PeppyLlama

Struggling with loneliness

I'm 24 yrs old girl. For the past few months, I have been struggling with anxiety and loneliness in Bangalore.

I have tried everything in my knowledge and reach.

I tried reaching out to people in the office which is tough because mostly are from either Andhra or WB or Karnataka, which makes it tough to fit in as they have their own groups and communicate in their native languages as they connect more.

I tried bumble bff as well. But had no success girls are unresponsive and guys use it similar to date mode.

I tried reaching out to my existing friends who live far away too but it became tough to meet them.

I also tried to get relocated to some other city from my office, but my request got rejected.

I am not a very social person, but I do want to make friends and I'm trying too but it's just not happening for me, organically or otherwise.

Any suggestions or reaching out is appreciated

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ZestyQuokka

Stealth3mo

Hey girl, just a cautionary message If you are meeting someone from the platform, do take their real ids. Don't risk blind meetings

DerpyQuokka

Stealth3mo

Very true!

PeppyLlama

Persistent Systems3mo

Thank you so much And yeah this is also a reason I'm scared of getting to know new people. Had some bad experiences with my known and old friends only

DancingBurrito

Wipro3mo

Sometimes it's easier to connect with people who share similar interests. You could try joining hobby groups, classes, or clubs in Bangalore, like language exchange, book clubs, or sports groups. Apps like Meetup or local communities might also have activities that match what you enjoy.

PeppyJellybean

Swiggy3mo

Hey OP, Bengaluru can get lonely sometimes. I know many people who are in same boat as yours . I struggled with it too when I came to Bengaluru first but fortunately I am now in a better place .

Please feel free to DM if you would like to hang out sometime ( PS: no intentions of dating or stuff , I am already committed to someone )

ZestyTaco

Stealth3mo

@takla_uncle muh to band karo uncle

ZippyMochi

Stealth3mo

I'm planning a friendship + dating mixer for Bangalore, will share details on gv soon

Otherwise, going for hobbies is a decent start. Join communities around stuff you like to do.

SwirlyTaco

Stealth3mo

The answer is within you.

First list out things that make you truly happy. Most people don’t even know what makes them happy.

Once you figure this out - chase it. Doesn’t have to be just people and connections with people. Could be activities even within your own home.

Also - the early in career college to work transition is not easy. College “groups” are a dozen people motivated by shooting the breeze together.

At some time you will come to the realisation that at best you need 2/3 people to engage with - leads to more meaningful and satisfying relationships.

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