Software Developer

Salesforce Developer

Anytime you catch yourself thinking about your ex, punish yourself by doing 2030 push ups.  Turn your stress to strength.....

Anytime you catch yourself thinking about your ex, punish yourself by doing 20-30 push ups.

Turn your stress to strength.....

Advice for guys....

Advice for guys....- Grapevine

Does hitting the gym after a break-up really help or is it just a fad? How exactly does it help ?

Data engineer

How did you deal with a breakup when you were working?
I feel like I should take a break from everything but I really can't afford to lose my job.
My mind's become hell.

Dealing with breakup

Not really sure if this is the right place to put this up but I wanted to take it out somewhere. I happened to be in a road rage recently. There was this Rapido/Uber biker who was driving rashly. I had seen him but didn’t bother and I was going my way. Suddenly, he overtook me from left and his handle hit on my bike handle. I shouted in panic and he was saying some random shit looking at me - You need to watch out, bro.. something like that.
I was safe and don’t think even the bike had any damage but I lost my calm and wanted to kind of scold him for how he was riding. I followed him driving rashly again for about 500m and caught up and shouted at him saying - bhai shanti se chala or nahi chalana aata hai toh kyun chala rhe ho. And I realised I was about to head on hit an auto wala but braked on time. That auto wala started giving me hand gestures. He was right. I did drive rash.

In the meanwhile, that biker guy went crazy. He got off his bike, took his helmet and signalled at hitting me. The auto wala was standing beside me and he asked what was happening. I said this guy hit my bike and tried to run away. The biker was speaking some rubbish something like - I warned you there also bro.. I went a little numb and didn’t figure what was happening. This guy hit me with his hand on my helmet. I didn’t get hurt but felt the blow. I tried saying something but nothing came out. He hit me again the same way. The auto wala tried to stop him. He kept abusing and then left. I was numb for a few mins. Left from there and reached home safe. 

I am just not able to get these thoughts off my head. The incident keeps flashing. I feel lucky to not have removed my helmet, tried to hit him back because I don’t know what that could have led to. It was clearly my mistake that I lost my calm and followed him in the first place knowing he was a rapido biker. I don’t know why I did that - may be work stress or may be some other trauma. I have been bullied at times in my childhood when I

Road rage, regrets and thoughts!

Product Owner

how you cope up with heart break, also how long it was?
kinda need advice (mine was 7 years).

Hi banglore people

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Too many things broken at the same time!
1. Broke off with a girl i liked 
2. Insane busy schedule 
3. Had some fights with colleague 
4. Had no motivation to hit the gym

Need some positive vibes 🤞🏻

Tiring week chief!

Product Manager

I think the current phase in my life is the lowest I am already PIPed by swiggy and I have broken up with my gf.

Feeling like my life has reached the end. Can't sleep at all specially after the break up. Now I regret for blocking her atleast I should have waited until getting into some company. But now I don't want to go to her due to some personal reasons.

It feel sucks. I am not able to focus on interview preparation. I am not in depression but my mental health is shit right now and gets headache daily.
Please help me shall I consult some doctor for this or is this okay. I don't have much friends that's why I am asking here

I genuinely need help

Sorry for posting here. Can anyone help me

Sorry to hear what you're going through. It may sound cringe but praying to god helped me during my tough times. 
 Talk to your parents and siblings if you're on good terms. If nothing helps talk to a psychologist. 
 I may get flack for saying this, but right now you have a much bigger problem to deal with, i.e. PIP. Start preparing for interviews during weekends and try to finish your office work diligently.  
  
 As for your relationship, no one here knows how serious you were about it. If both of you hadn't considered making it long term, I would say it's better to keep things the way they are right now. I had a pretty bad breakup few years back, but now when I look back, all I can do is laugh about the fact that,  I was head over heals for such a shitty person. 
  
 It's my suggestion and I might be completely wrong and being a d*ck here. You have to decide what's utmost important to you write now. 
  
 Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, then your work, and then someone else. Wish you all the best.

Software Engineer

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Stop comparing yourself with the new guy, take a few days off and go on a vacation. Given that she lived with you, it must be a strong connection which would take quite a long time to wear off. You'll learn to live with it in a few months. All the best and take care

Business Analyst

Hi
In final year right now of my BE
My entire college life 
I am feeling left out
No friends, 
If I need something I ask my classmates
It feels odd
It feels week
Why as a MAN I am feeling such emotions

Even accepting the fact myself that path further ahead will be like this only
But still in mind, somewhere
I believe if I had someone to talk to
Someone to share everything I have
It would have been better
Yet again weak thoughts

How as MALE adults you overcome
Or you don't give a f*ck about it
More like "hey, I don't even have time to feel shit"

Pls throw some light on these thoughts
I am open to every discussion

Is feeling lonely, as a MAN, OK?

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What's the most effective method you've found for dealing with work-related stress?
How did you discover this method?

Hey guys so not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but I really need help from wherever I can get. 

So I was never into pornography until college happened in 2014 and I had a single room all to myself and unlimited high speed internet. 

It started with watching porn on weekends and snowballed into doing it daily over the course of the next 4 years. 

Not only that, as of today I am spending so many of my productive hours (3-4 hours) on sites like Omegle hoping to meet someone with the same fetishes as me.  (ik foolish me) Not only that I do the same on Telegram, Instagram, Snapchat, Kik, Discord etc. I know I'll never get anything worthwhile here but I am deeply addicted to this expectation that I will. 

Today I haven't come out of my room. Since 9am when I woke up, I have only been looking at porn and at these sites doing God knows what!  (It has been 8 hours) ☹️

Not only these, once or twice I had a chance to get intimate with a girl, but I could not keep it up and ejaculated within a minute.

Guys I have ruined my life. Please guys I am begging you, I want to pick myself up and make a man out of myself and live a happy life. I am very very sad and depressed. Please help me if you can.  It has been 10 years, I am 28 now and I can't take it for one more day. 😭😭😭

Need help from everyone to break an addiction that is destroying my life

Like you genuinely go ahead and love someone seriously and they just leave. How did you come out of it???

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