Changed too many times before I got to know them. 🫥

Software Engineer

I Don't understand him , as he works more than office time. and has been in this organisation for past 15 years

Co-Founder

Quite Experienced and supportive. I like him.

Founder

He is supportive and brilliant. His mentorship is the only reason I joined the company in the first place and still working there.

Pretty good business sense , bit of a douche in people skills

Lead Data Scientist

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What do you think 🤔 of your manager  or team lead

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Growth Manager

My teammate is very annoying😡
Whenever he is stuck with a problem, he just spends a very little time on it, and if he is not able to find a solution he gets me on the call and tries to get it solved through me and I kind of baby spoon him for the solution. This is a repeated practice and I am sick of it.
Sometimes I thought to confront him but then I kind of push myself back thinking how he might feel about it.

Please give me genuine suggestions on what should I do? Should I discuss this with my manager/lead? Or something else

PS: He is elder than me but we are on same designation.

Pissed with my teammate

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How is individuals growth over there? 
Any insights would be appreciated!

Are you happy with your product team? How is your Head/leadership team?

Analyst

I want to understand if this is common for folks and is there a way to tackle it.

I have recently moved my career from Talent Acquisition to Product Management Internally in my organization. My New Manager has also very recently joined the team. I see him barely investing time in understanding the skillset I hold and whenever there's a time of taking some responsibilities he will give it to others. I have been doing some operational work for the past 1 month now, majorly with excel sheets and coordination. 

I want to start working as a Product Management Professional and not as an operational Guy !

Open to suggestions on how to take this up !

Early days as Product Management Professional

Product Manager

I am a Software Engineer. How much should I connected with my manager because everything managed by team lead?

How much should I connected with my manager?

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The one who
- Keeps nagging with status updates
- Pushes you to achieve a goal which is merely quantitative & not qualitative
- Appreciates employees that show ‘first-benchers’ trait
- Junks your ideas to satisfy his own ego
- Pretends busy all the time

Comment your experience dealing with such Managers.

Narrate your story dealing with Micromanagers

Software Architect

So During our scum calls with client my manager  gives update for whole team himself and doesnt let us update on the task which we have worked on ourself . Mf just grabs all the glory  in pursuit for good feedback from client side   meanwhile he does nothing technical  and during internal meeting he says you guys should speak more with client  and ALSO he ask for everyone's update on task before scrum and then pokes why is it not done even on task whose estimated completion  date/time is far away. 

So annoying and frustating .

Just a rant from your average software dev . 
Do give any solution you might have . 🙂
Thanks for reading.

Down bad manager ! Glory hunter.

Data engineer

As the title suggests, does it make sense to talk about a colleagues’s inability to deliver to my manager. The colleague’s incompetence to take ownership is very evident now to everyone and the manager is not taking any steps on it. Others have to basically cleanup and babysit him. Worse part, this colleague gets paid the highest in the team. At this point it’s just breeding resentment across the team. How to handle this situation? Any tips. Early stage startup, the manager is part of the founding team.

Should you confront your manager about a colleague’s incompetence?

Do not get involved. Try to minimise your own additional work due to that colleague. In one-to-one meeting with manager, let the manager know. Use the words: I just wanted to bring your attention to one more matter. Then describe the challenges that you face. Not your team. Do not gang up, do not conspire or collaborate. Do not mention about how other colleagues feel the same way. If your manager takes a negative opinion of these activity, you'll be fucked, because such a thing would create a negative impression. If the manager is not inclined to go by your judgement of your colleague's competence, you'll lose face. But it's much easier to control the narrative and restore your manager's confidence in you in a one-on-one conversation, than when it's a group mutiny. No matter what others tell you, do not get encouraged. People often sound like they're with you, but they often are not. They won't back their statements, and you'll be alone holding the bag. And moreover, if you stay out of it, you'll be able to carry the high ground of being above the fray, out of politics, and being balanced. Don't do netagiri of this sort. Conserve it for initiatives for which getting consensus is harder. It might be possible that you're the only one feeling so strongly about it. Then you may be in need of a weekend, or someone to vent to, or even therapy. But get your hate in check.

Generalist

As I read few posts about leadership styles, rants about pathetic managers. Since this platform has a combination of managers & freshers/reportees.

Just thought to know what defines a good manager.

Also would like to know from people who are in the leadership role - What makes you think you are a good manager & what is that one thing u want to do to make others life better at office.

What defines a good manager?

Investment Banking Associate

I have 2 Offers, both from start ups, A is a consumer faced growing startup with good & lots of work! Pros of A are: Culture seems good, maybe good quality work, peers okay! Cons are : No flexibility with WFH, package 4 lakhs less than B, maybe lots of work.

Pros of B: Higher package (+4 lacs), option to work from anywhere, dont know about kind of work!
Cons; SaaS based startup so don’t know about kind of work I would get, maybe dashboard or external services integration, WLB may be fucked up! 

What should I join? I am in dilemma, what if I join A and I get overwhelmed with work and get burned out, package also less.

What if join B and I do not get quality work and do not grow as a Frontend developer? 

Folks with experience help!!!!!!!!
I previously joined a startup, got burned out pretty quickly!

Help choose me offer!

My employer talks to me in a way that I don't feel good. I feel inferior. I also get to learn a lot.
What do you think I should do? 

