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I work in a slowing industry (Ed-Tech!) in a generalist role (Project Management!) for half a decade now! You'd think I would be better positioned to deal with life! Heck, NO! 

This crippling feeling of insecurity or job loss always puts an extra stress on day to day life. I couldn't take any risks in terms of a house or a car or a big EMI purchase in life! 

What if I get laid off? Will this generalist role help in landing anything next? Do I need an MBA for that? Switching to any specialized roles will take extensive preparation with time being in short supply with family and kids! 

Seem to have been strangled in the startup world. Any cure for this?

P.S : Sometimes thinking : Mommy sahi bolti thi. Govt job le leni chahiye thi. :D

How to get rid of layoff fear and feel secure?

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Elders leaving the home do not realise the void they leave behind
How did you, at such young age, manage life - new experiences, body changes, parents' attention

Ques to Younger Siblings: How did you manage life when elder ones left home for study/work?

How is mom's favourite child never picked from the dustbin 🤔
How is mom's favourite child the younger one always 🤔

Happy Siblings' Day!

Is this PR or Pyaar 🤷‍♀️

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I grew up with a stay at home mom but I have plenty of friends who grew up with “power couple” parents. If anything, the kids with working moms were better prepared for school and were more... polished? And I know plenty of fuck ups whose retarded moms stayed at home and/or whose parents ended up in nasty ass divorces with their “helpless” moms cleaning out their dads.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with nannies and having help. You grow to love them in a different way and they give you another perspective as you grow. It’s not like kids with nannies automatically assume that their parents don’t love them, and it’s rare for both parents to be completely absent all the time unless they never wanted kids in the first place. I feel like the argument against nannies and career women is usually made from bitter people who can’t afford them

I won’t settle for someone who doesn’t have a career. Not a job, a career. Maybe she’ll make the decision to stay at home for a few years but I don’t want to bankroll the seamless and reality show watching habits of an intellectually lazy partner for the rest of my life. I’ve seen firsthand the type of woman who doesn’t want to be challenged, what happens to the men who marry them, and how their kids turn out. Fuck that noise. This isn’t the 1980s

And if you think you can maintain your lifestyle in Bangalore/Mumbai once you have kids on a single income, think again, especially when your friends have paired off with those dreaded career girls.

Power Couples?

So, yesterday was supposed to be all about sibling bonds, but it turned into a reminder of how complicated family can be. You know how some holidays just don't live up to expectations? Yeah, this was one of those.

I've got this tradition of reaching out to my guy cousins for Rakshabandhan since I don't have brothers. Usually, it's a nice little exchange - nothing fancy, just a quick "Hey, thinking of you" kind of thing. But this year? Radio silence from one of them. Let's call him Dev.

At first, I brushed it off. People get busy, right? But then I saw him commenting on stuff in our family group chat. Ouch. Talk about being left on read.

The weird part is, Dev and I generally get along fine. He even made this sweet post about his sister today. It just hit different, you know? Like, oh right, I'm not actually part of that sibling circle.

Mom dropped some truth bombs later, mentioning how this isn't exactly new. Apparently, back in the day when we'd send actual rakhis, they'd never even say thanks. I'd totally forgotten about all the heartfelt letters I used to write too. Guess they're still collecting dust somewhere.

I'm trying not to let it get to me, but it's hard not to feel a little... I don't know, forgotten? Unimportant? It's just a text, but sometimes it's the little things that speak volumes.

Cousin ghosted me on Rakshabandhan

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So my sibling is about to graduate with a degree in Computer Science from a T2 college in a few months and wants to now do MS in the US because of three reasons: 

1. Low levels of violence against women(Sexual Assault) [IMPORTANT!!]
2. Want to do innovative work in the US instead of working on copycat products in India
3. Ambition of living in the US long term because of free-er culture

But my parents have flat out refused to fund the education or even help her with a loan due to regressive mentality (nahi jaana baahar, 2-3 saal kaam karo aur shaadi karo chup chaap)

She has accepted a job offer for now and will make 14L/year. What are her options? Should she drop the idea of MS abroad?

What to do if your parents refused to fund your education(MS/MBA) abroad?

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I am from a lower income family. My father is a blue collar worker and my mom is a home-maker. I have a few siblings.

Entire life my parents made close to ~6L in a year combined. They let me do anything and never pressured me into pursuing a career that I did not want to, especially as a woman.

They gave me 100% freedom, support, and never once asked me to take care of them after I made it.

