Why though?  
  
 I thought it will be fun, given you both get along.

Work and personal life are two different things, and should be kept separate

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Sibling is still okay though. You can beat them up if they mess around.

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Cousins have to be the most entitled, worst work ethic creatures to ever exist

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Why is this true?!- Grapevine

Why do relatives feel that they should always talk about doing things the right way and how do they know what they say is the right way?

Some examples -
- to lose weight, focus on walking and fully come to normal BMI and then only do weight training. But, research suggests weight training to be more beneficial for both weight loss and increasing metabolism
- we should drink hot water to lose weight. What?😂
- get married early and marriage is the only way to go!
- our screen time shouldn't be more with mobile, but rather with tv
- don't use earphones, they damage ears
- Some fruits are beneficial for diabetes

Don't get me wrong, I love relatives. I just don't enjoy someone giving advice when I didn't ask them. Especially when I can't trust their source of information for anything - life advices, religion, shastra,  traditions, women's rights etc.

And, I am really tired fighting battle and tackling so much misinformation about everything. All I do is just listen to them and move on!

Wanted to know what do you guys do?

How do you deal with unsolicited advice of relatives?

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It's a very Indian mindset to treat or look down upon people who make a lot of money. We find some or the other reason to bring them down. We call them names. Though most of our life problems can be solved by money. 

Just like there is an American dream I think the Indian dream is to stay middle class and bitch about people who do the hard work. 

I understand that there are certain classes of people who are truly disadvantaged in terms of caste or patriarchy but for others it's just being lazy and reluctant to change.

Bitching about people who are successful just gives them a sense of achievement without actually putting in the effort.

Indians wholeheartedly hate people who make money

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I am a 30 M , got married in 2020 and clearly the marriage was not working out. My wife and her mother was always finding ways to control me from the beginning with all the little things and my wife started this drama like with every fight she used to leave the house and stay at her mother’s and not comeback until all the parents gets involved and me asking sorry, one time she left the house because I cooked the curry and had asked her to do roti this turned into a fight and just for that she left the house. And her mother threatened me that she won’t send her daughter back until I ask sorry. There were LOT of these instances and at one point I really got fed up and started standing up for myself, in the last fight she said she won’t come back again and I said please don’t I am also tired of this. After a month she started reaching out to me asking sorry and apologies and all but I had lost all trust in the relationship and I wanted sometime. Even if I let her in her mother would have ruined the relationship again , so I asked her since I have no trust you have to agree on that in future if we get divorced if we have kids the kids stay with me and I won’t pay any alimony. Following this discussion she lodged a fake domestic violence and dowry case against me and my family. And I filed for divorce after I seeing police station and all. I have all the evidence to prove that I am innocent but the court is taking very very long time and now she is asking for for a huge amount only the she will agree for divorce 😣

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"The extent of water surface in Bengaluru during 1973 was 2,324 hectares. Over the last 50 years, due to reckless concretization, the water surface has shrunk considerably. Of the remaining water bodies, 98% of lakes are encroached upon and 90% of them are fed with untreated sewage or industrial effluents. Naturally, this has impacted the recharge of the groundwater table as well," IISc's Prof TV Ramachandra had told TOI.

Bengaluru's severe water crisis and traffic congestion are prompting tech giants to consider relocating from the $245 billion IT hub. The city's civic challenges may impact India's IT industry landscape, compelling companies to explore emerging cities.

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This question has been seriously bugging me for sometime. How do rich and upper middle class kids manage abroad in US and UK like countries? They won't get any house help like a maid to cleanup their room, nor a cook to make their food. I mean I am assuming they have grown up with this sense of entitlement and with utmost privilege their parent were able to provide them in India. Is it easy to give up the previous tantrums and lifestyle conditions and just suck it up for the next few years? Also the weather is so cold at some places that you feel like getting out of the bed, let alone cooking and cleaning!

How do these top 1 percent kids manage? Does the US humble them? Now, I don't agree with the  reasons that the US has dignity of labour and crap. I know if for a fact that if labour laws of minimum wage, taxes and welfare were to vanish, all the Americans will end up having a personal Buttler at diet cheap prices. It is more about these welfare schemes reducing the inequality in society.

Do share your experiences!

How rich and upper middle class Indian students make it without any househelp in the States?

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I have had over 8-10 managers in my life in a career spanning over 8 years, 5 of them were female managers and unfortunately the experience with 4 of them were very bad. They’re either micro managers, or power hungry, want to be dominant over male juniors, misuse their power, cannot take any kind of resistance or refusals or disagreement from juniors.

I have always heard female managers are more empathetic but unfortunately I’ve faced the opposite. Just wondering, was it just bad luck or is it actually the case?

I tried to introspect in this and I found at least 4 points common across all these female managers:

1. They are all from Tier 2/3 Cities
2. They’ve studied in premier institutions IIT,IIMS,Wharton even one of them
3. They either have a younger or elder brother who got more love in the family
4. Their husband is at a higher senior level than them in professional life/career

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DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

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Majority of Indian startups has toxic work culture and the same is not true for any US or Europe based startup. Indian startups just copy paste ideas from the west and apply it to Indian context. We don't have original product barring few such as Postman and all. Why is it so and how we can improve the situation?

Majority of Indian startups are shit.

This person, say ABC, has been cribbing not finding an internship

I try fix one for them

Instructions I get, stipend should be 10-15k/mo, or won't do

Umm, I mean?

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Just wanted to know why and how come our companies have horrible WLB and cultures compared to western counterparts. Is it the fault of the employees for accepting whatever and acting like sheep or is it just the mindset of the senior management to treat their subordinates the same horrible way they were treated as some sort of sick rite of passage ?

Why do Indian Companies / Indian management have horrible work life balance and cultures compared to others  ?

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I have three younger cousins. They don't want to code. They have their clarity. They don't want to pursue any particular engineering stream as well. 

They want to get a decent paying job. Let's say 6-8 lpa start with a path to 15-20 lpa in 4-5 years. 

I tried advising them to not invest a lot of money and four years of time in engineering. Their family is average middle class financially. I told them that I'll advise you what all to learn like content writing, seo, data analytics etc. So do a simple course, save money and rather invest in something that matters for job. 

They did listen but did not get confidence to act. 
All three went for engineering stream. These are private colleges with tier 3ish names. Now they don't get time to put a lot of time because 8-4 is usually college time. Unlike tier 1,2 college where you get campus and a lot of freedom, the colleges usually have a lot of classes and compulsory 80% type attendance. 

Did you face similar situation? What did you advise? Do you think I was giving them right decision?

Did you try advising your cousins not to pursue engineering if they don't want to code?

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They have no life
They have nowhere to go
They have no one to be with
They have no passions outside work either

And they make your life hell as they become the baseline for comparison for all sorts of management from appraisal to work distribution.

Feel free to disagree with me, but I’m genuinely pissed today. How do you deal with them? I have a decent life outside work but lose most of it while trying to catchup to such people so that I don’t get fired.

Sorry for the title.

How the F do I deal with overworkers?

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Indian managers will make the work culture toxic even if they are in good international companies. Indian branches of the same company will be shity because of these insecure managers.

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