1. Be in the company and listen to his bitter voice.
2. Leave the company but that can hinder my growth.

Thoughts Needed

Hey guys, i am going to be a manager for the first time in a company that i have been working at for 3 years and I have people joining me from monday.. any tips for being a good manager?

Going to be a manager for the first time

- Just be receptive to their thoughts, understand their povs. 
  
 - Help them understand their role and your expectations from them clearly. 
  
 - Direct manager plays a huge role in someone’s POV about the organisation, set some biweekly or monthly one on ones to understand/tackle problems they are facing. use the same meeting to communicate your expectations from them. 
  
 - One thing that is often neglected is, making sure your team members have a visibility outside your team as well. Promote a culture where in your manager also knows about your subordinates and what they are good at.  
  
 - Provide them your support towards their career goals. 
  
 - Finding a good balance between becoming too strict (getting work done) vs too supportive ( some lemons take advantage of this). 
  
 If you end up doing half of the above they will remember you throughout their career. I was fortunate enough to have two manager in my career like that. Both of them I still reach out for career guidance.

Staff Engineer

Hi experienced professionals,

I have to provide the details about my reporting manager for the BGV check.
So Do I need to provide the exact one or anyone in the company from the diff team with whom I had good terms ? 

PS - My manager was a dumb ,puppet and bootlicker of my team lead who was the most toxic person on the earth and I had v v bad terms with both of them. Team lead has been kicked out of the company. 
Please pour in your suggestions 

Thanks

Do I really need to give the exact one ?

Have recently started noticing a bunch of times that my manager leaves me out of meetings where key decisions are taken, related to the work that I only have done. 

I get to know this because I stalk their Google Calendar. It’s just weird. I’m not insecure or anything, I’ve been mostly rated well. It’s just odd. 

This just didn’t happen before and lately has started.
Anyone faced this and knows how to address it?

My manager is leaving me out of key meetings

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In my corporate experience, I have observed two kinds of leaders - 1) A hard task master, very high on IQ but more often than not low on EQ and 2) High on EQ, above avg on IQ. I as a manager/ leader fall under 2) and usually get work done without authority but I do experience at times, some peers and reportees taking advantage of my behaviour

 In my view, anecdotally I see type 1) leaders succeed more in corporates even if it comes at the cost of facing flak/hate from directs/indirects. One of my previous managers was unpopular for his toxicity but somehow I kind of built a decent bond with him. Once over drinks and dinner, he candidly told me, I'm not here in this organization for making friends and I'm here only to get results and he did deliver on results every year.

My question is, can type 2 leaders even climb up the ladder specially where cut throat competition exists. Sometimes I do feel I need to be more like type 1 leaders obviously not at the cost of toxicity - disrespect, shouting etc. 

What are your thoughts?

Task Master vs Empathetic leader

Program Manager

I am working as a Software Engineer and aspiring to get promotion to Senior Software Engineer.
My manager who use to support me went on a sabbatical, now my team is getting changed for second time in 3 months and the team I was working in from 1 year and wanting to be Team Lead of is sidelining me as I will be moving to new team now. It’s getting tough for me to take lead of anything and people around are not supportive of me being Team Lead even after knowing I am capable of it.. What should I di, should I just keep head down and wait for manager to return and rant to him or just keep poking everyone and snatch ky rights of Team Lead and stay in same team and refuse to change team

What to do when getting sidelined as an SSE?

Software Developer

I recently started a new job. I would like to share some of the experiences I have had with my manager. I am wondering if these are red flags or if I am maybe being paranoid or thinking too much.

It was quite difficult for me to get into this company and this job. The company is quite great and I was quite excited but some of the experiences I have had with my immediate manager have made me a bit apprehensive.
I would like to share them and hear opinions about it.

Here are some things which have happened which I have not liked so far - 

1. I speak to a Senior Engineer one day and next day my manager asks me if anyone asked me to speak to him. 
2. I shared an insight about a new tool which we can use on a deployment pipeline on the overall pod (under my skip manager). My manager immediately called me and started asking my status update and replied 'Discussing 1-1' in the group to prevent anyone getting visibility of the idea. 
3. My manager pings me whenever I go offline and recently he asked me in a passive aggressive way, 'Please monitor your Teams status. It was away for most of today.' I now feel kind of paranoid to never get up as I feel my Teams status is being monitored.

Is my manager too much of a micromanaging red flag ? I started a new job and my manager monitors my Teams online status.

Yes this is straight up micromanagement and insecurity. 
  
 Just stand up to him man. The more of such things you allow him to do, the more courage he will get and more he will fuck your life.  
  
 Just stand your ground for a few times and he'll understand that you are not the guy he can do this to.

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So i started working with zee5 as a Smart TV developer right out of college. After about 2 years , in March 2024 , layoffs happened due the merger between Sony and Zee was called off.

So i was looking  for Software developer opportunities , after multiple rejections , hundreds of application, got a decent offer from To The New for the same position of Smart TV developer . I am also getting some raise on the previous CTC , which i am glad considering the current market situation.

So i just wanted to ask about the org To The New , how its work culture is ? Also like what are the growth prospects there ? Also since technically it provides service to other big techs.So will it be an issue if i want to switch to a better product based company.

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