How to be happy?

I am 23M working in a well renowned Fintech startup. Have got what I have dreamed of in college like high ownership, good pay and other similar things. But lately realized that I can't do these things for my majority of life. Although I enjoy my work but still feeling lonely and aimless. Previous to September it was remote but now they have made it hybrid and I have to reallocate to Gurgaon and now I am feeling more lonely and aimless in life. Have tried travelling and other stuffs inorder to find interest in life but nothing excites me.

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway. So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing. I realised that, Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation) My current daily routine is like this: Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday. School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya. Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday. I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons. 1. I’m the only son of my parents. 2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle. That’s it 🙏🏼

Do you feel that evenings and nights are really depressing when you are lonely? By lonely, I mean that you don't have a partner or roommate to talk to (you can still have an active social life). I have an active social life and I talk to people in office, but most of my past friends and roommates got married and moved on. I don't really have any interest in marriage. The mornings and afternoon feel amazing even in weekends. But evenings feel depressing and sad. Anyone else feel this way?

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

Have you ever felt you have got cheated in your life? You are not in a place where you exactly should be? Wrong connection/relationship?? How to come out from this??

So, I'm a 27 year old guy working as a software engineer for the last 4 years and come from a typical middle class family. I have made decent money of about 50 lakhs in savings but I feel like it has come at a huge cost to me which was not worth it. Here's the cost it took for me to reach this goal: - Joined college in 2016 and never enjoyed the college life or went to gym to make good physique - All I did throughout my 4 years of college was crammed DSA in the hope that one that I will be able to crack a SWE job. - Now after 4 years into my SWE career have not enjoyed life again due to work and have not worked on my physique again. - Never had a relationship. Never went on a trip. - Basically just never did anything which gave me satisfaction and kept myself holed up in my room from last 8 years. - Now when I'm 27 and approaching 30 I feel like wasted my prime years of 20s and it was all pointless. - And btw I hate my job also for which I sacrificed so much. - Now I want to change my life but whenever I try to do so I just am not able to. I'm addicted to watching reels and twitter for short term dopamine to escape my reality which is keeping me from changing my life drastically. - I know there is a problem with me and I know what I need to do fix that but I'm just not able to for some reason which makes me feel worse as it makes me depressed further and takes towards a downward spiral. - Also there is no one in my real life with whom I can share these thoughts without getting judged and feeling worse

M29 / Never felt love ever in my entire life I’m a M/29 good looking , well educated and in a good paying job. All through my life I’ve never felt loved or been in a proper relationship. Ive been respected , valued but never really “loved “. Ive got a really good friends circle and good parents who love me but this is different . I’ve liked a couple of girls in the past , spoke to them for a while but never took off until a relationship level. I’m also not a person who would shoot a shot at every girl just to be in a relationship . Currently I feel really desperate to be loved . I love myself but there’s a constant desire to be loved by someone . sometimes even a small act of affection from opposite gender makes me wonder if it’s love . People would know constantly ask me why I’m single even after being a well qualified bachelor which hurts even more. Looking for some genuine advice how to get over this feeling or if this feeling is valid .

I've been working for just over a year after graduating from college. I'm pretty happy with my prof life but I feel a sense of being lost and purposeless. After wrapping up things related to work I don't feel the motivation to do anything else. I've been staying in a new city where I hardly know anyone. What do I do?

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them. I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions. I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair. Is life all about suffering and pain?

Hi In final year right now of my BE My entire college life I am feeling left out No friends, If I need something I ask my classmates It feels odd It feels week Why as a MAN I am feeling such emotions Even accepting the fact myself that path further ahead will be like this only But still in mind, somewhere I believe if I had someone to talk to Someone to share everything I have It would have been better Yet again weak thoughts How as MALE adults you overcome Or you don't give a f*ck about it More like "hey, I don't even have time to feel shit" Pls throw some light on these thoughts I am open to every discussion