Like most Indian parents from tat background, they have no retirement fund. Every bit of money went towards food and essentials.

I went to a shit college in the middle of nowhere for my Bachelors. Chose my degree in CSE and grinded tf out. Got into PM after a few years and never looked back.

My parents can’t tell the difference between Product Management and Project Management. It doesn't even matter anymore. I am prepared to take care of my parents but more importantly I plan to take care of my sister's higher education so that she can decide a career without having to worry about ROI/LTV of her course fees because of loans.

It has been a journey of a lifetime till now. I can only be grateful for what has happened and continue working hard.

How being a PM lifted my family out of poverty

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Typical over-pampering of the youngest kid 😒

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🟣Multiple people asked us to change it, so we did.
🟣Yes, women are coming.
🟣No, we didn’t pay them to come.
🟣Roughly 25 people confirmed so far.
🟣Saket Social rooftop is the venue, pic below.
🟣Navin’s flight was delayed by 6 hrs but he did reach Delhi today (gg Air India express).

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Pyaar Dosti Hai update: age bracket changed to 21-40.

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🟣Multiple people asked us to change it, so we did. 
🟣Yes, women are coming.
🟣No, we didn't pay them to come. 
🟣Roughly 25 people confirmed so far. 
🟣Saket Social rooftop is the venue, pic below.
🟣Navin's flight was delayed by 6 hrs but he did reach Delhi today (gg Air India express).

RSVP here in case you haven't yet, payment link will be shared after registration - https://lu.ma/ll9x6r8g

Pyaar Dosti Hai update: age bracket changed to 21-40. See you tomorrow 😊

Had a call with my cousin this weekend. Life has been very hectic lately so, I have been laying low for a while now. Anyway, my cousin reached out and he brought up something very interesting. He mentioned how the quality of new engineering grads at FAANG has been trending downwards over the last three or so years.

Technical competency aside, there is a weird behavioural shift wherein freshers have adopted job hopping every 2-3 years. He told me that there are zero engineers who stayed longer than 3 years at his org. 

I mean optimizing for pay is fine. The thing to really balance for is impact in the long run because at one point you would find it hard to scale beyond a Lead/EM role at an org. 

But the real thing is that the "FAANG" hype has started to die down amongst the 99th percentile of talent. I wonder how long will it take to have a trickle down effect to 80th percentile and so on.

Just to validate, I asked a friend for his opinion and he opined that "Bhai, tum FAANG mei naaukar ho ya kisi startup mei, ho toh naukar hi." Translation: "You can work at FAANG, or at a startup but you are still a servant(employee)"

Is the FAANG hype really dead?

Is the FAANG hype dead? 💀

Product Manager

I found an old form from 2013, my father had sent details
Annual Income - 8L
Education expense - 2.5L

He is retired govt empl so couldn't lie on numbers

I was in top autonomous institute, and my brother in good private school in Delhi

It hits me now, how I wasted my life 'enjoying college' and thereafter
Falling in and out of love

Parents never say anything on practical topics, just regular wake up early, eat vegetables rant

I fucked my life and how

Dying in guilt

Do you guys feel that all these years of hardwork, getting best education & hustle to get decent/top job is no way remunerative to what people on SM(insta/yt) influencers make by simply sharing their life/cooking videos/GRWM/nutritionists etc, which we audience consume mindlessly.

Does this change in career mindset going to make children opt out of higher education? I see a lot of people below 18yrs to have below average scientific mind.

Ofcourse, there are people in the same age group doing amazing stuff, building startups etc but an average kid seems lost in the digital space.

Mid life crisis?

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I have had over 8-10 managers in my life in a career spanning over 8 years, 5 of them were female managers and unfortunately the experience with 4 of them were very bad. They’re either micro managers, or power hungry, want to be dominant over male juniors, misuse their power, cannot take any kind of resistance or refusals or disagreement from juniors.

I have always heard female managers are more empathetic but unfortunately I’ve faced the opposite. Just wondering, was it just bad luck or is it actually the case?

I tried to introspect in this and I found at least 4 points common across all these female managers:

1. They are all from Tier 2/3 Cities
2. They’ve studied in premier institutions IIT,IIMS,Wharton even one of them
3. They either have a younger or elder brother who got more love in the family
4. Their husband is at a higher senior level than them in professional life/career

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It was just a one time okay watch for me. Kudos for the makers, but not really wowed by the film

Did I miss some perspective that others saw?

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