[THREAD] Flirting 101: The Dating Game

Hello, fellow men reading this. I have tried my best to include all my learning and those of my friends. I’ve written this as informally as possible. Let’s get right into it. Functionality matters as much as features; your personality will matter as much as your looks. Your looks or pictures on the app will act as a hook, something that will stop girls from swiping left on the spot. Looks - Try going to the gym after work or college, and aim for a lean body. This will bring about the most significant change in you over time and will also encourage a good diet and discipline. Everyone likes a fit and athletic person. - Experiment as much as possible with your appearance. Look up different hairstyles according to your face shape and A/B test with your barber. - Consider getting a frame of specs suited to your face shape. For example, a square frame can really bring out your jawline compared to an oval frame. - Wash your face twice a day, use sunscreen, and drink a lot of water. Your face is how everyone judges you, and if you are glowing and smiling, people will be more positive towards you. - Maintain proper personal hygiene. Pictures - Please don’t fall into the trap of generic guitar/dog pictures. You want your pictures to represent who you are as a person. If you are into scuba diving, include a picture of it. If you like books, get a picture from a bookstore. - Experiment with different poses and locations. Iterate and iterate to see what works. - Don’t forget to smile. The last thing you want is for girls to assume you are too serious. - Your pictures need to be a mirror of you. For example, I smile and laugh 24/7, so all my images are goofy.

There is a girl on whom I am having a crush. I had hardly talked with. Now I am thinking to approach her. Give me some ways to approach her. Some background we were from same college passed this year. Now into the corporate(different company and location). So, I thought of taking a chance and if it works then nice.

26M, avg looking introvert, I have worked hard and only focused on my career, so consider 0 pro-dating skills. Shy to open conversation/first move to a girl. but confident that I hold the conversation after building the rapo... looking for genuine advice, that's why I have opened up to the community! tried few dating apps but bad experience mostly fake or i dind freak girls or girls chatting for timepass or scams. but sadly, it looks like arranged marriage might be the default option for me... but I like to have a love marriage

So I've never been in a relationship. During my college days, I was really attached to someone and liked him a lot. We were together for about a year. Not relationship together - but it's like when you're close to someone but not given a relationship tag yet. But after one year, I got to know that he was talking to his ex girlfriend and then he left me giving some reasons. I was devastated. Since then, I used to keep pushing men away. Whenever someone tried to come close to me, I kept on pushing them. And that's how I've never been in a relationship. And now that I wish to be in a relationship, every guy around me is either already married or about to get married. I'm 25 Not sure what needs to be done now.

Started my first relationship with a girl 2 weeks ago. Requesting people to share wisdom on how to proceed. We went on a date today, it was great and we talk daily before sleeping. Consider me a noob.

Sometimes people use certain people for the transient phase to heal themselves and then move one once they are able to rediscover themselves. While this may not be purely intentional at times, this does leave a sense of worthlessness in the other person's soul. And then the person feels "used" and breaks other people's heart and the cycle continues. It can become a vicious loop if things are not clearly communicated.

M29 / Never felt love ever in my entire life I’m a M/29 good looking , well educated and in a good paying job. All through my life I’ve never felt loved or been in a proper relationship. Ive been respected , valued but never really “loved “. Ive got a really good friends circle and good parents who love me but this is different . I’ve liked a couple of girls in the past , spoke to them for a while but never took off until a relationship level. I’m also not a person who would shoot a shot at every girl just to be in a relationship . Currently I feel really desperate to be loved . I love myself but there’s a constant desire to be loved by someone . sometimes even a small act of affection from opposite gender makes me wonder if it’s love . People would know constantly ask me why I’m single even after being a well qualified bachelor which hurts even more. Looking for some genuine advice how to get over this feeling or if this feeling is valid .

Dating apps have failed in the US. They will fail in India too. What next?