Dating Tips for introverts

I'm not a club kind of guy. so, that option already crossed out for me. 🙂 I go to a gym, but only girls coming are with there boyfriends or either they are too big for me (by age obviously 😅). Also don't know why but looks like my company only hires boys in tech. so, no luck out there too. 🥲🥲 Tried dating apps but no luck there. hardly getting any matches. 🥲🥲 Where should I go next?? I'm mere 23, earns desent (~1.5L a month), totally introvert so, don't know how to talk to a girl much. All I'm searching is a simple sweet girl. where Can I find those girls in bangalore??

For all the introverts out there, how did you find love ? What's the way?

from a guy's point of view: 1. You will get rejected by girls you want and you will reject the girls who want you, it's an endless cycle. 2. Caste/religion/job/location/money/face : everything matters. 3. When you start talking to a girl, assume she is already talking to 5 guys at least, that's how it works. 4. All the things you want in a person, will start vanishing with each person you talk to, so don't be rigid. You don't know what you want, it will keep changing. 5. People are going to lie about their age/salary/past etc, do your due diligence properly. They are going to pretend to be someone they are not. 6. Be ready for rejections and getting ghosted, hearing absurd rejection reasons. 7. They like to keep their options open, you are not their first priority, sooner you find that out the better or you need to put efforts to become their first priority. 8. Keep your expectations to a minimum, otherwise it will become the reason behind your frustrations. 9. Don't be desperate. Keep your attention to a limit, if you gave too much, then you would come off as desperate and not likeable. How to deal with it? 1. It is what it is. 2. If it didn't work, it wasn't meant to be. 3. No effort is a sign of no interest, stay away from such people. They are putting effort for someone else. If you have someone in your life, keep them close, put in efforts, don't come to matrimony apps.

I'm at that age where is tremendous pressure to get married. Can't even put in words the kind of torture I go through every day. I'm a woman. I have met people mostly through AM set up. I didn't click with anyone. I don't have faith that I'll be anyone compatible through AM route. Tried dating app, quickly realised it's not for me, the compatibility is even worse there. I go to events and such, didn't really meet anyone. Idk if it's just the Kannada culture, everyone is just so shy! I enjoy being by myself but would prefer being with a partner. I realise the importance of having a companion. At the same time, I also don't want to just get married to someone for the sake of it. So Bengalurians, especially Kannadigas, where did you meet your partner/SO/spouse? What is something I should be doing that I'm not doing? On the work front, I'm doing quite well. Looks wise too, I don't think I'm ugly.

Dating apps have failed in the US. They will fail in India too. What next?

Actually I never dated , never had a girlfriend. In school I liked a girl but she rejected me . In college, I found that girls in my class are not compatible ( I mean they have other interests in their life , I have other interests) . And now I will be graduating from college, have a job of 8.55 lpa but never had a girlfriend. I thought I can date in the office but reality hit me that I can't date in my office. Going forward ( after a year ) I am aiming for a remote job . Then I will go back to my village ( I have reasons for that ) . But I fear that I can't get gf there because my village is conservative. Let me tell you that I am a shy guy and I don't believe in this cliche " go out and talk to women" because I can't start talking rubbish just for shake of talking. So please advise what to do ?

I have recently shifted to mumbai. Thought of finding love through dating apps. So, I created Tinder profile and taken platinum subscription on the platform. Swiped many profiles. 1st match I got in mumbai after using boost feature on the app. The match I got from profile was not verified. So I chatted for a day and decided to meet. When you are chatting with girl 1st time. Everything girl says you believe and do. She told that she will meet and waited for 2 hrs hasn't got a reply. I wasted my duty hours in search of love. Then I continued to chat and 3rd day I dared to meet. She is so, specific on Andheri West location. Says some story as new to city don't know. Meet there 1st time. After meeting and my friend went there a mall. After reaching a mall she specifically send a location. It's somewhat uncomfortable for guys itself in mumbai to go there in Galli in night time. I insisted her to reach a public space like mall but she is so specific to reach a specific location. Its anyhow a scam . If you find anything like Andheri West/ Andheri East all are scamstars they don't meet just to loot a person who reachs that location. Then I have got a match from verified profile. This girl also saying to meet at same location and same area. I have blocked both the profiles. After that an unverified match came to my profile. He directly sent WhatsApp link. After chatting with that a Chinese girl just updates her messages with broadcast messages and sells her ebay networking business through whatsapp. I feel mostly malasian numbers chatting through whatsapp are scammers with some marketing agenda. Mostly tinder is for paid hookups and scammers. After that I started using Jeevansathi app in mumbai. Here a profile looked genuine and had a journey through whatsapp for 11 days. On first 2 days I felt like almost every likes and dislikes matches with her. I was in cloud9 and got my soulmate in my life. But the real thing started when I asked for voice call she ignored . Then after a day I got a what's app call with female voice. A person who hears female voice and speaks in a possessive tone with me. I thought she is a wife material as per insta videos a person who cares about your finances and discuss pre marriage likes and dislikes. I just believed and continued for next 7 days.. She had asked all the financial details about savings, and after marriage kids future corpus building.I really respected her dream and vision. I asked video call confirmation for profile genunity. She said a story that she had a dream of first meet to be life long remembered meet and showcased in video and show to kids how we met.she wants to connect emotionally first. So I asked her I want identity confirmation. Then she said I will give. Anything I ask for 2nd time she gets angry. One day she shared some identity proof matching profile picture and name. After that I shared mine after a night gap. She has shown fire in the conversation. I really feared by the way she dealt. Next day she was not the way you used to be. After this trust issues sorted slightly. I told her I am trusting you blindly. But she would everytime say she is busy and only she would chat in messages without calls and video calls . Still I continued conversation with her 10 days. I discussed same with other mumbaite regarding this behaviour as these all are new to me. She straight away said it's fake. I told her it might be potential match. She replied 😂LOL😂. She said ladka baat kr rha hoga koi ladki apna document proof (aadhar card) nhi bhejti. It's fake. As she only chats, no voice calls & video calls. Then Mai pucha kyu yeh log mere saath timepass kr rhe hai. She said to look like genuine. "FAKE IT TULL YOU MAKE IT" is the marketing techniques folloed currently in today's market. On 11th day I asked to send live location. She hasn't sent yet. This confirmation is that she is fake. The Gf experience she gave is some what memorable as I was blushing whole day while chatting. One more she chats 11:30 Am morning and says she is busy with meetings. Finally pyaar andha hota hai. Aur pyaar kliye ladka kuch bi krne kliye tayyar hai.