Started a Relationship
Started my first relationship with a girl 2 weeks ago. Requesting people to share wisdom on how to proceed. We went on a date today, it was great and we talk daily before sleeping. Consider me a noob.
Get her flowers, regularly. It doesn't have to be anything expensive. A regular rose or gerbera is also fine. Sometimes you can get a little fancy and make it a bouquet. Nothing works it's magic more than a flower does on a girl.
P.S. Free Tip- Tell her that the flower reminded you of her hence you got her one (she'll melt believe me)
Thank me later 🙅
samosa
Stealth
19 days ago
don't do this unless you are sure that you both want it,
if you do this just for the sake of it, she will like you more than you actually do, hence imbalance and hence problems
if you do this at the start of the relationship, make sure you would have to do this till the end of it or else you’ll be tagged as a different person later on 🙂
1) ego is the enemy. Jinko aap pyaar karte ho aap unhe Jeetne dete ho, be it an argument, be it difference of opinion.
2) don’t let any 3 person come in between you two. Don’t bitch about her to your friends, don’t share your relationship insights with them, don’t seek their guidance same goes for her. It’s your own journey. The day any of you will start confiding peace by sharing what’s happening in your relationship to a 3rd person, the end will start from there.
3) don’t take her for granted just because the chase is over.
4) don’t not let her disrespect you at any cost, any moment ever. Fights will happen eventually, she’ll get angry and disrespect you and later on she’ll come and say sorry she didn’t mean it. Buddy she very well did. Anger don’t make you a demon it just heightens what you really think deep inside. You’ll let her disrespect you once and you don’t put an end to it she’ll do it again. Vice versa.
5) there will be other boys who will be earning more than you, better looking than you, more witty, more intelligent than you who will be friends with your girlfriend. Don’t be INSECURE at any cost. She choose you above everyone else, remember that and maintain it. The moment you’ll start getting insecure your behaviour towards her will change, you’ll become bitter. She’ll not like and reciprocate in the same way and then negative spiral will happen.
6) You got the girlfriend, box is tick. Now don’t go around window shopping hoping to attract even more beautiful or successful girl. Focus that energy on your career and yourself.
7) Do not mix your friend circles, keep your friend circle and girlfriend separate. And don’t try to get into her friend circle. You’ll thank me later if things go wrong, I hope it doesn’t.
Read and re - read it untill it sinks in.
Godspeed
Also do not expect any of the above things if you are doing the same for her
Don’t disrespect her
Don’t let her be insecure
It’s not 50-50
It’s 100% of yours and 100% of hers
Bas "we talk daily before sleeping* ko "we talk daily before sleeping together" tak le jaana hein....
BoogieMan
Stealth
19 days ago
Firstly, pleasant wishes for you.
You are asking us to broach on a topic that is too vast and broad. You should narrow it down to the areas where you feel you might need suggestions or a piece of advice on. Also, do describe your girlfriend a bit so that we could identify potential red flags or grey areas and how to navigate around them.
Good luck either way.
Be kind to her, a gentleman, hygienic, organised and most importantly honest. It’s fine if you be transparent in front of her and show her your noob side. Be comfortable and laugh together as much as you both can.
Gossipking
Stealth
19 days ago
Is 3rd floor will be ok to jump ?
Happy for you. Learn from your own experience. Don't ask strangers for advice. All people are different, you have to find what she likes....
If possible read or listen to Jay Shetty's book "8 rules of love".
Need not read the complete book cover to cover.Just read the chapters which talk about being in the relationship phase .
Wish you the very best :))
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Love date gifts talk all are only visible layer. Respect is key. Give her respect she deserves appreciate and don't loose your self respect as well
DaringTrain
Stealth
19 days ago
Just be open to experience and listen to her. Most women tell you what they want.
I was recently reading a question on the same answered by Art of Living Founder, Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar and found them quite practical and relevant
Question - Gurudev, What are some basic things to keep in mind to have a good relationship?
Gurudev Sri Sri - Demand destroys love. Do not ever doubt or question their love for you. Leave some room for conflicts in a relationship. You don't want everyone to be just like you. Never make the other person feel guilty. If one is upset, the other partner should keep quiet and give them that space. It is okay to show you are upset once in a while, but doing it over and over again is taxing for you and the people you love.
People who expect others to cajole and appease them in a relationship bring down the joy and celebration of the moment and make others run away. If you are too possessive, the other person will run away. Trying to control or possess somebody triggers a chain of negative thinking.
Humor is very essential in life, especially in relationships. It can ease the anger and tension. Differences can remain but with humor, they do not cause much harm.
The most important, Relationship goes through a rosy and glorious phase to momentary shakiness. Commitment is what holds it together. Spirituality is what gives the strength to see it through.
Bittergourd
Stealth
19 days ago
Sounds super cute 😻
Share your life related goals , establish emotional bond with her, do gestural things,care and stay loyal.
Loads of wishes for you both !
Mehanti
Stealth
19 days ago
You should start your break in immediate effect!
admiN
Stealth
19 days ago
give her attention but also space. I lost many girls by not giving them enough attention but also not giving them enough space.
admiN
Stealth
19 days ago
only way is to maintain a balance.
If you ever had a big fight and got back together after that , then feel nothing can separate us(😂). Trust me, it happens over and over again and eventually you breakup, NEVER FIGHT.
GettinLaidThisWinter
Student
19 days ago
Don't make a move too early, or you'll be offside.
Let her put in the effort and let her be more into you than you're into her (or at least pretend, even if you're 101% into her).
Don't give her everything at once; take things slowly.
Only one from me: listen more. There will be times when people want to vent out stress. Be that one who listens more.
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