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every relationship has a pivot point.  Once that pivot is gone, the relationship collapses//ends.

When you switch jobs or the person gets promoted to higher levels, The end. 

Apartment/colony friendship ends, when you or they  shift apartments/colony. 

School/college friendship ends when school/college days ends.

Consultant

I was fortunate enough to cultivate great professional rapport with my coworkers at HeyCoach, but it made me wonder how many professional friendships remain intact once everyone transitions to anot...

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I was fortunate enough to cultivate great professional rapport with my coworkers at HeyCoach, but it made me wonder how many professional friendships remain intact once everyone transitions to another company? Oh how I feel sorry for them, I would like to hear more from you. Are work friendships long-lasting, or do people become friends at work only to stop being friends later?

Can Office Friendships Last Beyond Work?

Can Office Friendships Last Beyond Work?- Grapevine

I’ll go first: being honest with my manager that my workload has been very low for 3 months straight. It ended up showing in my performance cyan

One mistake at work that you’ll never make again?

Business Development Manager

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What are your thoughts on making friends at work? I don’t just mean acquaintances, like deep, intimate friendships. 
When I started off I was given an advice to never make relationships at work be more deeper than it should be. 4 years later, I still follow that to the dot.

What are your thoughts?

Making friends at work

Software Engineer

How many of you have proper friends at work? And how many of you just have a nice dynamic with people you work with but no friendships as such? Any anecdotes? Stories?

Work relationships?

Copywriter

My work bestie just became my boss. How do we navigate this awkward power dynamic?
We used to gossip about management together, and now she IS management. I'm happy for her, but things are... weird.

Has anyone successfully maintained a friendship with a coworker after a major promotion?

The Workplace Friendship Fallout

I have been on a permanent wfh role since covid. Yes, been 2+ years since I stepped into an office. I stay alone and have little expenses but also 0 social life. Friends are all spread out. Not on any dating app because its exhausting. Can someone just talk about any impacts on their personal life from work life? Does anyone here feel a void too? I’d love to connect.

WFH = 0 Social Life

Operations Manager

Women of grapevine, if you had to share one advice with your younger self what would it be?

Human resources

Tell us how and when you realised that you need to move away from the people around you for your betterment.


There's a saying, "You're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with."
This unknowingly shaped us for periods.

🧵 when did you realise to change your circle

Growth Manager

Becoming too much friendly and little close with colleagues is good or bad thing? 

In my company/team most the people are from same age and mostly male. I found there is too much unnecessary discussions and arguments and worse thing is you have to respect each other. 

Just curious because today my junior almost disrespected me and I was very confused how to react.

Too much friendly with Colleagues

Frontend Engineer

Nothing against those who love them. It's just that I would rather like to spend the time with my plans. But often, you don't always have a choice.

Is it just me or office parties don't work for you either?

Category manager

Are you a first time manager or do you have any questions around workplace productivity, team management, culture? Ask away!

15 yrs of exp., 2x founder, 1 exit, led diverse teams. AMA

Founder

Most of us on Grapevine, working in corporate sector might make decent chunk of money if we keep grinding for a decade or two but very few of us would have the social capital (or as they say “networking” in our corporate jargon).
Increasingly realising that the society respects the business owners or govt officers more than any senior leader in an IT firm. There is no social recognition for corporate folks. It might not be relevant for young folks as they still have some residual social recognition of the family for now, but what would happen after a decade or two. Most of the corporate “friends” are no longer in touch except for very rare ones. How does one build a social circle after 10-20 yrs in corporate? Would like to hear from folks above 40 yrs if they’ve had similar thoughts and how are they managing?
Also, What are some ways one can start building social circle overtime while doing a corporate job?

PS: I am referring social capital as having a certain level of stature in society alongwith deep connections with some people living around you who can help you in need or can expect something from you. This is different from LinkedIn networking where primary expectation is referrals.

Service Class has no social capital

Just wanted to know if anyone on GV has had any kind of romantic / physical relationships with people at work or know of anyone who has and how did it end up as well as their thoughts on the same.

Office Crushes / Romances and how did it go ?

Assistant Manager

Hey Folks,
I’m in a phase where I have decided to move out from my present company. My present company is very dear to me as it gave me the taste of what success looks like. Honestly, I would have never made it had I not received the support and backing that I got here.

I don’t know if I am making the correct decision. Emotions are literally overflowing. One side of mine tells me that I am making the wrong decision whereas the other side is excited to see what future holds for me. 

Literally anxious of all the thoughts that are crossing my mind. What if , I am not able to perform at my next company ? What if , they decide to hire me and then not honour their offer letter ? What if, the company has a mass layoff and I am impacted ?

All these thoughts are literally eating me from inside. Any suggestions on how can I handle the same ?

How to handle emotions while switching companies

Software Developer

Am I the only one who likes working from office (Bengaluru)? I go to office every day, and it helps me to be more productive.

- There will be no distractions
- Team mates will be around, and if there is any queries, I can straight away ask them rather than typing a message or setting up a call
- Occasional chit chats
- Having lunch together
- being a part of all the conversations happening
- Managers works from office - a good rapport with him as well

- Free food
- Free Transport (can mates - another plus point)
- Good work set-up

- Meet new people almost every day
- Build/deepen real connections every day
- Interact with folks starting from entey level to senior directors or VPs regularly (L1 - L9 is the range mentioned here)


FYI: I moved to Bengaluru for work, although I've the option to work completely remote. 

One of my team member even mentioned that he has not yet been able to connect with the team member who has joined before me, like how he could connect with me.

I understand that once people have family, it will be difficult to manage everything. One of my team mate actually mentioned that, he used to do/manage everything properly before Covid, but it's kind of not easy/lazy since Covid.

I also realise that not everyone has the above perks, but still. 

Commute can be an issue. I travel 50+ KMs every day to and fro. I start by 7 am in the morning to morning traffic, and take around 75 minutes in the evening (I can survive the traffic without having to use my mobile 😂)

I do miss my family frequently, but I do have the flexibility to go home and stay a few days when I want. Staying alone in a service apartment is the only disadvantage as of now.

Working from Office

What is the social life for people who have spent >10 years away from their hometowns working in the corporate in metro cities? Do you have a social circle at your work city? How did you meet new people over your work life?

Social life of corporate folks after few years

Sometimes I usually think, Why do I lose our school and college friends one by one? Is this a sign of maturity, reality, or something else?

I am just 25 years old, and within 3 years I have lost 90 percent of my circle and the few who left, with whom I usually get time to chat, call, or plan to get out.
 
And I feel that some day I will also lose them.

Can you guys make some comments that I have became  matured or that this is the actual reality of damn life?

Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Application Engineer

I mean how do you start trusting people again?

Most of the people that I have around me turned out to be an ass. I could never fill the social void. 
My heart keeps yearning for social validation (I am not in the mood of hearing that happiness should stem from within etc etc, afterall humans are social beings, we need people to survive. We thrive on trust. Being alone never helps in the long run, I have learnt this the hard way)

Its so easy to confuse politeness with kindness.

I know it comes through practice but I have been extremely paitent. I cant filter people. 

I know its a plain rhetoric. But would love to know your perspectives.

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