Women want what their social circle has.  If not they will get bored.if their friends buy a car they want a car, if they go on foreign trip they suddenly would love travel, neighbourhood kid win a sports game, they would push their kids into sports. 

Women can't differentiate competition and collaboration 
.

Islea bolte hai, ladkiya jalebi ki tarah seedhi hoi hai

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I respect other thinkings but Too perfect husband is also a reason for divorce 😶This is so lucky to have man like this..

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That's why I don't even try being perfect 🙂

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Too perfect

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When we are young, our pain is often emotional, caused by things like stress or sadness. As we get older, this pain becomes more physical, like sore knees, a stiff neck, or failing organs. Pain, whether mental or physical, serves to remind us that life is temporary and that we should accept pain rather than fear it.

PAIN

Adulthood!

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How people managed to land a high-paying job.

Pain is constant 🥲

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The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

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I thought I was pretty HEADSTRONG until I had to let something go!

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“jeene ke liye socha hi nahi
dard sambhaalne honge...

muskuraaye toh, muskuraane 
ke karz utaarne honge ”

— Gulzar

Jeene Keliye!

I'm in a long-term relationship, but I can't shake the feeling that I'm settling. 

How do you know if you're truly happy or just comfortable? Has anyone left a "good enough" relationship and found something better?

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painfully accurate

What was one Obsession that wasn't worth it?

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Hurt too much to see through people

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At this point it's just Boot Licking Delivery app founders.
How come the opinion of a sample size of 1000 *young people* who are not even gig workers, get to be representative of whether gig worker unions should have right to bargain wages.

Everyone knows how harsh and unsafe the working conditions of delivery partners/gig workers are. On top of it now these companies are squeezing their wages to become profitable.

Not trying to moral police folks who order food and groceries online(even I do it), but this is just not sustainable. Sometimes it just feels wrong someone is traveling 5+ kms just to deliver me food and the guy/gal is not even being compensated properly.

And the below article is definitely not journalism or even reporting.

Link to article: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/yourstory-com_most-indian-workers-say-no-to-gig-drivers-activity-7121039458933620736-qRVQ?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_android

Another low from YourStory

Paytm pain

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Hi everyone as the title suggests i hv really started facing problem in daily activites due to this. I was once a very active guy who liked walking a lot but know even standing from chair is giving pain . Just after the covid this all things hv started happening. But the problem is i am only 1 years in my tech career and recent grad of 2022. I am really worrying about my long term prospects.  I know i should be asking this to doc and ys i hv asked them i just want to know from community if u guys hv problem how are u dealing with this. I hv recently joined gym also but that isnt solving my back problem . Doctor said to avoid prolong sitting but unable to do much in it.

Backpain making my life hell

If you see anything beautiful, know that there are p people who has made it that way and it is all in your head that you are judging something to be a certain way.

Anything beautiful is an oxymoron by itself.

Software Analyst

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Alagh, a prominent entrepreneur, cautioned against the implementation of a paid leave policy for menstruation, suggesting that it might pose challenges for women in the workforce. Taking to the social media platform X (formerly Twitter), she shared her perspective on the matter.

Mama Earth Co-founder Ghazal Alagh voices concerns over period leave debate

Ghazal Alag period leave controversy; Women of Grapevine what do you think?

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We evolved to live in small tribes and now live outside of our natural habitat, in an advanced civilization. One effect of this mismatch is that there are a bunch of things that feel dangerous to us that aren't actually dangerous, leading us to be way too risk averse. Like:

- Asking someone out on a date
- Trying something new even though you'll suck at it at first
- Quitting your job to start a company or try a career in the arts
- Putting your real voice out there on controversial topics

For primates living in a small tribe, rejection, embarrassment, failure, and criticism posed actual material dangers. These things are not dangerous today, but our software hasn't been updated. So we miss out on living our best life, hiding in the 1-4 zone of the danger scale. In a world of overly risk averse people, the epiphany that the 4-7 zone is actually a safe place to play is a superpower.

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