real impact on employee retention?
- Do we really trust our employees enough?
- Can we redefine professionalism?
and What if we embraced love stories? 

Moral policing is not the answer. Neither is we dont know what they would do next - no one in the right mind is so horny that they bang right on the office floor (at least I would like to believe that) ... So.. is our insecurities too high, our principles too shaky, or we just like to be really really convenient. 

Your take please.

Office Love Stories

Human resource

I have joined this new company
Individually contribute and work with folks onsite.
I report to a manager who have multiple projects
There is this guy who is like 3-4 yrs experience but behaves like he is the boss when manager isn't around

Ruins standups every day with digressions and lengthy non sensical updates

He started trying overpower me with some nasty remarks 

Everybody is fed up with him,
With holds information, 
Treated interns as shit
Even seniors are troubled but don't confront aggressively

Got to know one of the recent left employee has reprimanded him and also shared the conflict with higher ups

They are saying no use as he behaves well with manager and his manager

I literally want to confront him and say to behave and act professionally

With his snarky remarks some of my days going bad
Being 11 years experience I feel so frustrated that I am still facing these narcissists


Please advise how to treat this prick in a good way and stop worrying


Ps I am all ok with years of  experience always feel good work place is major contribution for any ones win

How to deal with this co worker

Software Developer

I always heard about the office politics but never faced. But in my current company, I got caught up with the petty dirty office politics.

Manager keeps his ass safe by not taking any actions. He’s also one of them though. People take complete advantage of his inaction and lick his boot to safeguard themselves. Behaviour takes u-turn when the manager is not around.

Mediocre behaviour and no intent to do better.

One of the worst experience of my life. Have to get out.

Office Politics derailed trajectory

Investor

Becoming too much friendly and little close with colleagues is good or bad thing? 

In my company/team most the people are from same age and mostly male. I found there is too much unnecessary discussions and arguments and worse thing is you have to respect each other. 

Just curious because today my junior almost disrespected me and I was very confused how to react.

Too much friendly with Colleagues

Frontend Engineer

Seeking advice on how to grow at work, without having to butter up too many people. I have been struggling with this, because I feel too many people around are managing their managers, and using it as way to grow. My reviews and feedbacks have consistently been good, but I feel that for the output I provide, I am not growing as much, because of favouritism. 

Advice needed.

How to grow at the workplace without indulging in politics?

Product Manager

There is one guy on my team who handles feedback so poorly that they engage in narcissistic tendencies. I've seen them bootlick the right people due to their closer proximity and utilize crony wordplay to show that they are harmless. When in fact they try to advance their own agenda to further their own gain. Every company on their resume is a checklist and the megalomania in them is palpable. 

Unfortunately most people on the team are too naive and won't realize it until it's too late. Which means by the time he is done using everyone else, he will bounce and do it at their next company while completely f'ing over their current coworkers.

Anyone had a similar experience?

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My colleague (male) is in a relationship with my manager (male). This relationship is helping my colleague with promotions that bothers me. What should I do?

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What are your thoughts on making friends at work? I don’t just mean acquaintances, like deep, intimate friendships. 
When I started off I was given an advice to never make relationships at work be more deeper than it should be. 4 years later, I still follow that to the dot.

What are your thoughts?

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